「離婚した男性が書いた
結婚に関する20のアドバイス」
A Divorced Man Wrote These 20 Epic Marriage Advice
He Wished He Could Have Had.
1. 愛することやデートすることをやめない
2. 自分自身の心を守る
3. 何度も何度も何度も恋に落ちる
4. 妻（夫）の良いところをみるようにする
5. 妻（夫）の性格を変えようとしない
6. 自分の感情に責任を持つ
7. 妻（夫）を非難しない
8. 妻（夫）の感情の波を受け入れる
9. 真剣になりすぎず、バカになる
10. 妻（夫）の心を満たしてあげる
11. 妻（夫）ときちんと向き合う
12. 妻（夫）を女性（男性）として扱うことを忘れない
13. 愚か者にならない。間違いは正す。
14. 妻（夫）にリラックスできる環境を与える
15. 時には弱みを見せる
16. 妻（夫）に対して気取らず率直になる
17. 常に一緒に成長し続ける
18. お金のことを心配しすぎない
19. 妻（夫）を許す
20. 迷ったら常に愛を選ぶ
1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.
3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married,
4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand.
5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing.
6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad.
7) NEVER BLAME your wife If you get frustrated or angry, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU.
8) Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok.
9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED.
11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul.
12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul.
13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make.
14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself.
15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fear and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share.
17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool.
18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it.
19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage.
20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need.
重苦しくなり過ぎない事も
真面目でいなければいけない事も
帳尻が難しいし
これが全てではないでしょう。
しかし
お互いに欠けてはならないものは
『思いやり』
これに尽きるでしょう。
しかも
お互いの性格を理解した上での
思いやり。
でないと思いやりが思いやりでは
なくなってしまう可能性もありますよね。
今夜も癒しの時間をお過ごしください❤
結婚に関する20のアドバイス」
A Divorced Man Wrote These 20 Epic Marriage Advice
He Wished He Could Have Had.
1. 愛することやデートすることをやめない
2. 自分自身の心を守る
3. 何度も何度も何度も恋に落ちる
4. 妻（夫）の良いところをみるようにする
5. 妻（夫）の性格を変えようとしない
6. 自分の感情に責任を持つ
7. 妻（夫）を非難しない
8. 妻（夫）の感情の波を受け入れる
9. 真剣になりすぎず、バカになる
10. 妻（夫）の心を満たしてあげる
11. 妻（夫）ときちんと向き合う
12. 妻（夫）を女性（男性）として扱うことを忘れない
13. 愚か者にならない。間違いは正す。
14. 妻（夫）にリラックスできる環境を与える
15. 時には弱みを見せる
16. 妻（夫）に対して気取らず率直になる
17. 常に一緒に成長し続ける
18. お金のことを心配しすぎない
19. 妻（夫）を許す
20. 迷ったら常に愛を選ぶ
1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.
3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married,
4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand.
5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing.
6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad.
7) NEVER BLAME your wife If you get frustrated or angry, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU.
8) Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok.
9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED.
11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul.
12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul.
13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make.
14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself.
15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fear and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share.
17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool.
18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it.
19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage.
20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need.
重苦しくなり過ぎない事も
真面目でいなければいけない事も
帳尻が難しいし
これが全てではないでしょう。
しかし
お互いに欠けてはならないものは
『思いやり』
これに尽きるでしょう。
しかも
お互いの性格を理解した上での
思いやり。
でないと思いやりが思いやりでは
なくなってしまう可能性もありますよね。
今夜も癒しの時間をお過ごしください❤