先日、兄家族が遊びにきてくれました。
私は出勤していたので夕食から参加。
中華料理を予約しましたが、お腹いっぱい美味しかったです。
最近、毎年、兄が私たちに会いにきてくれます。
母も一緒に住んでるからでしょうけれど、義姉の母と同居を始めたことも大きいでしょうか。
義姉の母は認知症になっていて、今回発症後初めて会いましたが、とても明るいからいいけど、すぐに忘れちゃうので何度も同じこと言い、同じことを聞いちゃう。
兄も義姉も優しいので、丁寧に対応しているけど、とても私にはできそうにないなと思いました。
長男も同じように感じたらしく、「おばあちゃん(私の母や夫の母)がああなったら怒っちゃうかも」と言ってました。
三男は優しい性格なので面倒を見ていました。
普段からそういう子ですね。
義姉のお母さんもとてもうれしそうに夕食を食べ、「おいしく食べた。よかった。」と何度も言ってたので、こちらもうれしくなりました。
義姉が、「明るいことしか言わないので助かってる」と言ってましたが、確かに人によってはこんないいことばかり言わずに恨みつらみだったりするんだろうなと思ったりしました。
兄はもともと私にも優しい兄なんですが、義姉の母にもとても優しくて、面倒を見ながら「自分がこうなったら誰か見てくれるのかなと心配にはなるね」と言ってました。
兄夫婦には子供がいないのですよね。
なので心配だろうと思います。
子供がいても見てもらえるかどうかわからないからね。
うちでできることがあればしなくてはというところです。
ところで兄や義姉も仕事で新しい任務を受けたそうで、楽しみです。
年が離れた兄ですが、まだまだ活躍してくれてうれしいです。
My brother and his family came to our house the other day.
I joined from dinner because I went out for work.
I had reserved a Chinese restaurant I had never visited and it served much delicious food.
These years my brother visited us every year.
I lived with my mother and that is why he visits but the trigger might have been for him to live with his mother-in-law several years ago.
His mother-in-law has dementia and it was the first time my family met her since she had it.
She is very positive but she forgets soon and she says the same things again and again and asks the same things again and again.
He and his wife are originally kind enough to politely respond to her again and again but I won't be able to do the same things.
My first son thought the same as me and told me that he might get angry if his grandmothers had dementia.
My youngest son took care of her.
He is such a type of person.
She ate dinner happily and told us that she was very happy to eat until full.
Her behavior pleased us as well.
My sister-in-law told us that her mother returned to her childhood but she said only positive things, which supported her and my brother.
I agreed with her because I am afraid there are many people who have dementia and always say only negative things.
My brother who has been always kind to me is kind to his mother-in-law as well but he said that he sometimes worries about who would take care of himself if he had dementia.
His couple doesn't have any children and that makes him worried, I think.
Even if having children, nobody doesn't feel safe.
Our family will have to do some support if any.
By the way my brother and sister-in-law both received new roles this year and I look forward to them.
I am glad that my brother keeps active even though he is more than 10 years older than I am.