我が家は双子で違う進路を選んだので、ちょっと特殊なのかもだし、もしかしたら双子ママには難しい局面だったのかもしれないです。
忘れないうちに書いておきます。
幼い頃は仲が良いを通り越して、一心同体だった我が家の双子。
今はほとんど話しません。仲が悪いわけじゃなくたぶん話すことがないんだと思います。
大学受験をしないと固く誓って、中学入試で附属にギリギリで入学した長男。
大学受験をしたいと主張して、中学入試で進学校に入学した次男。
次男が部活を引退した頃から、決定的に生活が違ってきました。
次男は塾に足繁く通い、勉強をする毎日。
長男は部活かバイトをやり、勉強は定期試験前だけ集中的に。
次男だけ旅行に行かずにお留守番したり。
でも世間が思うほど、本人たちは気にしてなかったですよ。
たとえば、長男は大学受験の問題とか全く解けないけど、それを次男はバカにするんじゃなくて「大学受験の勉強してなかったら当たり前だよ」と言ってた。
次男がなかなか受からないのも、長男はバカにすることなく、自分だったらもっと受からなかったろうから、「自分の中学のときの選択は正しかった」と言ってた。
つまりそれぞれの選択というものを彼らなりに受け入れているのです。
羨んだり蔑んだりせず。
いいことだと思ってます。
私もあまり気にせず、2人に接しました。
うまくできたと思います。
My twin sons chose different ways when they entered junior high school.
It might have been rare and it was more difficult for a twins’ mother than to have them choose the same way.
I looked back their stories.
They were the best friends and nearly the same person when they were elementary school students.
They don’t talk to each other now.
I would say that they don’t have common topics.
My first son entered junior high school attached to the university in order to avoid trying entry exams to university.
My second son entered junior high school for entering good university to challenge exams to get into the university.
Their lifestyle has been different since my second son graduated from his brassband club.
My second son went to the cram school and studied everyday.
My first son went to his Japanese archery club and his part time job and studied only before the regular exams.
My second son left home alone to study during out family trip
But they didn’t care their special situation less than generally speaking.
For example, my second son said that it was natural for my first son not to solve problems in entry exams to universities because he didn’t prepare for it.
On the other side, my first son didn’t say anything about that my second son didn’t pass the exams and thought that his choice when entering junior high school was good because he wouldn’t pass the exams more than my second son.
That is they accepted each other’s choice and respected it.
They neither envied nor despised.
It was very good.
I also communicated with them without nervousness.
I did a good job as well.
