During I stayed in my colleague house, she told me about "how man acts", and introduced me a book called "Otokono Torisetsu".
According to the book, men have this certain area he doesnt want to be invaded. And women keep invading this are by asking so many questions. Once he felt he was invaded this area, he shut you out, and never try to talk about the issue.
Actually, for men, "lets talk about XX(whatever issues between couples" wont work. Because most of the time, a woman insists how bad he is, and how right she is. Talking about the something is not "talk" but just "judging" him.
After I read this book, I decided to NOT try to judge him.
Just convey the message what I am thinking, and how I feel, and what I want, but never judge him.
And I searched that theres two types of Domestic Violence man.
One is mendable, and the other is NOT mendable.
For mendable one, it is called "gekkogata", which means he hits you when he gets furious for invading his territory.
So I stopped doing that.
I have to note that I said "thank you for picking up children" to him, but he said " I dont forgive you for leaving home"
Ok, things wont turned out immediately, but see whats gonna happen next.