As you say, Annika, this is so common. I didn’t believe in love at first sight, until I watched my partner in the delivery room, holding our daughter in his arms and singing to her. He fell in love with her straight away. It took much longer for me, weeks and weeks, I think because it was an exhausting delivery, and I was a little numb.
We had a reverse experience with our younger daughters. He took much longer to warm up, and I just loved them straight away.
Those first few weeks and months with your first baby can be very hard, for all of you. You are tired, and trying so hard to look after a new baby, and in the middle of a very steep learning curve, and at the same time you end up renegotiating your relationship with your partner, and renegotiating your understanding of yourself. It’s a very tough time. Take all the help you can get!