Looks

I’m sure this subject has been talked about to death, as most subjects have been. I watched a video of a comedy performance by Joan Rivers. It’s almost satirical as she talks about looks and how important it is to look good.

There are so many proverbs and sayings about how beauty is only skin deep and beauty is in the eye of the beholder etc. These sayings are supposed to be lessons to teach us about life. I suppose it’s really how you interpret them and besides many are contradictory of themselves. 

For a long time I wanted to believe that looks and beauty really aren’t that important, and it’s more about what’s underneath that counts. In many ways I still believe that because in order for any relationship to last, you have to feel more than attraction for someone. You want to share opinions and experiences, debate ideas, learn from another person. At the same time, a big difference between a romantic relationship and a friendship comes down to attraction, both physically and sexually.

For the very lucky of us, we have eyes to experience the world visually. Of course we experience things aurally and through the sense of smell and taste, but to visit some of the great wonders of the world, we want to experience them visually. When we look at people, whatever gender, we can appreciate their physical beauty. The way they present themselves is very important for first impressions. It’s the initial impression that determines whether that person will be hired for a job, whether that person is someone we could potentially date, whether that person is someone that fits. We are all judgemental, even if we claim not to be.

I believe there is someone for everyone, and everybody has their own tastes. Sometimes you might find yourself in an unreciprocated love where someone is your type but you are not theirs. I think it’s important to be true to yourself, dress and look the way you want to look, and that in turn will attract the right people, the people that fit. I also think it’s important to take care of yourself, whether that is for someone else or for yourself. To exercise, eat well, maintain personal hygiene. Even though trying to look good for someone else, ultimately it’s something you are doing for yourself. To try to be the best version of yourself.