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And, even if we have forgotten the fact that another powerful, these pain associated with the fact that still attack us, let us somehow sad, but can not suppress the pain Let us further effort to escape the development end, the usual solution is to these two: either we as a kitten Like Tom, completely distorting his own experience of life in all the important facts are ignored negative; or, as we like cat Toby, simply join their suffering, all his things were very bad, since everything is so Oops, that allow their most primitive sad event is not so painful .99% of drug users had a painful experience. They reason drug use is to make their escape the pain. It's like hide in the shadows, pain The truth is a devil, the devil in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a bigger devil. There are many alcoholic adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, father survive a lot of torture. To forget The pain, they learn the same way. In addition to these visible the wrong way, we humans have invented a myriad of all kinds of ways to avoid pain, Freud referred to these methods of psychological defense mechanisms too painful , these defense mechanisms are necessary, but worse, if the psychological defense mechanism of the distortion of the facts too much, it will bring out more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia .. and other methods to arrive health is only one true --- face the painful suffering people face from the pain would get a lot of surprises, they will eventually become a party of lives and property Remember: shadow and light, as are life wealth. One of the most important psychological law, no matter how painful, you are no escape. You can only go to face up to it, resolve it, and beyond it, and it finally reached a settlement. 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