We need to become observers of our lives.
In the end, this is what it apparently important.
And letting goes of what cant be controlled. Controlling what we can-- like our habits, and health, and jobs (to a point), and how we spend our time, and our relationships.
According the Carl Jung - We realize we are more than our body, we are more than our possessions, more than our friends, our country and so on. We come to the realization that we are divine beings, spiritual beings having a human experience, and not human beings having a spiritual experience. We now know this is not our home, and we are not what we thought we are.