Hi, this is YUI🌸
There's a phrase I often hear in advice about finding a marriage partner.
"Women who can support and respect men are the ones who get chosen."
"Women who can play a supporting role are the ones who succeed."
As a counselor, I will be honest.
It's half right and half wrong.
There are times when it's important to "show respect to men."
Respect the other person's opinion. Prioritize acceptance over rejection. Don't force your own opinion on others.
This is important.
but
"To elevate the man, I suppress my own feelings."
This is incorrect.
Having seen women who are successful in their search for a marriage partner as a counselor
I've noticed something.
They
It's not about putting men first.
"We are facing each other as equals."
That's right.
I can have my own opinion while also listening to others' opinions.
I assert my opinion, but I don't force it on others.
You can say no when you need to.
But I express my gratitude honestly.
"Respecting men" and "treating them as equals" are
They are completely different.
I thought, "I have to respect the man."
I can't say what I like. I can't say no to things I dislike. I keep going along with things without expressing my opinion.
If you do this
3 months later
People say, "I can't tell what you're thinking."
The women who are truly chosen in the marriage market
Not a woman who erases herself
A woman who can face others while maintaining her own identity.
is.
and
To face it while maintaining one's own identity
It's essential to meet in a safe place where you feel comfortable and confident that it's okay to express yourself.
You won't be treated carelessly. Only honest people who have been verified are present. Only serious people are there from the start.
Only when you have that sense of security
You can be your natural self.
When I can be my natural self
You can become a woman who can treat others as equals 🌸
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If you've ever thought, "I have to let the man have it," please let me know in the comments 😊 Disagreements are also welcome!