The Law of Failure
There are countless books and ideas about the “secrets of success.” Successful people come in all shapes and forms, and because their paths to success are so diverse, there are many different principles derived from their experiences.
But what about the “laws of failure”? If we think about the things successful people never do, there is one behavior that undoubtedly belongs on the list:
Blaming other people or circumstances for one's failures.
Taking Responsibility and Blaming Others
Successes and failures appear randomly in everyone's life. However, what makes a significant difference is whether we view a failure as our own responsibility or as the fault of others or our environment.
When a person sees failure as their own responsibility, this is called taking responsibility. Such people focus on their own thinking and actions and take steps to improve the situation.
On the other hand, when a person blames others or external circumstances, this is called shifting responsibility. These individuals tend to complain and make excuses rather than reflect on what they could have done differently. As a result, every failure becomes an opportunity for growth for those who take responsibility, while those who blame others are left behind.
Eventually, they begin to pity themselves and envy or resent those who have grown, which further reduces their motivation to take action.
For example, imagine a ground ball hit between shortstop and third base. The shortstop dives for it and throws to first base, but the throw bounces awkwardly just before reaching the first baseman, who fails to make the catch.
If the shortstop thinks, “I should have made a throw that bounced earlier,” and the first baseman thinks, “Catching difficult throws is my job, and I should have made that play,” both players will improve. Because they take responsibility, they will try to correct the mistake in the next play and practice accordingly.
In contrast, if the shortstop thinks, “That was a tough play—he should have caught it,” and the first baseman thinks, “No one could catch a throw with that bounce,” improvement is unlikely. Their mindset is focused solely on blaming others.
Opponent's Mistakes
There is another behavior that should be avoided if you truly embrace personal responsibility:
Expecting your opponent to make mistakes.
For example, with two outs and the bases loaded, a batter may hit an easy fly ball or routine ground ball. Sometimes people in the dugout shout things like, “Drop it!” or “Come on, make a mistake!”
These comments often reflect a wishful hope that, despite the poor hit, something fortunate might happen, or an attempt to pressure the opposing fielder. However, this mindset lacks personal responsibility. If a player cannot accept the result of their own play, what can they possibly learn from it afterward?
Even worse is when people celebrate wildly after an opponent actually makes a mistake. This is perhaps the ugliest extension of expecting mistakes from the other side.
Over time, such behavior forms a habit of neglecting personal responsibility. Watching adults celebrate an opponent's error alongside children in a youth baseball game can be deeply unpleasant. Adults should be teaching children a healthier mentality and helping them grow, not encouraging that attitude.
So what would a responsible attitude look like in these situations?
It means focusing on your own team rather than your opponent.
If a batter mishits the ball, teammates might encourage him by saying, “Run it out!” or “Keep going through the bag!” If the opponent then makes a mistake and the batter reaches safely, they can praise him by saying, “Nice hustle!” or “Great job not giving up!”
Finally, they can motivate themselves with words like, “We'll get the next one with a solid hit!”
In other words, the goal is not to expect an opponent's mistake, but to be prepared for one.
Likewise, when an opponent makes an excellent play, it is good to naturally respond with “Nice play!” or applause.
If you can genuinely recognize and appreciate excellence wherever it appears, you will also be inspired to think, “Next time, I'll make a play like that myself.”
The Trap of Blaming Others
Baseball is a zero-sum game: when one side wins, the other side loses. Because an opponent's mistake often becomes your gain, it is easy to fall into the habit of blaming others or focusing on their failures.
However, as discussed above, growth cannot be achieved through that mindset.
If you truly want to improve, you must maintain a sense of personal responsibility even within a zero-sum competition. And this becomes even more important in the broader world beyond sports, where win-win relationships are possible and often essential.
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