More about realistic goal setting.
'You can not make a crab walk straight.' Aristophones
The importance of setting realistic goals can be a great influence on the achievability of change. If the desired outcome is possible it change to the new desired state can not occur.
An American performance coach, Bob Davies, talks about the need to set realistic goals AND consequences if the goals are not achieved. He uses the gym as an example. In trying to get fit a person signs up to the gym. They make a commitment to attend four or five times a week. The problem for most people is it is too huge a step. From nothing to five times a week is a big change. Better to start with two times a week and gradually build up.
The consequences have to be significant.
If you want to loose weight and you decide to diet, no chocolate or 'bad' food and you set a realistic target. If you don't reach that target what are the consequences?
What if you didn't reach your realistic target and there were real consequences. Before you start your diet if you don't loose 1kg a week over four weeks you have to pay half of your wage to .........? Here you insert a group or club or political organisation you hate.
Bob Davies uses the example of a left leaning student behind in his university work. He agrees to post date cheques to the Nazi party. If any assignments are late the Nazi party gets the money. Guess what? All his work was in on time.
Set realistic goals.
Set consequences to spur you on.