The topic of love has probably been the most written, sung, thought about topic than any other feeling or event we experience.
I grew up watching Disney and Hollywood romance films, so I figured I had a pretty good understanding of what love is. There are many types of love; love for a friend, love for a partner, love for your parents, love for a hobby or interest. There are so many different kinds of love that it’s amazing one word can have so many different interpretations.
I recently watched a video by Stephen Fry discussing all different kinds of things. He is a true inspiration for me. His view of the world is so interesting, and I’ve learned so much from him.
In the video, he talks about love. He talked about giving love and receiving love. He said that there are two people; those who want to give love, and those who want to receive it. In order to have a perfect balanced relationship, there should be someone who wants to give lots of love without receiving too much, and one who wants to receive lots of love without giving too much. I’ve never thought about this before. I thought about what kind of person I am. Am I the kind of person who wants to give but hardly take, or take but hardly give.
I often think of myself as a lone wolf. I enjoy speaking and being with people, but it’s absolutely necessary to have my own space and time. I sometimes wonder whether I can be in a relationship because I do prefer being by myself. Though somewhere deep inside, I do think I want to be in a relationship at some point. Using the theory discussed in the video, I realised I am more the type of person to want to give rather than receive. I like taking care of people. I want to make people happy.
I remember reading once somewhere that you should make yourself the most interesting person you can be, because it’s with yourself that you spend the most time. I think it’s so important to find enjoyment in doing things by yourself. Whether by choice or not, I’ve lived a life doing things by myself a lot. I’m much happier that way. So I worry how I can be in a relationship. I don’t want someone to intrude on my already satisfied life. But ultimately I do want to share experiences and make memories with someone more than a friend. I do feel and have felt those strong emotions of love.
Therefore I think it’s important for me to find someone who prefers to receive love and wants to be taken care of. I can be quite content by taking care of myself that I don’t need that much love and affection from someone else. Of course, feelings and minds change, and I have no idea how I’ll feel tomorrow. But for the moment, for the topic of love, I think it’s an interesting idea.