家族との関係って、とっても大きいのです。
もう大人になって、いろいろあったけど家族のことは理解していて
尊敬もしていて、まぁ、どっちかって言ったら好きだと思えるし、と思う方。
それか、もう大人になったし、頼らなくてもいいし、
自分で生きていけるから関係はそこそこでいいや、と思う方。
今、大人として家族との関係を考えてみると
小さい頃のそれとは全然違う、大人の自分としての回答が出てくることが多いと思います。
今日は、そのことについて少し述べています。
How do you feel when you think of your family?
Do you feel happy or unhappy?
Are they good or bad memories come back to your mind?
I assume that the readers of this blog are already adult people.
So, you might think "my family is good. There were some moments that I had struggle with. But now, I've grown up enough to understand them and respect them."
Or,
"My family always hurted me. I don't want to stay close to them. But now I've grown enough to have good-distance relationship with them. So, I just see them and play my role as a member of family as needed."
Yes, we've grown up as a adult.
We are mature enough to understand our parents' backgrownd of when we were hurted sometimes.
Yes, "understanding" as a adult is a great sign of that we have a sense of caring people, not being selfish.
But if it is just consiously omitting your negatieve feeling and put your made "adult" to front, you should remember, behind your made adult, there is very hurted and crying little you.
Just remember you are not with adult-self, you are with a little you.