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Notes which I just copied and pasted from the internet and my personal notes.

Wir kennen uns schon lange
doch lang ist's noch nicht her
das du mir in die Augen sahst
und plötzlich war da mehr.
Das kribbeln in meinem Bauch
das kannt ich vorher kaum.
Bühne frei für's große Glück
und ab in einen Traum.
Wir schicken unsre Herzen der Sonne entgegen
und lassen die Gefühle im Sonnenlicht schweben
Wir schenken uns die Freiheit und treiben ins Glück
dem Sonnenschein entgegen und nie mehr zurück.
Wir beide, wir erleben die Welt im Rosenkleid
wir tanzen übers Blumenmeer um unsre schöne Zeit
Das kribbeln in meinem Bauch das sollte nie vergehn
halt mich fest und flieg mit mir die Liebe ist so schön.
Wir schicken unsre Herzen der Sonne entgegen
und lassen die Gefühle im Sonnenlicht schweben
Wir schenken uns die Freiheit und treiben ins Glück
dem Sonnenschein entgegen und nie mehr zurück.
Wir schenken uns die Freiheit und treiben ins Glück
dem Sonnenschein entgegen und nie mehr zurück

We've known each other a long time but it's not long ago that you looked into my eyes and suddenly there was more. The tingling in my stomach I hardly knew that before. Clear the stage for great happiness and into a dream. We send our hearts towards the sun and let the feelings float in the sunlight We give ourselves freedom and drive into happiness towards the sunshine and never back. Both of us, we experience the world in a rose dress we dance over the sea of ​​flowers for our beautiful time The tingling in my stomach should never go away hold me tight and fly with me love is so beautiful. We send our hearts towards the sun and let the feelings float in the sunlight We give ourselves freedom and drive into happiness towards the sunshine and never back. We give ourselves freedom and drive into happiness towards the sunshine and never back

https://youtu.be/zxCxnPvWBTQ

 

At first I remembered Sigrid und Marina traditional winter song using acoustic guitar. Then I found this song which is sang by Ayaka Hirahira

7 Signs You Might Be Suffering From Touch Deprivation

Touch deprivation, or skin hunger as it’s sometimes known, is a condition that arises when we have little or no physical contact with others. This condition appears to be more prevalent in western countries, as we tend to engage in friendly touch less often than in other parts of the world. The rise in use of technology and mobile devices, as well as fears around harassment are some of the reasons attributed to this growing problem. Yet touch is essential for our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing.

A clear example which shows how important touch is, can be found in The Power of Touch by Phyllis K. Davis. In her book, Davis talks about babies that were taken away from their parents by the German emperor Frederick II, “He gave them to nurses who were forbidden to touch or talk with them. The experiment was to discover what language children would speak if raised without ever hearing anyone speaking. No language was learned. Every baby died before they could talk. The year was 1248.”

So how can you tell whether you’re suffering from touch deprivation? Below are seven signs which may indicate that you’re suffering from skin hunger.

1. Aggressive behaviour

The founder of the Touch Research Institute (TRI), Tiffany Field, conducted a study which looked at French and American adolescents. The study showed that American adolescents spent less time touching and hugging their peers than their French counterparts, and instead displayed more self-touch and more aggressive verbal and physical behaviour. Interestingly when violent adolescents were provided with massage therapy, their empathy increased and the levels of violent behaviour went down. While this may be attributed to a boost in serotonin levels, it still shows how powerful touch can be.

2. Body image issues

Touch plays a role in the formation of body image. One study of women with anorexia and bulimia showed a link between body image issues and greater touch deprivation in their childhood as well as in their current life. In contrast, another impact of touch deprivation is overeating, which may be a way of trying to fill an inner void that has come about through a lack of affection.

3. High stress levels

When the touch receptors beneath our skin are stimulated, it can help reduce cortisol levels and blood pressure, which therefore reduces stress. Conversely, when we are experiencing stress and lack touch, we may struggle to unwind. This is one of the many reasons why alternative holistic therapies, such as cuddle therapy are growing in popularity across the world, as people seek to find ways to address their skin hunger and keep stress in check.

4. Loneliness

We’ve written a blog post about how touch can be used to tackle loneliness, which you can read here. However common signs that you may be experiencing loneliness as a result of touch deprivation can include:

· Prolonged hot showers and baths (the warmth of which could be acting as a substitute for the warmth from another person)

· Wrapping up in blankets

· Clinging to pillows and even our pets

Touch deprivation can actually create a self-reinforcing cycle where we feel alienated from others and therefore begin to shy away from social contact. This could therefore lead to:

5. Mental health issues such as depression

Depression, low mood, anxiety and being withdrawn can be signs of skin hunger. In addition, those who are touch deprived may be more likely to have alexithymia, which is a condition that inhibits people from expressing and interpreting their emotions (that’s not to suggest that skin hunger causes this condition). Yet when these individuals receive healing touch, their depression levels have been shown to go down.

6. Sexual dysfunction

High levels of anxiousness may increase tension within the body, which can lead to sexual dysfunction.

7. Fear of attachment and unsatisfying relationships

Individuals suffering from touch deprivation may feel fearful towards becoming attached, and could be less likely to form secure attachments with other people. This could be down to the fact that these individuals are self-preoccupied, can suffer from excessive shyness and are anxious about reaching out and becoming involved in long-term intimacy. It’s therefore no surprise that “I need cuddles”, “I want a cuddle buddy” and “professional hugging service” are commonly googled phrases.
The "Bible" of the Decadents: Joris-Karl Huysmans' Against Nature
Updated: Jun 29, 2022

During the second half of the 19th century, the Decadent movement became a short-lived but important social phenomenon. Even though decadence, with a focus on wealth and luxury, originated from ancient Rome this ambiguous notion flourished in France during the late 1800s. This period, called fin de siècle (1880-1890), was characterised by change, particularly industrialization and social progress, and it was also marked by political scandals, fear, doubts, and decline. “Progress, this great heresy of decay,” condemned Charles Baudelaire in his essay for the Exposition (1885), opposing the 19th-century progressive ideology. Thus, intellectuals and artists declined the meteoric rise of development, noticing that materialism and privileges could degenerate morality and spirit. Likewise, moral decay described “decadence” during fin de siècle literature and art. Partly inspired by the Romantic movement which aimed to evoke emotions, the decadent movement was also a reaction to Romanticism's veneration of nature. 

The Decadents favoured art and artifice over nature, and they opposed traditional morality in favour of corrupt pleasures. One of the most important figures of the Decadent movement in literature is the French writer Joris-Karl Huysmans (1848-1907). His work À Rebours (1884), translated in English as Against Nature or Against the Grain, was considered by many as the "Bible" of the Decadent spirit. Huysmans' restless writing, as the novel's title suggests, paved the way for the glorifying "decadentism" during this period of arrogance, existential crisis, and artificial paradises. A founding decadent work that goes through naturalism, but also symbolism, Against Nature marked a transition to something else. 

Illustration for a 1931 edition of Against the Grain, Arthur Zaidenberg (1931).
Huysmans’ unconventional novel lacks intrigue, as it follows a neurotic aristocrat whose life is organised against anything ordinary people do in reality. For that reason, he retires by confining himself to an old but eccentric house on the outskirts of Paris. Against Nature’s "thematic concerns are all centred on the hero’s particular tastes in all manner of things, from women to food" (Burgwinkle, Hammond, & Wilson, 2011, p. 544). Protagonist Duc Jean Floressas des Esseintes is a representation of people's first impressions of the decadent movement: low morals, degeneration, corruption, extravagance, perversion, and so on. Praising the work of artists like Gustave Moreau, Odilon Redon, Auguste Villiers de L'Isle-Adam, El Greco, Gustave Flaubert, and Charles Baudelaire, Huysmans composes “a critique of urban modernity” (Desmarais & Weir, 2019, p. 98), inventing the ultimate decadent anti-hero, with a perverse and narcissistic behaviour. 

The Marsh Flower. Odilon Redon (1885).
Jean des Esseintes is an aesthete, a snob dandy who has been severely ill and fragile since childhood. His parents were absent in his upbringing, and loneliness and boredom became familiar feelings. This placed him in a negative mindset where he believes that he must live alone. A disturbed and complex individual with a feminine side, he suffers from an innate neurosis and a problematic hero’s mentality. His unhappy childhood also contributes to his complicated, solipsistic, and almost dangerous personality. The last of his aristocratic family, the Duke of des Esseintes cannot be satisfied; he declines everything and everyone, including his own existence. He instead seeks satisfaction in art and literature; in women found in paintings like Salomé by G. Moreau, or in animals like a tortoise covered in gold and precious gems. Rare flowers like orchids, among his favourites, are associated with sexuality and represent his gender ambiguity. Thus, artificial pleasure functions as a narcotic or a spiritual antidote because the real world, the outside, does not exist for him. He rejects therefore what is natural, seeking the artificial of the artistic ideal, opting for fantasies that haunt his nervous hypersensitivity. 

Le Comte Robert de Montesquiou. Giovanni Boldini (1897).
The most famous French dandy of the fin de siècle, writer Robert de Montesquiou (now known for appearing in the works of others), was considered an inspiration to the decadent and perverse aesthete portrayed by Des Esseintes. The decor of the house orients towards Montesquiou, and more specifically the golden tortoise (a real animal used as an object) which Montesquiou had indeed covered in gold. Dandies are significant figures of the decadent movement as they embody lavishness in the sense of corruption. The character of Des Esseintes is an emblematic dandy who decides to live against society and morality, hating on the contemporary world. His aesthetic is completely separated from moral considerations; In fact, at times, it appears to be at odds with moral concerns. Animal cruelty, fetishes, constant suffering, art, and religion are the main themes in this non-theme work. Des Esseintes attempts to overcome his disease through art, inventing what is known as "art therapy" today. This "compartmentalized and interiorized novel (like many decadent works) is structured around a series of well-formed, self-contained scenes that occur to Des Esseintes in the form of memory and recollection" (Desmarais & Weir, 2019, p. 109). Huysmans dedicates each chapter of Against Nature to this persona’s misadventures, indicating that isolation aggravates ultimately his condition.

Des Esseintes. Odilon Redon (1888).
The question then is, what brings happiness to Des Esseintes? It is the substitute for reality: a neo-reality that is upside down, backwards. He desires to escape the real world by creating himself a new, sadistic paradise of artifice that is aesthetic, and assuages his deviant taste but also raises questions on morality, society, and illness. Concerning the latter, apart from Des Esseintes’ detectable physical disorders, his mental condition stays cryptic. However, what he appears to suffer from is a form of hysteria, a disease mostly diagnosed in women especially during the fin de siècle, thus accentuating his feminine side. As follows, the Duc’s mental and physical degeneration align with the saturated, or as the intellectuals label “decadent”, society. 

Finally, Des Esseintes, the creator of a paradoxical, even dangerous world, builds his dreamlike universe based on artifice in order to go beyond nature and elevate his spirit. For him, nature only becomes interesting when unnatural, because artifice is a product that leaves nothing to chance. His entire existence is therefore determined by a quest for the artificial, and he intends to create a new world in his house by making it a museum of cruelty and evil. He is then, not only an admirer but also a creator of cruelty, a sadistic man deriving pleasure from suffering and pain. "Seeking the copy or the mechanically produced" (McGuinness, 2003, p. 31), he yet chooses to live close to nature, keeping in touch with the artifice found in the city mostly due to his memories. Fake flowers, perfumes, literature, art, and gems assuage but also trigger his troubled mind.


 Les Yeux clos. Odilon Redon (1890).
This controversial and strange novel by Huysmans could be considered a manifesto that influenced the end of the 19th century, criticizing the time's creative and literary movements by promoting "a beauty imbued with pain, corruption, and death" (Praz, 1977). In principle, this neurotic and dark literature undermines positive reality and the social, moral, and natural standards. Not only did Against Nature establish a philosophy in literature, but it also shaped popular perceptions of visual art.



Bibliographical References

Burgwinkle, W., Hammond, N., & Wilson, E. (2011). The Cambridge History of French Literature. Cambridge University Press.


Desmarais, J., & Weir, D. (2019). Decadence and Literature. Cambridge University Press. 


Husymans, J.-K. (2003). Against Nature (P. McGuinness, Introducer; R. Baldick, Trans.). Penguin Books.


McGuinness, P. (2003). Introduction to Against Nature. In Husymans, J.-K., Against Nature. Penguin Books.


Praz, M. (1977). La chair, la mort et le diable dans la littérature du XIXe siècle: Le romantisme noir. Gallimard. 


Visual Sources

Figure 1: Redon, O. (1888). Des Esseintes, Frontispiece for A Rebours by J.K. Huysmans [Lithograph]. Art Institvte Chicago.

https://www.artic.edu/artworks/79435/des-esseintes-frontispiece-for-a-rebours-by-j-k-huysmans


Figure 2:  Zaidenberg, A. (1931). Against the Grain  [Illustration]. Internet Archive.

https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.77128/page/n3/mode/2up 


Figure 3: Redon, O. (1885). Homage to Goya: The Marsh Flower and a Human and Sad Head [Lithograph]. The Cleveland Museum of Art. https://www.clevelandart.org/art/1927.344.2 


Figure 4: Boldini, G. (1897). Le Comte Robert de Montesquiou [Oil on canvas]. Musée d'Orsay. 

https://www.musee-orsay.fr/en/artworks/le-comte-robert-de-montesquiou-9250 


Figure 5:  Redon, O. (1890).  Les Yeux clos [Oil on canvas]. Musée d'Orsay.

https://www.musee-orsay.fr/en/artworks/les-yeux-clos-476 




INTP Values and Motivations

INTPs present a cool exterior but are privately passionate about reason, analysis, and innovation. They seek to create complex systems of understanding to unify the principles they've observed in their environments. Their minds are complicated and active, and they will go to great mental lengths trying to devise ingenious solutions to interesting problems.

The INTP is typically non-traditional, and more likely to reason out their own individual way of doing things than to follow the crowd. The INTP is suspicious of assumptions and conventions, and eager to break apart ideas that others take for granted. INTPs are merciless when analyzing concepts and beliefs, and hold little sacred. They are often baffled by other people who remain loyal to ideology that doesn't make logical sense.

How Others See the INTP

INTPs are often thoroughly engaged in their own thoughts, and usually appear to others to be offbeat and unconventional. The INTP’s mind is a most active place, and their inward orientation can mean that they neglect superficial things like home décor or appropriate clothing. They don’t tend to bother with small talk but can become downright passionate when talking about science, mathematics, computers, or the larger theoretical problems of the universe. Reality is often of only passing interest to the Architect, as they are more interested in the theory behind it all.

INTPs are typically precise in their speech, and communicate complex ideas with carefully chosen words. They insist on intellectual rigor in even the most casual of conversations, and will readily point out inconsistencies of thought or reasoning. Social niceties may fall by the wayside for an INTP who is more interested in analyzing logic, and they may offend others by submitting their dearly held values and beliefs to logical scrutiny.

What is the INTP personality type?
The INTP personality is among the rarer personality types, comprising around 3% to 5% of the population, according to the Center for Applications of Psychological Type. More men than women identify as INTPs. Individuals with an INTP personality are often referred to as "The Logician," "The Thinker" or "The Architect."

INTPs are often brilliant, philosophical people. They're thoughtful and pensive and enjoy working independently on their own ideas. They're independent and often have only a few close friends. INTPs are creative geniuses, and when in the correct work environment, they can make remarkable progress toward solving challenges and completing creative tasks.

5 INTP traits
Key characteristics of an INTP personality type include the following five traits:

1. Analytical
While they have a quiet demeanor, INTP personalities have powerful intellectual abilities that are beneficial to any work environment. They're logical, fast thinkers who excel in analyzing the connections between fine details and small pieces of information and explaining challenging concepts. INTPs view the world as a complex machine with many interrelated parts to study, understand and connect.

2. Imaginative
INTPs think deeply to fully understand and explain difficult concepts. They search for ways to improve systems or products. They may view ideas and concepts differently than other personality types, as they're focused on the potential possibilities.

3. Objective
An INTP personality type is relentless when searching for truth, understanding and objectivity. They focus their energy on finding mistakes and getting rid of inconsistencies. They approach challenges with their analytical nature, creativity and open-mindedness. They welcome the opinions of others, as long as facts and logic support them.

4. Enthusiastic
While naturally reserved, INTPs are excited by new ideas and concepts. When they find a topic or idea that interests them, they become enthusiastic. Their excitement tends to encourage others and can make for an enjoyable work environment.

5. Straightforward and honest
INTPs are straightforward and honest. They believe in being sincere and transparent and expect others to do the same. This is especially important in the workplace, as many INTP personalities expect and provide honest feedback, improvements and other helpful information organizations can use to improve.

INTPs in the workplace
The INTP personality type is motivated by solving complex issues and accomplishing challenging goals. They prefer to analyze challenges or ideas thoroughly to develop a clear understanding and develop innovative solutions. Their ability to find patterns allows them to easily identify discrepancies.

They dislike being bound to bureaucracy and rules, especially regarding their own ideas. INTP personalities have the ability to retain and comprehend a lot of information. They work well in specific, nontraditional workplace environments, independently or with a small team. To an INTP personality, developing a deeper understanding of complex problems is essential to finding solutions.

For teamwork, INTP personalities prefer working alongside those they perceive as intelligent, competent and logical. They work best on a team that allows them to have the freedom to think carefully about how different processes work and come up with new ideas. They favor calm, conflict-free work environments and prefer working with others as equals over hierarchical relationships.

INTP career types
Because of their desire for a flexible work environment and a specific team structure to help them come up with innovative solutions to problems, INTPs tend to thrive in the following careers:

Architect
Business analyst
Computer programmer
Forensic medical examiner
Information security analyst
Technical writer

When you don’t get enough touch, you can start to feel ill at ease, blue, lonely, stressed, and perhaps listless. Not receiving touch when you have a need for it is like a flower that’s drooping from lack of water – you’re surviving but not necessarily thriving.

The skin is the largest organ in your body and it makes sense that just like other organs, the skin sends signals to your brain.

When you are touched in a pleasant way, your brain releases the “love hormone” oxytocin. This neurotransmitter affects bonding behavior and social recognition.

CAN YOU CRAVE 

I think everybody has their own value ..just cuz somebody is not valuing you doesnot mean you dont have any value.. Parents at some point are very wrong by not valuing their kids.. |Inspite of their age they have not matured and the fact is that we are so emotionally attached with them and the very fact they degrading us hurts more. My suggestion create your own value, focus on all positive,meet positive people, if you have a dream give every possible try to achieve it..boss once u r successfull see the change in behaviour

NOW coming to the major answer to your question, to heal a broken heart, you need to have a HOPE, as said even above, & re-focus all your energy on finding and achieving a new aim in life. Its tough, but thats the way, like the process of the brain…

Brain never forgets a bad memory easily, but to make that forget we focus on something else and bad memory fades away.

so try to forget the cause of heart breaking, initially symptoms are same as that of a person refraining from a drug.. One needs a tailored environment initially with help of ur close ones and with positive approach it can be done,

  • Get indulge in activities in positive approach and make urself busy,
  • Exercise a lot physically,
  • have pets and play with them, nurture them
  • Try to make yourself tired physically that much that you get a very sound sleep at the end of the day

These are a few methods one can rejoin the broken peices of heart. Heart has been broken because of a certain event and certain situation, it never implies that rest of the life has been shattered. It simply means that the path you opted ended in a Dead end. You walked the path with your own efforts, so you only can move the path backways and also can walk a new path in new direction.

Start by cleaning the room kinda thing, make your own bed before you leave it..

Morning walks can boost you as well….

Think of it as a new book you writing a new story about yourself..

Always, remember, those who think they can change are mostly the one's that CHANGE!

My grades are down from A's to D'sI'm way behind in historyI lost myself in fantasiesOf you and me together
I don't know why I-I but dreaming's all I doI won't get by, I-I on mere imagination
Upside downBouncing Off the ceilingInside outStranger to this feelingGot no clue what I should doBut I'll go crazy if I can't get next to you
My teacher says to concentrateSo what- his name was Peter the GreatThe kings and queens will have to waitCause I don't have forever
I wish that I-I-I could walk right up to youEach time I try I-I the same old hesitation
Upside downBouncing Off the ceilingInside outStranger to this feelingGot no clue what I should doBut I'll go crazy if I can't get next to you
Somehow somedayYou will love me tooOne day will be the day when all my dreams come true
Upside downBouncing Off the ceilingInside outStranger to this feelingGot no clue what I should doBut I go crazy if I can't get next to you