Development and personal growth does not come from negative criticism, but rather from well-intended feedback and support. At least for me.
I resent people who try to supposedly make you grow as a person, by being mean and throwing insults at you, even if they have a good intention. People who don't know how to behave in a humane way, totally get to the wrong side of me and chances are I'll dislike them immensely, get bored and give them up and in some cases they'll make me talk back and put them in their place. I don't like doing that, because it involves being blunt and harsh, but you gotta talk to people in "their own language"to be heard sometimes.
個人の発達はネガチブな非難からでわなく、いい目的のフィードバックやサポートから来ると思います。
相手を成長させたいって口実を使って、相手にひどい行動を見せて、侮辱を打って、目的がよくても、そういう人たちを私はとても苦手です。人道的に話せてくれなかったら、私の他の部分は出ますね。普段にポジチブで笑顔をしてるのに、そうされたら、私はその人を苦手になるし、悪い態度厭きて、その人を諦めて、そして時に口答えてこれはこれそれはそれと見せてあげます。
それは辛い言葉を含めてるので、あまり好きじゃないけど、違う人に違う言葉で話さないといけないね。