The belief that you do not deserve it is devastating in that it destructs your intention to live your life to the full.
Due this belief, you;
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Try to contain within yourself
such sensations as anger, frustration, angst, disgust, hatred, distaste, and so
on which you deem to be negative.
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Strive to be perfect in
workplace as well as at home to cover up your imperfection.
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Fear to make mistakes.
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Have fear of silence during small
talks among friends, colleagues, and even family members.
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Force yourself into an awkward smile
in situations where no smile is appropriate.
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Are too afraid to talk with high
ranking officers in a firm.
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Pretend to know something you
do not know.
I believe that these behaviors or mental
states in one way or another stem from the malfunctioning belief that you do not
deserve it. You assume those behaviors or mental states because you do not love
yourself well and properly enough, and so, you try to seek love or approval from
other people to fill in the lack thereof.
In order to be loved, you try your very best
to entertain, please, or flatter other people around you just to make them
happy, without knowing that what you really have to do is just love yourself,
and love yourself so deeply that you do not have to be afraid to be true to
yourself.
“You do not deserve it”, or ”you do not
deserve to be loved”. You have to start with yourself. Unless you learn to love
yourself, you do not learn to be loved by others. Unless you learn to love
yourself, you cannot love others, as you are unable to give what you do not
possess.