“A Long distance relationship is better than a short distance relationship.”
I see people on Facebook compare these two a lot and the majority believes that long distance relationships are way better than being with someone closer. Well, I beg to differ.
First of all, a relationship is a relationship, nonetheless. Second of all, why would one be better than the other? I guess you can say people in long distance relationships like the test. But let me tell you this. Believe it or not, the real test in relationships doesn’t even come in until you start living with one another (or at least something close to that).
For example, you’ll experience how cranky he is when he’s lacking sleep, or how willing and able he is to get up at 2 in the morning to make you Theraflu because are feeling under the weather. Better yet, when you do not see eye to eye, so you argue, both mad, yet you still sleep next to each other as opposed to hanging up the phone on a long distance relationship (since you’re 2000 miles away anyways). You’ll realize that “Let’s sleep on it & deal with the bullshit tomorrow” is probably easier than, “Damn, I hate your face right now, but I am still here, right next to you, hoping you’ll give in, but hope I’ll give in too”. You see, that’s just the gist of it if you really want to start talking about relationship’s test.
Sure, it makes the trips to the airports or train stations more and more significant each time, because the longer you are away from each other, the more you miss them and the more they miss you, and the more the miles apart, the space, the distance, the stronger you feel the butterflies in your stomach as soon as you see them. But let me ask you this. Have you ever been with somebody for four years and still feel the same feeling when you pull up to his driveway, even though you just saw him yesterday? Have you ever felt that nerve racking feeling from time to time, with your heart racing, your chest pounding, your hands shaking right when she steps out of her doorstep, even though you’ve been with her for years & years?
When you love someone, distance and time is irrelevant. Hence, it doesn’t matter which one is better - long or short distance relationship. A relationship is a relationship. You say people in long distance relationships require a whole lot of trust & commitment. Well, here’s a fun fact. If your significant other wants to cheat on you, regardless if you are 2000 miles away or 2 feet away, they’ll still do it with every chance they get. Sad to say, I see it with some of my friends & even having a kid doesn’t stop them. You see, trust and commitment remains equal, nothing more or less, regardless how much space and time is in between.
Long distance relationships are stressful, expensive and frustrating. But so are short distance relationship. Both requires a lot of work. Yet, we put up with it for our significant other because we care & love them that much. And we are willing to put in that much time and effort to make it work. Also, to make it all worth it.
Personally, I don’t see myself being in a long distance relationship. For me, seeing someone often is getting to know more and more of them. It is knowing how they act around my family and friends, how they react to a certain situation when it arises. In these situations, you find out how reliable and dependable you both are for each other. Whether it’s you getting a flat tire in the middle of the day, or him losing his debit card & you are there to spot him ‘cause, well, it’s being there for each other. That’s a big part of a relationship, in my opinion. That’s part of being connected to each other in that way.
It’s funny ‘cause I would never hear this come from someone who is a little older. As far as my talks with my older friends, we do have quite the same mentality about distance in relationships. I guess it makes more and more sense as we grow up since I only see a lot of the younger ones who are inlove with the idea of long distance relationships. But hey, to each their own, right?
But for the younger ones, all I can really say is that, it is still early and you are still growing. You shouldn’t be stressing yourself over somebody who’s thousands and thousands of miles away, thinking whether or not he or she’s faithful to you or he or she’s sharing the same thing with other people. Hang out with friends. Go out with people. It is fun going to the movies, getting coffee or even just talking to people outside of Skype or doing something besides talking on the phone, stressing over how going about saving up every dime you have for a plane ticket just so you can spend a weekend together. Enjoy your life and your youth.
And in time, when you meet that person, regardless if you are 10 miles or 1000 miles away from each other, if they really interest you and you are both willing and able to make it work, make it all worth it, then, distance and time wouldn’t matter. When that time comes, everything will just fall into place.