「同性婚を認めたら、日本を捨てる人も出てくる」

以下は、同性婚を認めるか否か、私たちの国の政治の中心にいる人物が、首相官邸で記者団に対し語った心情。

「隣に住んでいたら嫌だ。見るのも嫌だ」

同性婚の合法化について、「（ほかの首相）秘書官も皆、反対だ」

「認めたら、日本を捨てる人も出てくる」とも語った。

と語ったそうだ。後で謝罪、撤回しているので、真意は定かではないが、これは酷い。。

隣に住んでいたら嫌だって、なんだそれ。見るのも嫌って、気持ち悪いとか言いたいのでしょうか？　僕から言わせれば、そんな風に思っている「あなた」のような人を見るのが嫌だと言ってやりたい。考え方が気持ち悪いから。というか、小学生の発想から成長して無いのでしょうか。

これだけ多様化とか言っている中で、政治の中枢の大人の考えがこれは、あまりに残念だ。僕は、同性婚への反対や、LGBTへの差別的発言に憤っているのではない。あたかも自分は普通とか思っているような鈍感な人間が、政治を引っ張る立場にいることが何より残念だ。

僕はある意味で、価値観の広さ、柔軟さは、経験に比例する要因が強いと思っている。単に知ってるか知っていないか。経験したかしてないかそれだけだ。つまり、価値観の狭い人間というのは、それだけ、一定の価値観の中で生きてきた（生きてこれた）ということだ。大人がそれっぽい表情で、僕はこう思う！なんて言うと、なんだかそれっぽく聞こえがちだが、騙されては行けない。そもそも、大した意見など持っている人など多いハズもなく、そもそも、激動の人生、経験値を持った人だって一握り。つまり、せいぜい家族の影響（真似）ぐらいなもので、あとは全て、その人の人生や環境で得た経験値が、その人の価値観のベースとなる。一定の環境でしか生きてこなければ、一つの色合い、モノトーンな価値観になる。一方、貧乏、エリート、芸術、スポーツ、自営業、大企業、なんでも良いが、色々なフィールドを生き抜いて来たなら、その人の価値観は、カラフルであり、多面的だろう。貧乏人の気持ちは、実際に貧乏した人にしか分からない。僕のように、音楽家として生きる人の気持ちは、実際に音楽家として人生を生きた人にしか分からない。

つまり、LGBTの気持ちも、彼ら、彼女らにしか分かるハズもない。

僕にだって分からないし、政治家にだって分からない。ここまでは、一緒なんですよ。

でも、分からないのその先が大切だ。他者を分ろうとする気持ちが大切だ。そして、自分を疑う気持ちが大切だ。仮に分からないくても良いから、せめて邪魔はしないであげて欲しいし、繰り返しになるが、本当にそういった価値観ならば、少なくとも、様々な意見を、まとめて政治をリードする立場は向いていないのでは？と言ってあげたい。

政治家だからといって、そういった信条までも縛られるべきではないし、そこは自由であって良いと思うけれど、でも政治家なんだしね、そんな配慮もできないならば、単純に、その発言だけで、外身だけで嫌われて、真意も分からないまま選挙に落ちるっていう、つまらん結末を産んでしまうのもまた、生産性が無い。

僕は、基本的に政治家や官僚の人って頭いいと思っているのですが、人間の価値と言う意味では、頭の良さも色々な良さがある訳だが、お勉強的な頭の良さ、頭の回転的な意味での頭の良さに加えて、人間的な成熟度、優れた感性とかを持ち合わせた人が、政治を取りまとめるべきと僕は考えるので、そういった意味では、今回の発言をした人が、その3つ目が足りないのかなと思ってしまう。

そうでないと言うのなら、是非、政治の世界で、今回のマイナスを挽回して欲しいところだ。

ちなみに、同性婚って皆さんどう思いますか？　同性婚カップルがお隣さんだったら、見るのも嫌ですか？　この国出ていきますか？

僕の意見はと言えば、そもそも何で反対なのか理解できないという位置にいます。動物だって、両生類とかいますしね？　女性より綺麗な顔した女みたいなイケメンとかね、僕より腕力のある女性とか、男より年収が高い女性とか、女より料理が得意な男とか、色々いますよね？　そもそも、自分がLGBTでないとして、LGBTのことに反対する理由がないですよ。ある意味、関係ない案件ですしね。でも、彼らは何かしらで、同性婚が認められた方が便が良いから、それを認めてくれと訴えている訳ですよね。

困っている人がいる。→ 　なるだけ助ける

これ、完全に行政の仕事ですよね。一般人の意見でどーのこーのではない。僕の中では、感情論出なく、ただの事務作業だ。

それくらい、なぜ反対者がいるのが全く分からない。認めるとか認めないとか言うけれど、誰もあんたに認められたいとか思ってないぞと言ってやりたいし、そもそもあなたを気にしてすらいない。だからこそ、他者のことなど、どうでもいい。好きにすればいい。自分には関係ないんだし。それくらいの割り切り方で、丁度よくないか？と思う今日この頃。常識なんて、あってないようなもんだ。

類は友を呼ぶけれど

なんだか急に寒いですが、皆さんお元気でしょうか？　三橋は、12月にあったとっても重たい締め切りが無事に終わり、若干の燃え尽き気味でございます。英語の試験も一旦落ち着いたので、そこも燃え尽き気味です。

そんなこんなで、忙しかったのが、急に通常のモードに戻り、暇で何していいか分からないので、気分を整えるべく、ブログを書くことにしました。

先日、知人と話していたら、僕が普段仲良くしている友達の系統がユニークすぎて面白いと言われました。なんでそういった人達とばかり付き合うのかという旨のことも言われた。ネットの記事を見ていると、似たようなトピックの記事を見つけた。この記事はいわゆる僕の嫌いなビニネス向けの記事だったければ、いわゆる、お金持ち？とか、いい感じ？の人になりたければ、すでにお金持ちだったりいい感じの人と付き合うようにした方がいいよという考え方だ。なぜなら、類は友を呼ぶという諺の通り、イケてる人の周りにはイケてる人が集まり、イケて無い人の周りにはそういった人が集まるからと。

すごくもっともだが、僕は昔からこの手の考え方が嫌いだ。なんだか、小学生とか中学生とかの、あのグループに入れば安泰、あのグループだといじめられるだの、ゴミくらい小さいスケールのしょうもない話だなと思うからだ。誰と付き合うのか？答えは簡単だ。社会的にイケてる人でもなく、あえてイケてない人を選ぶでもなく、"一緒にいて楽しい人"を選べば良いだけだ。

そして、僕にとって、"一緒にいて楽しい"人とは、優しい人、柔軟な人、悪意の無い人など、そんな感情の周辺に生息している人だ。つまり、人間的に、素敵か素敵でないかだけ。社会的地位は高くても低くても勿論関係ない。金持ちでも話がつまらなければその人は僕にとって「会っててつまらない人、つまらない人間」だし、同じく金持ちでも、優しさ、人間的な素晴らしさがあれば、その人とは親友になれるのかもしれない。

アドラー哲学の本でも確か、人間が受けるストレスのほとんどは人間関係から来ると言っていたような。つまり、普段付き合う人間のキャラクターは本当に自分の人間性に影響を与えるし、おそらくそのまんま幸福度に直結することだと思うので、そう言った自身の心の心地よさ、優しさや思いやりに包まれたいと思って進んできた結果、少なくとも、僕のプラベートの人間関係は、優しい人達で、面白い人達で構成されており、本当にありがたいと感じる。

どんな人と過ごしていたいのかは、どんな人生を送りたいのか、ということとも言えそうだ。僕にとっては、どちらかと言えば、社会的な、物質的な豊かさよりは、感情的な、心の豊かさの方が、価値があるということなんだろうと、今のところそう思っている。

Do you believe that each soul has each age?

For my practice of English examinations, I will write my opinion in my original style like my diary in English for a change because I have been fed up with writing essay in examination style.

Title   Do you believe that each soul has each age?

I believe that most people in the world feel a lot of stress on our everyday lives. In my case, I also feel stress a lot only aside from the time that I am sleeping. I often think what causes this fuckin’ world being filled with negative feelings and poor sense of value toward lives. People who never understand real kindness easily hurt other people who never hurt people around them. I conclude this is because it depends on ages of our souls.

A few years ago, when I was in my middle thirties, it was the most difficult time in my lifetime. Not to mention, the main reason was not music and even money but the relationship between humans. In this time, I had to face “what humans are”. For example, why this person only think about himself? Why this person say to me such a negative opinion? Why this person cannot celebrate lover’s happiness? In most cases, people insist their opinion for themselves in other words, for their benefits and try to steel other people’s kindness and their positive power by using words that as if they are right and mature to use the words. Even problems between lovers and between families, many people try to use silly solutions which are ended up often related to money or poor pride which I want to call them “poor souls”.

As far as I feel, ages of souls are already set when we were born. Even five years old child physically may be more than forty years old mentally. This innate ability will never increase dramatically even though we spend whole lives. Some people may stay around 10 years old through their lives, some people may initially reach forty years old and try to develop more. Unfortunately, people in lower ages never understand people in higher ages. In this case, one of serious problems is that people in lower ages tend to think as if they can understand what people in higher ages want to say. For example, let’s talk about world’s beloved word “love”. I guess most people in the world have used this word for lovers and families. However, not many adults can understand love certainly. In fact, there many people who believe they can understand the meaning of love only by having children and their love toward their children are somehow the perfect or the strongest. However, from my perspective, understandings love is not so easy and at least, they have to love themselves before giving love to others but in fact, most adults cannot manage even themselves.

I believe, people having higher ages at least understand that it is by no means easy for us to understand others including love. That’s why, they are careful about words they use toward others and try to avoid using negative and aggressive words for other people. On the other hand, lower ages people easily misunderstand who they are. Some lower people simply believe that having family is adult and getting high salary is mature and so on because they are thoughtless and immature in other simple words, stupid. In addition to this, one more serious problem is that they rarely develop their ages because of their lower ages who are not good at study like school grads which mean they never disappear from this world like insects. This is the reason why the world has been filled with a huge stress and why a lot of people are depressed. Furthermore, this basic system can apply for other problematic issues like wars. I want you to think. "Can people start wars if they know the real meanings of love or kindness".  Maybe most dictators and politicians have physically mature and have their families saying they love their families and countries. I want you to look at the real. If people can understand their actual ages of souls, this world should be more beautiful filing with people’s kindness, tender expression of words and beautiful music as well.

In conclusion, this is not the opinion in order to persuade you to change your behavior but the fact. I do not think that I can change the world. However, I can adjust “my world” by avoiding relationship with people having different souls. At the moment, this is the most effective method for me in order to spend peaceful lifetime and avoid my serious depression.   

Television does not give people an accurate view

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: Do you agree or disagree?

Television does not give people an accurate view of human nature.

I believe TV still has strong power for citizens in Japan positively and negatively. Some people claim that TV does not give people an accurate view of human nature. In my case, I also agree with this statement for the following two reasons.

To begin with, TV is no more than the tool for people who are in majority because TV companies always have to care about viewing rates and have to get much money from their sponsors. As a result, they have strong biased opinions sometimes which majority of people are easily satisfied with. For example, recently, many news about love affairs of Japanese celebrities have broadcasted by TV a lot. Then, there were a huge amount of negative comments from viewers to those celebrities although no one knew them directly. As far as I am concerned, no one can judge the decision of other people because no one can take responsibility of them. In addition to that, each person should have each sense of value for their lives as humans having the intellect. The reason why there were a lot of negative opinions was that most viewers of TV were old people who have traditional sense of value and house wives who do not want their partners to have love affairs because those house wives might be forced to get divorced and they might lose their money sources from their husbands. Because they are majority of TV viewers, TV must have had bias to obtain high rates.

Secondly, TV are sometimes used in order to control our opinions. For instance, because of COVID19, we have been wearing masks as usual and TV companies have been broadcasting the sight to the world. A lot of people in foreign countries had to have thought that Japanese people were serious and well organized. However, one Japanese researcher claimed that it was wrong. Actually, it was no more than the fact that Japanese people cared about people around them too much. Their behavior was not to prevent the infection but they just wanted to avoid negative image caused by not wearing masks from other people. They were not serious but timid or just following the public atmosphere blindly. It means TV companies were succeeded in controlling the image or human nature of Japanese people for foreign people.  

In conclusion, I believe that TV has strong bias following the majority of their viewers in order to getting high viewing rates and TV can control our opinions if they want to do it. For these reasons, I agree with this statement.

Grades encourage students to learn?

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: Grades encourage students to learn. Agree or disagree?

I know that people have been struggling tough competition in their lives caused by our competitive society for a long time. Then, some people think this situation has negative effect on our motivation especially for children.  In fact, in Japan, there is argument about whether grading students at school is suitable or not. In my opinion, I agree with this statement for the following two reasons.

To begin with, we can have our actual targets by getting grades from proper people like school teachers. For example, I have been to studying English specifically, TOEFL for a long time. I believe that TOEFL is tough examination for normal Japanese students but it can calculate our certain levels of English instead. Although increasing score is by no means easy for us but we can judge which part of our ability is our weakness. Then, we can try next stage to reach our goal by following our grades that we received. Thus, grading can encourage us and it can develop our abilities as well.

Secondly, by getting proper grades, we can judge whether our future job is suitable for us or not. For instance, when I was an elementary student, we had a class of physical education. In this class, we tried many sports such as baseball and basketball. In my case, unfortunately, I was terrible at most sports and got the worst grade. I was really depressed but there was one positive thing that I decided to give up those sports and pursue career in music instead. After the decision, I had devoted myself to music and made efforts a lot. As a result, I could become a professional music composer. Therefore, grading gives us a good opportunity to choose our suitable future occupations and it can encourage us as well.

To sum up, we can have actual targets to increase our skill and we can judge our suitable occupation by getting grades. For these two reasons, I agree with this statement that grades encourage students to learn.   

What would you choose?

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: If you could study a subject that you never had the opportunity to study, what would you choose?

Since I am a professional composer, I have been devoted myself to music which I have loved so much for more than thirty years. However, if I could choose a subject which I have never studied, I would choose psychiatric for the following two reasons.

To begin with, I really want to know myself and specifically, my sensitive personality. For instance, when I was an elementary student, my teachers often said to me and my parent that this boy was a very sensitive. Actually, I was really shy and often cried easily at that time. Even now, I often care about what other people around me say to me too much and it sometimes affects my mental health seriously and badly. No matter what I did, I sometimes couldn't escape from this negative feeling. On the other hand, this sensitive mind may help my occupation as a musician because I love to write beautiful melodies. Anyway, I really want to know the inner system of my personality because if I can understand myself well, I will manage the sensitive mind positively. As a result, the quality of my life will become better.

Second, I want to study about the conflicts between people. For example, nowadays, we often see the news about a war between Ukraine and Russia every day on TV. In spite of a huge disagreement from people around the world, Russia has been continuing their invasion to Ukraine. I believe that by studying psychiatric, I can understand what happens in people's mind in this case because all actions are related to their state of mind. I hope that by searching for the reason for conflicts or war, our world becomes more peaceful.

To sum up, I am really interested in my sensitive personality and the reason why people have many conflicts each other including wars, I would study psychiatric if I could choose.              

try new things and take risks

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: Some people like to do only what they already do well. Other people prefer to try new things and take risks. Which do you prefer?

I believe that no one want to try new things by make efforts and take risks if we can spend our happy lives without them because those are not fun. Some people think they want to avoid trying new things and take risks as much as they can. However, I prefer trying new things and taking risks for the following two reasons.

To begin with, I believe, there are many skills which we can develop only by trying new things or upper levels. For example, in case of TOEFL examination, a lot of Japanese students have to struggle with this because its level is really high for normal Japanese. When I took it for the first time, I couldn't answer any questions and couldn't understand even what questions said. However, by memorizing unfamiliar words repeatedly and reading passages which are higher level, I could develop my English skill and I could understand them mostly as long as I had much time to read. Even though the workload was literally tough, I would never have reached this level but for this process. Thus, trying new things are imperative choice to get valuable skills which can increase the quality of our lives.

Secondly, by taking risks, we can increase our assets. According to a research, most Japanese people believe that increasing our assets by stock trading is dangerous because it has a lot of risks and they likes saving money on their bank accounts instead. However, I believe it is wrong because stock trading is one of useful ways to increase our money by dealing with proper ways such as long-term stock trading. In fact, assets of people in America have become more than double by any asset management including stock trading except for just putting money on their bank account. In contrast, assets of Japanese people have become only 1.4 times. Moreover, the amount of money which American people have on their bank accounts is about only ten percent of their total although people in Japan save more than fifty percent of their total money on banks. Thus, I believe taking risks is necessary for us to support our happy lives and it can be managed by proper ways. The worst thing is no action.

In conclusion, for these reasons, traying new things and taking risks are the better choices in order to increase the quality of our lives and support happy lives.

Employees should be allowed to work any hours

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: As long as they meet deadlines and attend meetings, company employees should be allowed to work any hours they choose.  

Agree or disagree?

I know there are some smart people whose skill are more sophisticated than that of other people and they also can finish their tasks quicker than other employees. Therefore, I partly understand that they should be allowed to work any hours they choose. However, I disagree with this statement for the following two reasons.

To begin with, I believe that the peer group pressure is imperative for most people. Forcing standard employees to do the same everyday routines has a strong effect in order to keep their motivation and keep the companies safer and more stable. In fact, I know an American professor who claim this method. In his view, most people are really normal and they cannot manage themselves and cannot keep their high motivation although only a few special people can do them. If companies give them right to decide their working time, they may be lazy easily. Thus, from the point of view of companies’ stability, companies should force their employees to do the same action. By doing that, totally, companies can keep their better environment to work and guarantee stable outcome of them.

Secondly, by paying additional money, companies can evaluate high skilled workers. Some advanced people may think that it is unfair because they have to stay their offices longer in spite of already finishing their tasks by using advanced skills and sometimes, they may have to deal with additional works which shouldn’t be assigned to them. In this way, I believe companies should pay more money to them or they should be promoted higher positions on which they can get much basic salary. As far as I’m concerned, it is by no means difficult for us to judge whether which employees are good or not. Actually, since I have been running my own company, I know that is easy. Therefore, I can conclude that companies should force their all employees to follow the same routine and rules but at the same time, should evaluate sophisticated workers properly by paying higher salary.

In conclusion, for these reasons, keeping better environment of companies, and being able to evaluate skilled workers by paying money more, I disagree with this statement.  

What are some other reasons that people work?

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Q: People work because they need money to live. What are some other reasons that people work?

I believe there are some reasons why people work and earn money aside from working to live. I know some people simply want to get money to become rich people. In my case, I believe that I work for the following two reasons.

Firstly, I can improve my technics as a professional music composer. After graduation from music university, I started pursuing my professional career in music. Although it was true that I had to work and earn money to live, it was also true that those works gave me a lot of experiences which were imperative for me to improve technics for becoming a mature professional composer. If there were not a lot of offers from customers with the budged for the composition, I have never reached my current level of skills for the composition. Thus, working has another important meaning for me.

Secondly, working and earning money aside from working to live can increase the quality of my life. For example, if I have spare money, I often go popular restaurants with my friends even though they are a bit expensive because I like their atmosphere in their restaurants which are not usual and I can feel a special day. At those restaurants, I can enjoy special dinners with unique ingredients and many beautiful decorations, sometimes formal clothes and the sight of cherry blossom from inside of the restaurant. These can really increase the quality of my life. In addition, if I have spare money from working, I can increase the quality of lives of other people by donation. I understand that there are a lot of people who have been suffering from starving on the earth. By donating money from my spare money, I can help people and increase their happiness, at the same time, it also makes me happy mentally. This is because the reason why I work.

To sum up, for these two reasons, being able to increase my technics as a professional composer, and for better quality of my life and other people’s lives, working has significant meanings for me aside from working to just live.

Why do you think some people are attracted to da

(For my practice for English examination and this might be not my honest opinion.)

Why do you think some people are attracted to dangerous sports or other activities?

I have often seen people who devoted themselves to dangerous sports or activities in this year through watching Olympic on TV. Some athletes performed high jumps with complicated technics. Although I hate to do dangerous things because I am timid and I don’t want to get injured. However, I can understand that there are some people who like dangerous sports and activities for the following two reasons.

Firstly, I believe that they want to overcome themselves physically and mentally through dangerous sports and activities. Actually, those people have to be afraid of many things during their performances such as breaking bones and there is even possibility to die depending on the situation. In general, although ordinary people like me tend to avoid such risks, there are some people who want to take risks positively, and enjoy overcoming them. Then, after completing their own mission, they can feel satisfied and proceed their next stages which are more difficult to overcome. As a result, we can say that they just enjoy the process and the routine. This is one reason why they want to take risks in spite of dangerous things.

Secondly, in my opinion, the chemical substance like adrenalin may affect their action. Some researchers claim that the adrenalin is released when we are in dangerous situation such as fighting against foes in a war and also it can motivate us. In fact, all people have this substance in our bodies as our innate abilities because animals need to fight against other animals in order to defend ourselves and our family. Of course, humans are no exception. The more people are afraid of something, the more the adrenalin will be released. This is the method why some people devote themselves to those dangerous sports and activities.

To sum up, for the following those reasons, overcoming difficulties is their satisfaction, and the chemical substance such as adrenalin affects their behavior, I understand that some people devote themselves to dangerous sports and activities.