About me: early 50's, British, work in IT.
Noa was a 20yr old student living in Roppongi. Said she worked at a girl's bar (I'm assuming kyabakura or kyabakura-adjacent). Lovely first coffee. She was a 10/10 on looks. Happy, bubbly. Was the first person I met for a coffee that I wanted to have dinner with again. We booked a dinner date for the next week.
Now, here's where I have to explain a few things. By this time I was beginning to understand that p-katsu was NOT dating. Mentioning the conditions under which you'd want to meet was not rude - in fact, the opposite. Giving the other person clarity on at least your initial expectations is the best thing you can do - saves everybody time.
By this time I had generally figured this out and had proposed a '1' (ie Y10,000) for the initial tea/coffee (kaoawase) and 5 (Y50k) for a hotel date (otona). What I had NOT done was suggested something for the in-between dinners.
A day or two before our dinner, she pings me on LINE and says basically, "sorry I forgot to clarify but can you do '2' for dinners". Now, since I hadn't clarified a price up front, I was now slightly stuck. If I refuse I look cheap, so at this point I have to agree to 2. So I do.
And dinner was fantastic. She was lovely, engaging, funny. Didn't hurt at all that she looked fantastic in a pair of spray-painted on low-rider jeans and a tight t-shirt. She was not flirty in a way that you would expect from someone working in a girl's bar - ie, she didn't initiate touching at all. But dinner was great.
The next day I reached out to schedule the next dinner and softly suggested the date include a hotel. She said her work schedule during the month made it hard to have dinner + hotel dates, let's wait until the next month. Reasonable enough.
Before dinner, I happen to be in her neck of the woods in the evening. I ping her, she agrees to come out for a drink. Here's my rookie mistake #2 - I had not specified a price for dates that were not dinner or hotel. But again - I think there's a payday at the end of this, so figure I'll pay the 2 now as a downpayment. And here's the first sign that something is slightly amiss. We get to the bar where we agreed to meet. She sits in a corner stool with the wall to her back and right...and puts her bag on the chair next to her on the left. Which means I am now sitting on a stool across from her instead of next to her.
This fairly deliberate move to establish physical spacing is a clear and obvious sign of someone that isn't really that keen to go beyond meeting for dinners / drinks. For the very obvious reason that it's otherwise really awkward to go from no physical touching etc straight to a hotel.
We had one more dinner after that. She went to the wrong restaurant so she was 45 minutes late. Dinner was again lovely but with zero physical contact, and I realized that she was simply never going to go beyond meeting for dinners...and even if she did, it would be with zero warmth (performance or otherwise). So I stopped seeing her.
I've now met enough people to see that there are hot women on the app that will go out to dinner with you but had seen zero evidence that this p-katsu thing would actually produce what I was looking for. And that's when I met Hina...
To be continued...