2月12日 お誕生日おめでとうございます
今日の花は【スプレーギク】
花ことばは【寛大】です(^^♪
”寛大”なんて、生きていく中で一番難しいかも
特に彼女VS彼のお母さん、嫁姑、”どちらかが寛大になんて、出来るわけない”と思うでしょ
それが出来るんだな
特にあなたみたいに素敵な人は
まず嫁(彼女)の立場で、話しましょうか
料理が得意な姑さんで、あなたは料理が苦手でなくても、張り合わずに誉めまくる
「わぁお義母さん、凄いわぁ。私には出来ない
」お義母さんは腕によりをかけて造り始めるから、あなたはひたすら羨望のまなざしでお義母さんを見つめるのよ
材料費無しで、何食かを作ってもらえて、助かるじゃない
お義母さんが話したあなたの噂を聞いたら、「そうなんですぅ。。。なんでもお義母さんに頼りっぱなしで」と恥ずかしそうに答えたら、もめ事を期待していた人は黙ってしまう・・・
「なんにつけ、お姑さん頼りの嫁なのね」ってさ
嫁姑戦争は負けるが勝ちよ
欲しい物があったら、可愛く目で訴えて、お義母さんに買ってもらいなさい
旦那さんと喧嘩したら、「私が悪かったのかしら」って、実家の親じゃなく、相手の親に泣きつきなさい
嫁姑張り合ってバトルするより、誰から見ても、あなたに悪い噂は出てこないわ
例え離婚になったとしてもね
どんな時も、今、この時を考えるより、将来の結果を考えて行動するの
ご主人の前でも、姑さんの陰口は厳禁
気づいたら、ご主人も姑さんもあなたの罠にはまって、「良く耐えて、頑張ってくれてる・・・・」と感謝してる
それを相手が自分の天下だと誤解していたら、冷静に見極めをつけて、結果をつきつければいい
自分を押さえつけて、我慢して、自分を壊さないでね
あなたはこの世でたった一人の大切な人だって、忘れないでね
さて姑の立場で行きましょうか
まずは逃げる事
息子も嫁も大事だけれど、あなたの生活が一番
暇があったら、遊びに行って、美味しい物を食べて、今まで苦労してきた分、人生を謳歌しなさい
最後は看取ってもらおうなんて考えない
健康に気を付けて、医者頼りを止める
あなたには元々の自己免疫があるわ
好きな事やってこの世とお別れするのと、ベッドに何年も括り付けられて、歩くこともできなくなる人生とどっちがいい
プライドを惨めにして子供たちに気を遣うより、持っている資産をぎりぎりまで使い切って、「あばよ」とこの世にお別れする方がかっこいい
お婆なんて、死亡届の書き方、お骨の処理方法、葬儀はしないから、友人へ死んだとの連絡ハガキまで準備済
葬式しなくても天国に行けるわよ
その上で実家秘伝のたくあんがめっちゃ評判いいから、商売始めようと準備中
ここまで長生きしてきたら、最後は楽しまなきゃ
伴侶の変わりはいないわよ、大事になさい
誰よりも、自分が一番ってことを忘れないでね
最後に一言
お嫁さん(彼女)、姑になったら、お義母さんがどんな気持ちだったか分かるわ
お姑さん、昔を想い出したら若いお嫁さんの気持ちを理解できるよね
どちらも間違ったことしてないから、誰も攻撃できないわ
あなたはどこからみても”寛大”よ
自分の人生を楽しんでね
February 12 Happy Birthday!
Today's flower is "Spray Giku".
The language of flowers is "generosity.
Generosity" may be the most difficult thing in life!
Especially her vs. his mother, wife and mother-in-law, you think, "How can either of them be generous?
But you can. Especially someone as nice as you are.
First of all, let's talk from the standpoint of a wife (or girlfriend).
She's a good cook, your mother-in-law, and you're not a bad cook, but you don't compete with her, you praise her.
Your mother-in-law is a good cook, and you are not a bad cook. She starts to cook with great skill, and you just stare at her with envy.
You are very grateful that you can cook some meals for us without paying for the ingredients.
Even if your mother-in-law says to herself, "My wife can't do anything...", leave her alone!
When your mother-in-law spreads rumors about you, if you say shyly, "Oh yes............................. I rely on my mother-in-law for everything." When you answer shyly, the person who was expecting trouble shuts up...
They said, "You're a wife who relies on your mother-in-law for everything."
In the war between mother and daughter-in-law, the loser always wins.
If you want something, make a pretty complaint with your eyes and ask your mother-in-law to buy it for you.
If you have a fight with your husband, cry to his parents, not your own parents, asking if it was my fault.
Instead of fighting with your wife and mother-in-law, you won't get a bad reputation from anyone.
Even if you end up divorced.
At all times, think less about the here and now and more about the future consequences of your actions.
Do not talk about your mother-in-law behind her back, even in front of your husband.
If you notice, both your husband and your mother-in-law have fallen into your trap, and they are thankful that you are enduring well and doing your best ・・・・
And if they misunderstand that, you can calmly discern and confront them with the consequences.
Don't hold yourself back, don't hold back, don't destroy yourself.
Don't forget that you are the only person who matters in this world!
Let's put ourselves in your mother-in-law's shoes, shall we?
First of all, you must run away.
Your son and daughter-in-law are important, but your life comes first.
When you have free time, go out, eat good food, and enjoy life as much as you've worked so hard for.
Don't think about having someone take care of you at the end.
Take care of yourself and stop relying on doctors.
I'd rather say goodbye to this world doing what I love, or be confined to a bed for years on end, unable to walk.
It's cooler to spend the last of your assets and say "adios" to the world than to be miserable with your pride and worry about your children.
I've already prepared the death certificate, how to dispose of the bones, and even postcards to friends to tell them she's dead because there won't be a funeral.
You don't need a funeral to go to heaven.
On top of that, my family's secret recipe of takuan (pickled radish) has a great reputation, so I'm preparing to start a business.
After living this long, you have to enjoy it in the end.
No one can replace your spouse, so take good care of her.
Don't forget that you come first before anyone else.
One last thing.
Wife (or girlfriend), when you become a mother-in-law, you'll understand how your mother-in-law felt.
Mother-in-law, when you think back to the past, you can understand how your young daughter-in-law felt.
Neither of you did anything wrong, so no one can attack you.
You are, for all intents and purposes, "magnanimous.
Enjoy your life.