Sometimes, a situation is so bad or embarrassing, or just plain despicable, that you'd rather invent a thousand excuses to cover up for it, or the people involved, being awful, than accept the truth and act accordingly. It's a kind of second-hand embarrassment.
I'm the kind of person who will come up with a million excuses, in order to justify the cruelty of a person or a bad situation and make it look as if it was my mistake or misunderstanding. That the person who's being mean to me, is in fact right and I'm the one at fault. Deep inside I know what is what, though...but since I don't like fights, I sometimes avoid and prolong painful situations, until somebody makes me reach the end of my tether...
Realising this issue, I consciously tried to stop inventing excuses for people who are just no good and don't know how to behave, so I'm much better than I used to be in the past. However, sometimes the blunt rudeness of some people still shocks me and I don't know how to react. It's just beyond me.
It's like either telling them that they're effing clowns, or just don't tell them anything and leave them in their misery. 666 get out of my life. You know...
時に、ある状態は悪すぎて、恥ずかしすぎて。。自分は、現実を見るの代わりに、言い訳を作って、そのダメさを隠れるようにしてる。なんかセカンドハンド当惑みたいです。
私はこういう人です。。相手のひどい行動をなんとか言い開くする為に、結局、むりやりで自分のミスか勘違いをしてしまう。そのひどい人はなぜそこまでひどいのかな？やっぱり私のせいじゃない？と思って。。。なぜなら
そんなにダメな性格があるって信じたくないかも。。だからもったいない状態を長いあいだ我慢して、言い開いてしまって。。。行き詰まるの点につくまで。
そういうことを気づいて、意識的にダメな人のためにもう言い訳を作らないようにしてるけど、たまに人々のありえない失敬でショック受けて、どうすればいいのかわからないんだ。
どっちがいいのか？直接に”あなたは最低なジョークのような人なんです”と言ってしまうか。。なにも言わずに、違う道を歩くのか？６６６今すぐ私の目の前から消えろ！って感じ 笑 だよね？