frustration

do you understand your child or someone else other than yourself, for that matter?

i'm feeling frustrated right now. i just came home from work feeling tired and all and i'm bombarded with 'weird' questions. you know how it is when you're tired and with just a little annoyance, that can increase your anger-meter / frustration-meter to quite a degree. that's my current situation.

to make it worse, they -- in this case parents -- try to justify your frustration/annoyance with their own perspective. so they go on saying that feeling tired after work is inevitable, many people have to deal with much more things than you. but they can cope -- need to learn to cope. they refer to people who are already married and when they come home, they still have to deal with family stuff and kids. so it's an even bigger headache.

that's true. can't deny it. BUT there's a big but. they forget that everyone has their own issue. sure, family is a big thing but even before you have your own family, there are many other big things too that can affect you.

hence, i think we should all try to understand another party's condition from their shoes and not yours. you may have your own set of problems that they don't but that doesn't mean they don't have to deal with any problem.

If you look at what you don't have in life..

I came across this from my friend's facebook and I really like it. *but feels like I posted this once b4*

I feared being alone
until I learned to like
myself.

I feared failure
until I realized that I only
fail when I don't try.

I feared success
until I realized
that I had to try
in order to be happy
with myself.

I feared people's opinions
until I learned that
people would have opinions
about me anyway.

I feared rejection
until I learned to
have faith in myself.

I feared pain
until I learned that
it's necessary
for growth.

I feared the truth
until I saw the
ugliness in lies.

I feared life
until I experienced
its beauty.

I feared death
until I realized that it's
not an end, but a beginning.

I feared my destiny,
until I realized that
I had the power to change
my life.

I feared hate
until I saw that it
was nothing more than
ignorance.

I feared love
until it touched my heart,
making the darkness fade
into endless sunny days.

I feared ridicule
until I learned how
to laugh at myself.

I feared growing old
until I realized that
I gained wisdom every day.

I feared the future
until I realized that
life just kept getting
better.

I feared the past
until I realized that
it could no longer hurt me.

I feared the dark
until I saw the beauty
of the starlight.

I feared the light
until I learned that the
truth would give me
strength.

I feared change,
until I saw that
even the most beautiful butterfly
had to undergo a metamorphosis
before it could fly.


If you look at what you do not have in life, you don't have anything, If you look at what you have in life, you have everything.

Vision/Mission

Before my thoughts got 'corrupted' by other things, I shall write my blog now. I believe it's gonna be a serious one. hehehe. So here goes..

Remember how in business classes, especially strategic management, our professors always emphasize the importance of a company's vision and mission? I used to not get it.. like why is it that important. I felt that it was just some kind of formality to have it. But now I get it.

Everyone needs a vision/mission statement. Not just for companies. But even more important, for our lives. Why am I suddenly discussing about this? Easy, because I'm LOST.

I'm feeling lost in my own damn life. Help!

I briefly thought about why; and I came up with a pretty fundamental reason. I feel lost because I don't have my so-called vision/mission statement. In other words, I don't know what's the purpose of my life. *sigh, it always comes back to this* I believe it's normal for people around our age, even older ones, to not know exactly what we want. But at least we should know roughly right?! But.. but.. I seem not to have an idea.

For now, I'm confused about my career life -- but my other parts of life are as ambiguous as my career's.. so. In 2 months or so, I predict I'll have 4 options to choose from. I don't know which to take because I don't know what to expect for my future. That's why I said it'd solve the problem if I'd have the ever-so-important 'statements' -- at least that would guide me in the right direction.

Ok, that brings me to a topic that I wanted to write yesterday but forgot. I had a short conversation with one of my colleagues yesterday. He was telling me that I shouldn't be following his footsteps careerwise because he has done it wrong at the beginning. He has wasted quite some time working at companies that *how to say* he shouldn't be working for; just because it doesn't promise a good career advancement. He said that's why now he's 25 and he's still at his position; many of his friends who are of the same age are already managers at banks. *stabs* I strongly believe he doesn't know my age! LoL. I'm also close to 25 and my position is... *sigh don't even talk about it*. At least he has worked at this company for 2 years.

But then again, he sounded ambitious talking about career progression mostly because he knows that's where he wanna be in long term. That's why he's ambitious about it. What do I know? What do I wanna do in say, 3 years? I have no idea. And hence, my lack of ambition in career progression. Am I right? Does my reasonings make sense? What shall I do? Or rather, what shall we do -- those who are on the same boat as me? We need to jump ship!