2014 started in the way I wasn't expecting.
I thought I would just enjoy being with him, and I would stop crying.

When he came back from Christchurch, he had a different look on him. He seemed happy to see me, he even gave me a kiss to greet me.

On the last night before he left for Christchurch, he kissed me a few times when we were drinking. It was a nice feeling.


The night before I was gonna go back to Auckland, he told me we should stop doing things we have been doing. I cried a little and he gave me a tight hug. It was sad but I felt nice and I was sad in the morning and cried a little again but I thought everything was going to be okay.

When we went on the camp, I realized nothing was going to be okay. He refused to hug me and it just made me so sad. I cried most of the night and I couldn't sleep so much. I cried most of the day and I wasn't sure what I should do.
When he left Auckland, I just couldn't stop crying. I cried so much that I was so tired. He told me he cried the whole way home.

After a couple weeks from that night was really really hard. I cried every night and one morning I woke up crying. I felt really lonely and I was really homesick. I wasn't sure what to do next and I just wanted to give up on everything and leave here. or even end my life.

That was really stupid of me to think but I just couldn't imagine not seeing him, but at the same time I just couldn't imagine the feeling I would feel being with him without all the affection.


On my birthday, he took me out. We spent a nice day and it was really fun. I got sad again when he was leaving and I had to call him and asked him to come back as I couldn't bare the loneliness. I couldn't make a step to go up the stairs and I just couldn't pulling myself together.

He stayed for me and he let me cry. He fell asleep but I felt less lonely. Having him next to me, realizing that if I need him he will always here for me, made me fell relieved.

After that I visited him again over the weekend and again I cried a few times. I made him really angry on the first night and I just realized that I should share my feeling instead of hiding it, and we will work it out together. I don't have to pretend to be strong. I can count on him.

It's just an unfortunate thing. We do both love each other, but not a great timing.


Tomorrow, I will start a new path. I am going to work full time at a company and I will learn a lot about counseling. I met Nakagawa sensei and other advisors and it seems like if I try hard, I will be able to organize ryugaku program in NZ for the school. It will be really cool and everything I have done made who I am now and everyone loves me so really, I should start focusing more on my career and gain more experience, and be happy.

This year is going to be cool. I am more confident now. Finally, I am over my past and I am going to move forward. I will laugh as much as I can, and be happy.


I am such a great person, Manami :) I know I can do it.
Believe in myself!

Seriously, I have been crying every night.
Since I left Japan, since I left Simon, I am crying every night.

I think I should just stop seeing him. If I stop going up, I will stop seeing him. It's not so hard.

Have him out from my life.



It's really unfortunate because I really love him as a friend too. But he's never been here with me when I am crying, he is not here for me.

He's always wanted me to move on. I should have figured it out last year. So I didn't have to go through everything I did. I could have been happier somewhere else.


These days, I have moments when I want to kill myself. That is not good.
After all I haven't changed a bit since I was struggling in my marriage, and I feel really lonely here.

I don't know what to do anymore.

I just wish someone would find me and love me and I can feel safe and sound.



I can be on my own. I don't need him in my life.
If I look back 2013, it took strange turns.

At the end of 2012, I became his girlfriend. Sometimes, I really wish that I could go back that time. Start everything all over again.
I still remember when he saw me at the living room when he got back from Japan, and how we talked at night on the couch and how I went back to him and we officially decided to be in a relationship. I was so happy and there was anything else I wished for. Every time he mentioned me as a girlfriend, I felt happy inside and I felt like living in a dream.

If I could do everything all over again, I really want to do it.


But the reality is, that it didn't work out and we lost a lot.


In 2014, I will accept that and move on. I am really scared if I could ever love someone again, and feel happy again.


I have loved him for the past few years and that changed my life completely. Because him, I lost a lot of things and because of him, I gained a lot of things.


One thing for sure is that no one can live in a past. No matter how hard we wish for, we cannot go back to our past and relive it again.

That's why, we have to live everyday as if it is our last.

We have to be nice to people who we love and treasure the time we can spend with them.

I miss what I had and I miss all those days of happiness, but I cannot go back there.

We were not meant to be, Manami, I have to accept that.



I will be loved again, with someone who I love.

I can feel the love that I did on that day.

Even if it will be not with him.

小さい頃から、引っ越しばかりで
やっと慣れて大切な友達が出来ても
さよならしなくちゃいけなくて
中3になる春
福岡から山口まで1時間以上泣き続けて
どうしようもすることの出来ない自分に無力を感じた
早く大人になって
自分で住む場所を選びたいって
そしたら絶対もう引っ越さないって
大学を卒業して
色々あって日本を離れて
オーストラリアを転々とし
そして今ニュージーにいる

もう引っ越さないって決めたのに
大切な人達と離れたくないって決めたのに
人生って皮肉なものだなって思う

日本を離れてから何度もホームシックになって
でもやっと気付いたのが
大切な人達は世界中のどこにいても大切な存在だし
そんな人が世界中の色んなところにいるって幸せなことで

それだけで強くなれる

中3の春
学校初日の前の日鏡の前で何度も自己紹介の練習をして
緊張と期待をかかえて学校に登校したのに
自己紹介は行われず
誰とも話さず家に帰ってきた

何度も福岡に帰りたいって思ったけど
でもどんなに戻りたくても過去には戻れなくて


色んな土地で色んな人と出逢って
色んな考えに触れて色んな価値観を知って

そんな人生を歩めていることに感謝

そして、どんな所でも生きる力を育んでくれた
家族や友達、今まで出逢った嫌な人も全て含めて感謝

そばにいないからって、
寂しくなるけど
でも大丈夫。

まなみにはたくさんの大切な存在がいて
そんな人達に出逢えたことに感謝。
小さい頃から、引っ越しばかりで
やっと慣れて大切な友達が出来ても
さよならしなくちゃいけなくて
中3になる春
福岡から山口まで1時間以上泣き続けて
どうしようもすることの出来ない自分に無力を感じた
早く大人になって
自分で住む場所を選びたいって
そしたら絶対もう引っ越さないって
大学を卒業して
色々あって日本を離れて
オーストラリアを転々とし
そして今ニュージーにいる

もう引っ越さないって決めたのに
大切な人達と離れたくないって決めたのに
人生って皮肉なものだなって思う

日本を離れてから何度もホームシックになって
でもやっと気付いたのが
大切な人達は世界中のどこにいても大切な存在だし
そんな人が世界中の色んなところにいるって幸せなことで

それだけで強くなれる

中3の春
学校初日の前の日鏡の前で何度も自己紹介の練習をして
緊張と期待をかかえて学校に登校したのに
自己紹介は行われず
誰とも話さず家に帰ってきた

何度も福岡に帰りたいって思ったけど
でもどんなに戻りたくても過去には戻れなくて


色んな土地で色んな人と出逢って
色んな考えに触れて色んな価値観を知って

そんな人生を歩めていることに感謝

そして、どんな所でも生きる力を育んでくれた
家族や友達、今まで出逢った嫌な人も全て含めて感謝

そばにいないからって、
寂しくなるけど
でも大丈夫。

まなみにはたくさんの大切な存在がいて
そんな人達に出逢えたことに感謝。
I really wish I could be with you.

I have tried so hard, hoping that you might think you need me in your life and hoping that we could be together.

If I could go back to last year, I will try harder.

I will try harder so things didn't turn out the way it did.


I love you so much and I just wish that I can wake up next to you for rest of my life.


This morning, I woke up thinking that maybe it was better that I have never met you.

My life would have been completely different if I hadn't met you.

I was wondering if I had still been married, living in America and still with him.


If I hadn't met him, I didn't have to cry every night for the past year.

I didn't know what it is like to love someone.

He made me the happiest and he made me the saddest.



I don't really know what is the best for me anymore.


I can do whatever I want to do.
I can choose my path on my own.
I don't have to ask anyone for the permission, it's my life and I can do anything.


I am not sure if it's the same with Simon. He got himself into a lot of problems.
He has to help his mum.
He has to make his business successful.
He has to pay the mortgage.

But I think it's his "choice" weather he wants to have a future with me or not.
And he chose not to be with me.

I have to start facing the reality.
I have to stop tricking myself that someday things might change and we might end up together.


One part of me is really excited about this new opportunity, but I kind of wish that it was in Australia or somewhere else. I don't know how long I can be in New Zealand.


If I am here, I get weaker. I see him too often and I don't know what happens with us.

I should just enjoy spending time with him but at the same time, I have to close my heart to him and open my heart for someone else.

大丈夫。It's not like I can find the love of my life if I try to look for him hard, he appears in my life when the time is right.

Until then, just be who I am and stay happy.

:)

Life is simple.

I love him and he loves me but we cannot be together forever.

He has so many things he has to do and

I need to do so many things for myself.


I don't have to try to move on,

I don't have to try to find someone else,

I don't have to feel scared or worried about the future,

I just have to be happy with the life I have at the moment.



Don't let people put you down.

Don't let people judge you.

I am who I am and I am proud of myself.

I know what me and Simon have are strange, and I don't expect anyone to understand it.

But we are happy and that's what all matters.


I miss him so much, and I wish I could be with him.

I love him so much and of course if possible, I want to be with him for the rest of my life.


But with his situation right now, that is not possible.

But what he can do is to be there for me and hang out as best friends.

He makes me happy and that's all I need right now.


Last couple weekends I was with him. I could feel his love and passion.

I was really really happy and even if that was the last time I could have been with him,
That is okay.


When I went back to see him in Japan last year, in the airplane on the way back to Australia, I felt that he gave me a life time happiness and even if I can never have that again, I can always be happy with the memories we shared together.


After I was back in Australia, everything seemed harder and lonelier and I missed him so much that I forgot how he made me happy.

Now, every time we get together, I can just enjoy the time we share and just be happy. Even if that could be the last time, it doesn't matter because after all, the most important thing is that he made me happy, happier than anyone ever made me.


Take your time, Manami.
Comparing with other people makes you weaker.

Don't lose the ability to believe in myself.


How many times did we have last sex?

How many nights did I feel sad because I thought that was the last time we cuddle together?


If we are meant to be, we just meet again and again and do all the things we used to do or we do now in the future again.



Cherish who you are, Manami.
Stop analyzing everything and making things complicated.

Life is simple. Just enjoy it.


I love you so much, Simon.


The past two weekends, it has been really nice.
I hadn't seen him for a while and he seems to be really happy to spend time with me.
I could see his passion for me again and it has been really nice cuddling in the cold morning together.
Lay down on the couch together, watch TV and cook dinner together, have morning coffee and breakfast, and just hang out.
That is what we used to do together, and that's the life I thought I moved on from.

I was sooooo happy the last night we spent together and he could even see me smiling when it's dark in the bed room. He kept me warm and it was just.... like I was in a heaven.

I decided to live everyday, stop thinking of the future or the past and just enjoy what it is right now.

After all, there is nothing I can do, and I just have to be happy for what I have and keep smiling.

If I force myself to do something I don't want to, then I will kill myself.

Stay Happy, Manami,

I am okay.

だいじょうぶ。
I used to care about a tiny little thing.

But now, I don't really care about anything.


I just started to learn to accept the fact as it is and learn to move on.

I am too tired of waiting, wishing, hoping, trying....


No matter how hard I try, there is no way to go back to the past.

No matter how much I miss it, there is no way to have things back.



Then why do I cry every night wishing I were with him.


There's no point of wishing, because there are things that you can make it happen, and there are things you cannot. And for the things that I cannot change, I just have to accept it.


It's not all my fault Manami, he doesn't make whatsoever to be with him.

He doesn't care either.


He is probably trying to push me away.


I have to save money so I should start focusing on myself and stop trying to spend every weekends with him.

I just have to accept it and move on.


He is my friend,
no less than that and no more than that.


I am pretty. I am nice. I am caring. I am fit. I am smart.
I make people happy. I make people laugh.
I am such an amazing person Manami and someday, some one out there will find me and will love me for who I am.
I have lots to offer, and I should be with someone who offers me the same and who feels the same.

Who loves me and who puts me first.
It doesn't matter,

he will think I am the best thing happened to him and he will be happy with me.



Stay positive Manami.
Keep smiling Manami.

I will find a love of my life.
I just haven't met yet.