The way of advice

I like the way of having advice which is not heard like suggestion.

When someone insists on in a strong way, I feel like ignoring even if it's absolutely correct... when someone nice makes suggestions in such style, I feel very sorry for the person to my rude attitude. (today, I just said, "that's ok, I'm getting more confused")

,and I came to a conclusion today. maybe, I just wanted conversation, so that I may be able to free up myself and come up with some idea on my own.

maybe, it's the same when someone asks me something.
They don't want serious comments from me. sometime, someone may want to talk seriously, but even if it's the case, I should not be too serious. If I make advice or suggestions, I want to make advice which are not treated like an advice.

How Can I comfort my friend's grief....?

My frined texted me in this morning. We'd worked at the same company some years back, where I started my career in the first place. We've been friends since then.

Her mother had already sufferred from cancer when we first met.

She just asked me in the text if everything's OK for me. I felt unusual, so I didn't mention myself in the reply, just asked the same to her, and she's not.

Her mother passed away yesterday.

She said that she lost all the meaning in her life. I believe that it's true to her.

I once felt she gave up a lot of things young girl wanted, but I just think that she hasn't even realized that fact.

because, her mother is everything to her. Her mother had been sick since she was just a kid. so it is natural for her to take care of her mom in all her life. She did everything she could.
made dinner, study diet, look for supplements, take her mom to trip.. etc everthing she can come up with to prolong mom's life.

Her father has been sick longer than her mom and had been hospitalized. It's a kind of disease without a cure.... She has a younger brother, who are married and lived separately from her now. Her brother is not so close to the family.

She felt really alone now. All I could do for her in this morning was calling her.. from my work..
I'm really worrying about her. but I don't know how I can comfort her..
I wish I can see her smiling again....