2月11日 お誕生日おめでとうございます
今日の花は【アフリカン・キンセンカ】
花ことばは【元気】です(^^♪
「こんにちは お元気
」と聞かれて、「ハイ、元気です
」と即座に答えられる人は50％くらいでしょうか
30％の人は、「まぁまぁ・・・」と微笑し、15％の人は、「それがねぇ・・・」と曇った声で話し出し、残りの5％は「だめなのよぉ」と泣きそうな声を出す
最初の50％のあなたは、「元気でいいことだわ
」と返事を返しましょう
「まぁまぁ・・・」の30％のあなた、「甘えたいでしょ
」これと言って問題はないのだけれど、人の気持ちを引きたい欲望が顔を覗かせている
ちょっと顔見知りの人に、恥を話すほど非常識人ではないけれど、心が鬱々としているから、ついそんな返事になったのね
心に聞いてごらんなさい
「元気だよ
」って笑ってるわ
「それがねぇ・・・」って返事をしたあなた、ご近所で面白い話を聞いてきたから、話したくて仕方がない
自分ちの不幸でなかったら、どれだけ話したって平気と思ってるでしょ
でもね、反対の立場で、近所の人があなたのことをべらべら話していたら、むかつかない裏切られたって思うでしょ
その原因は最初に話したのはあなた自身よ
まずは立ち話でも噂話は止めましょ
最後の5％
あなただから、その人はあなたに話したんだと思う
あなただったら、受け止めてくれるって信じて話したんだと思う
だから、誠実に話を受け止めて、あなたの心の小箱にしまって、しっかりと鍵をかけて、相手からもう一度相談が来るまで、黙って見守りなさい
相手はそんなあなたを見て、ますます心からの信頼と感謝と尊敬を送るわ
女性に多いけれど、何十年前に起こした小さな事をどれだけたっても、「あの人って、昔ね・・・」って話す
反対の立場に立って、何十年前の事を今でもやってるみたいに話されたら、やってられないと思わない
何十年前は何十年前、今は今、そう考えるのが大人じゃないかな
昔、人がおこしたトラブルを、今でも話したがる人は、つまらない人でしかありえない
どんな人の事も、良い話で締めくくったら、あなたの価値はあなたが思う以上に上がります
ブーメランみたいに、人の悪口言ったら、それはあなたに返ってくる
せっかくこの世に生まれて生きているんだもの、どうせならあなたの価値をどんどん上げた生き方がすっごい素敵よ
February 11 Happy Birthday!
Today's flower is African calendula.
The language of the flower is "vigor" (^^♪♪)
Hi, how are you?" I'd say about 50% of people can answer immediately, "Hi, I'm fine.
30% will smile and say, "Well, well...", 15% will start speaking in a cloudy voice, "That's the thing...", and the remaining 5% will sound like they are about to cry, "No, no...".
The first 50% of you, "It's good that you're doing well," I'll respond back with, "That's good to hear.
The 30% of you who say, "Well, well...", "You want to be pampered, don't you?" There's nothing wrong with that, but your desire to impress others is showing in your face.
You are not insane enough to talk about your shame to someone you know a little bit, but you are so depressed inside that you just had to reply like that.
Ask your heart.
It's smiling at you and saying, "I'm fine."
You replied, "That's the thing..." You've heard some interesting stories about your neighbors, and you're eager to tell them.
You think that if it wasn't your family's misfortune, you wouldn't care how much you talked about it.
But if you were on the other side, and your neighbors were blabbing about you, you would feel disgusted and betrayed.
And since you were the one who told them in the first place, you're the one who should hold a grudge.
First of all, stop gossiping, even if you're just standing around.
The last 5%.
I think he/she told you because it was you.
I think he/she talked to you because he/she believed that you would accept it.
So, accept the conversation sincerely, put it in a small box in your heart, lock it up tightly, and watch over it silently until the other person asks you for advice again.
The other person will see you like this and send you more and more sincere trust, gratitude and respect.
Many women talk about small things that happened decades ago, but no matter how long it takes, they always say, "She used to do that...".
If you stand on the opposite side and talk as if you are still doing what you did decades ago, don't you think you can't do it?
Decades ago was decades ago, and now is now, and I think it's mature to think that way.
A person who still wants to talk about the troubles people caused in the past can only be a boring person.
If you end with a good story about any person, your value will increase more than you think!
Like a boomerang, if you say bad things about people, it will come back to you.
You were born into this world and you're alive, so it would be great to live a life where your value is increasing