Example:
The daughter is 14 years old. When she was 10 years old, there was a period when she did not go to school for about two months. She is currently attending junior high school and doing well. However, her mother received a call from the cram school she attends, saying that she had flooded the toilet several times in an unoccupied restroom, and although they had warned her each time, she had not stopped it. She was consulted about what to do about her behavioral problems.
Commentary:
It has been four years since that daughter started going back to school. Many people think that during this period her daughter was able to attend school as a normal child. With that in mind, we can't understand that daughter's problematic behavior. On the contrary, if we consider that that daughter had endured the hardships of going to school while attending school, it would be possible to explain why she was exhibiting such problematic behavior.
It's next to impossible to find a child acting good like this. A person who can recognize when a child is acting good must be able to:
This is the knowledge that allows you to judge that a child is acting as a good child by observing the progress of the child's school life, and by looking at the appearance of the child in front of one's eyes, and from the appearance of the child causing problem behavior. And it seems that only those who use this knowledge to judge the heart of a child acting as a good child.
例：１４歳の娘です。１０歳の時２ヶ月ほど学校に行かれない時期がありました。現在は元気に中学校に通っています。ところが通っている塾より、人の居ないトイレで何回もトイレを水浸しにして、その都度注意をしているけれど、止めないという連絡が来ました。この娘の問題行動をどうしたら良いかという相談を受けました。
解説：娘が再登校し始めて４年間がたっています。多くの人はこの間娘が普通の子どもとして学校に通えるようになったと考えます。そう考えると、娘の問題行動は理解できません。そうではなくて、娘が学校に通う辛さに耐えながら通学していたので、このような問題行動をしていると考えると、説明が付きます。
このように子供がよい子を演じていることを見つけることは不可能の近いです。子どもがよい子を演じていることを見分けられる人は、次のようなことができなくてはなりません。
子どもの学校生活の経過を見て、そして目の前の子どもの姿、問題行動を起こす子どもの姿から、この子供がよい子を演じていると判断できる知識です。そして、この知識を活用して子どもの心を判断する人しかできないようです。