3月22日 お誕生日おめでとうございます
今日の花は【ユキヤナギ】
花ことばは【殊勝】です(^^♪
窓の外は雪が小止みなく待っています
いつも山の湧水を汲みに行っているお婆は、今日でなくて良かった！と胸をなでおろします
この雪が山々にも降り、大地の奥深くまで沈み込み、何年かしたら湧水になってお婆の喉を潤してくれる殊勝な雪です
”殊勝”って言葉を聞くと、大昔のお侍さんを想い出します
お殿様から、「お前は切腹！」と言われると、それが間違っていても切腹しなきゃ行kけなかった。どう考えても理屈に合わないことが殊勝だと言われたのです
現代でも似たようなことがあるよね
もし、あなたの周りでそんな”殊勝”があったら、知～らない！と蹴散らそう
例えば、嫁姑で、周りがお嫁さんのあなただけに我慢を強いるなら、もう無理！と訴えよう
だって、ずっと死ぬまで我慢が続くのはおかしい
でもこの頃はお嫁さんが強いから、姑さんが我慢しているって話もあるね
今の姑さんは可哀そうなのよ。昔の姑にずっと我慢してきたし、自分が姑になったら、お嫁さんが強くなってきて、また我慢
それだったら、お姑さんも嫁にライバル心を燃やすより、今まで頑張って貯めたお金で楽しめばいいよ
でも嫁姑が”殊勝な嫁姑”だったら、周りが全員幸せになるわ
まず、姑さん、若いお嫁さんは姑の年齢を経験していないのに、姑の気持ちを理解しろって無理
あなただって若い時に、ご主人があなたの味方でいてくれたはず
あなたの姑だって、今、あなたが味わっている寂しさを味わっていたのよ
お嫁さんの欠点をあげつらう暇があったら、老後の人生を楽しみなさい
そしてあなたが倒れたときに、お嫁さんがあなたの面倒を診てくれる人だったら、あなたが天国に旅立つ前に、お礼にあなたの財産をお嫁さんに遺しなさい
面倒見てくれなかったら
財産を使い果たすか、あなたの面倒を診てくれた人に遺しなさい
天国に持って行けないお金は、あなたの幸せの為に有効に使おう
だけどお金で人の心を操ろうとしないでね
次にお嫁さん
いつかはあなたも姑になる
姑にならなくても、歳は取る
あなたの姑が嫌な姑だったら、あなたの老後の為にその人を良く見ておきなさい
老後は今まであなたが生きてきた集大成よ
その為に、問題が起きたら、まず心に聞いて動くの
女性は感情で動くことが多いから、損することが多い。
”感情＝好き嫌い”で、動いたら、自分が損よ
”心”はあなたが花を見たら、わぁ綺麗！と言うような素直な心
嫁姑、二人とも殊勝な二人でいたら、周り全員が幸せになる
相手を嫁と思わず、”近所のお嬢さん”で付き合いなさい
相手を姑と思わず、”近所のおばさん”で付き合いなさい
お互いの悪口を想っても、絶対に人に言わない事
他人を思いやるように、相手を思いやる事
さぁ今日から近所の良い人になりましょう
March 21 Happy Birthday!
Today's flower is "Yukiyanagi".
The language of flowers is "laudable".
Outside the window, the snow is waiting for a small stop!
I always go to fetch spring water from the mountain, and I am glad it is not today!
This is an auspicious snow that will fall on the mountains, sink deep into the earth, and after a few years, become spring water to quench my thirst!
The word "laudable" reminds me of the samurai of long ago.
When the lord said to him, "You must commit seppuku! he had to commit seppuku, even if he was wrong. It was said that it was auspicious to do something that didn't make sense no matter how you thought about it.
I'm sure there are some similarities even today.
If you see such "auspiciousness" around you, I don't know! Let's kick them to the curb!
For example, if you are a wife and mother-in-law, and people around you put up with it only for you, then you can't do it anymore!
Because it's not right that you have to put up with something until you die
But I've heard that these days the bride is so strong that the mother-in-law has to put up with a lot.
I feel sorry for your current mother-in-law. She has been putting up with her old mother-in-law for a long time, and when she becomes a mother-in-law herself, her daughter-in-law is getting stronger and stronger, so she has to put up with her again.
If that's the case, your mother-in-law should enjoy the money you've worked so hard to save, instead of having a rivalry with your wife.
But if they were an "auspicious wife and mother-in-law," everyone around them would be happy!
First of all, mother-in-law, it is impossible for a young bride to understand her mother-in-law's feelings when she has not experienced her mother-in-law's age
When you were young, your husband must have been on your side.
Your old mother-in-law also experienced the loneliness you are experiencing now.
If you have time to criticize your wife's shortcomings, enjoy your old age!
And if your son's wife is the one who will take care of you when you fall, bequeath your property to her in return before you leave for heaven.
What if she doesn't take care of you?
Spend your property or leave it to the one who took care of you.
Money you can't take with you to heaven, put it to good use for your happiness.
But don't try to manipulate people's minds with money.
Next, your wife.
Someday you will be a mother-in-law.
Even if you don't become a mother-in-law, you will age.
If your mother-in-law is a jerk, watch her closely so that you don't become one!
Your old age is the culmination of your life
That's why, when a problem arises, we move by asking our hearts first.
Women are often moved by emotions, and this often leads to loss.
If you move based on "feelings = likes and dislikes," you will lose yourself.
The "heart" is the honest heart that when you see a flower, you say, "Wow, it's beautiful!
If both of you are auspicious, everyone around you will be happy.
Don't think of your partner as your son's wife, but as your neighbor's daughter.
Don't think of them as your mother-in-law, but as a neighbor lady
Even if you think bad things about each other, never say them to others.
Be considerate of others as you would be considerate of yourself.
Let's start being a good neighbor today!