相手を想いやる力と言うのは、個々がお互いに意識しないと成り立たないものだと感じます。
矢印が一方的であれば、それはいつか崩れてしまうものなのではないでしょうか。
「持ちつ持たれつ」と言う言葉があります。お互いを想いやる相互扶助の言葉ですが、周りが見えている人だからこそそれができるのではないでしょうか。
周りが見えていない方は相手が想いやっている事さえ気づかず見過ごして行ってしまう事を理解すべきだと感じます。
相手がどうこうと言うよりもまずは、自分自身が仲間と思う人に対して想いやる事を意識しなくてはいけません。
相手の立場になって自分だったらどう思うかと言う事を、相手の目線になって考えること。そして、それに対して自分に見返りを求めない事が大事であり、そこに苛立ちを覚えたりしないで常に平常心である事こそが大切です。
それは、自分からの「give」にあたるものになるはずですから。
Friendships grow from the power of caring for each other.
I feel that caring for others is something that cannot exist unless each person is conscious of the other.
If the arrow is one-sided, it will eventually collapse.
There is a word called “give and take.” It is a word for mutual aid and caring for each other, but I think it can only be done by people who can see what is going on around them.
I feel that people who cannot see what is going on around them should understand that they will not even notice the things that others are caring for and will overlook them.
Rather than worrying about what others think, you must first be conscious of caring for those you consider to be friends.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think from their perspective about what you would think if you were them. And it is important not to expect anything in return, and it is important to always remain calm and not get irritated by it.
Because that should be a kind of “give” from yourself.