5月19日 お誕生日おめでとうございます
今日の花は【ブライダルベール】
花ことばは【幸せ】です(^^♪
小さな白い花びらを見ても、花言葉の幸せがぴったりくるブライダルベールっていいですね
でも、ここからが結婚の始まり
鹿児島では新夫婦が訪れると、お茶にお塩をまぜて出す風習が昔はあったそうです
結婚ってそんなにいい事ばかりじゃないよ。頑張ってねって事だったんでしょうね
結婚はおめでとう！と一緒に新夫婦に素敵な言葉を添えたい気持ちがあるけれど
でも、いろんな苦難も多い事を昔の人は言葉にならない言葉として、お茶などに託して頑張れって言ってたんでしょうね
結婚の先輩としてっていいと思わない？
いろんな苦難を乗り越えた夫婦が、歳を取った時に、その相手を誰よりも大事に思う二人に変わる
他人だったのに、誰よりも相手を愛し、相手と一緒に生きてきた人生を大切にする
不思議ね
完全な他人だったのにね
これから結婚するあなた
今だけを見ないで、何十年先を見てほしい
親よりも兄弟よりも子供よりも相手を大切に思っているときを
その間には楽しい事よりも、苦しい時が多くて、別れたいと思う時もあるだろうけれど、あの時別れなかったから、今がある
そりゃ、どれだけあなたが頑張っても、駄目な時もあると思う
別れなければダメな時もあると思う
でも、出来たらいろんな苦難を乗り越えて、誰よりも素敵なご夫婦になってね
子供さん達が、両親のような夫婦になりたいと思うほどの素敵な夫婦に
それから言っておくわね
夫婦が一方的に悪い事って、あまりないのよ
必ず両方が悪いってこと
だから相手だけを責めてはいけないわ
あなただけを責めてもいけない
2人がその時々に相手を責めても、二人の周りが相手の悪口を言ったとしても、「この人と結婚するときに私は何をおもったっけ？」と想いだそう
乗り越えたその先に誰にも出来ない夫婦の温かみがあることを想おう
幸せになってね
誰よりも誰よりも素敵なご夫婦に
May 19 Happy Birthday!
Today's flower is 【Bridal Veil】.
The language of flowers is "happiness.
It's nice to have a bridal veil that perfectly matches the happiness in the language of flowers, even when you see the tiny white petals!
But this is where the marriage begins.
In Kagoshima, there used to be a custom of serving tea with salt mixed in it when a new couple visits!
Marriage is not always such a good thing. I guess it was a way of saying, "Good luck!
I would love to add some nice words to the new couple together with "Congratulations on your marriage!
But I guess people in the old days used to say "good luck" with tea as an unspoken word for the many hardships they had to go through.
Isn't it nice to be a senior in marriage?
A couple who have gone through many hardships, and when they get older, they turn into two people who cherish that other person more than anyone else.
They were strangers, but they love the other person more than anyone else and cherish the life they have lived with the other person.
It's strange.
They were complete strangers.
You who are about to get married.
Don't just look at the present, look decades into the future
When you care about your partner more than your parents, more than your siblings, more than your children.
In the meantime, there will be more hard times than fun times, and there will be times when you want to leave, but because you didn't leave then, you are here now!
That's because no matter how hard you try, sometimes you just can't do it.
There will be times when you have to break up.
But if you can, go through all the hardships and become the most wonderful couple anyone has ever seen.
I hope that your children will want to be married to a couple like your parents.
And let me tell you something.
It's not often that a couple is unilaterally at fault.
It's always both people's fault.
So don't blame only the other person.
And don't blame only you.
Even if you both blame the other at the time, even if everyone around you speaks ill of the other, think, "What did I think when I married this person?"
Let's think about the warmth that no one else can bring to our marriage after we get over this.
Be happy.
Be the most wonderful couple anyone has ever seen!
