It is now taboo in educational circles to use the dog training method as a reference when talking about parenting.
It is called "inappropriate.
But to assume that it is inappropriate is in itself an infringement of freedom to think, hypocritical and self-righteous.
No matter what we do, we can't help but feel its relevance and usefulness.
In my neighborhood, I saw a woman walking her dog.
The dog would not move in front of the house, as if the dog was concerned about a dog from another house.
The owner was troubled and urged her to start walking, but the dog would not listen.
The owner does not pull hard to move it at all.
Therefore, the dog does not leave the house for any length of time.
The owner stood there for a while with a puzzled look on her face.
This is just a simple thing, but I thought that this is how children who behave selfishly are born.
In other words, if you let a child do as he or she pleases, he or she will naturally become a child who acts as he or she pleases.
He or she may become independent, self-reliant, and interesting.
But there is a fine line between being self-centered, self-righteous, and self-indulgent.
Is pulling the dog along a bad thing because it does not respect the dog's will?
The owner may have her morning reasons and may have to hurry.
Even if you explain this to a dog, it will not understand.
Even if you explain it to a human child, if it is young, it will not understand the adult's convenience.
When it comes to dogs and children, the adults should prepare for situations in which their independence should be respected after deep consideration, and let the children make their own choices and decisions.
By allowing children to follow the pace of adults, children can experience society firsthand and gradually learn from it.
Both dogs and human children can advance to the next stage of their daily lives through a series of small renunciations of their own impulses.
If they insist on each and every thing they want to do and do not want to do, they will never be able to move forward one step from there.
Truancy and bullying seem to have quite a bit to do with this.
Because people are sometimes forcibly cut off from what they want to do and intend to do, they learn that others have their own reasons, thoughts, and feelings, and that sometimes they have to conform to them.
That is how human children learn social skills.
When I see adults who try to respect the "independence" of dogs and children, only to end up being pushed around by them and getting into trouble, I can't help but think that the future of Japan is bleak after all...