Was thinking about this when bathing just now.
Actually, it's not the first time I've thought about this.
I don't know whether it's a good or bad point but I think it's not very good.
I think people might find me ridiculous for the sudden change of attitude.
I guess the reason is because when I have not known the person for long, I tend to tolerate whatever things I do not like about the person, and get along well with the person.
People might say, it's better to say things out.
But I guess it's just me... by the time I "say it out", it means the person has already gone way beyond the limit border line...
Meaning I already dislike the person alot till I can't tolerate anymore.
It happened to me and my ex, he kept saying personality has got nothing to do with r/s.
In fact, it is a big problem because if 2 persons can't get along, they can't be together for long, for sure.
He was arguing in one of our quarrels that I wasn't like that before and blah blah.
Actually, I think initially, love is blind, and of course you wouldn't think of your the other one as a bad person right?
And even if there were some parts of him I did not like I would just tolerate.
As time pass, I realise I couldn't take it anymore.
I would get pissed off with the most tiny thing he do be it good or bad.
Finally had a clean break after struggling for months (meaning a few months = already breakup but not clean break).
Then as Murphy's Law or the Rule of Life goes, whatever you can't handle will come back to you.
I was quite okay with my colleague when I joined this company.
I did not really like her character and there's many parts of her I dislike.
Nevertheless, we still got along and had lots to chat.
As time passes, I realise that I could not take it anymore.
Then I sorta burst and she also knew I dislike her alot, and she's showing a fucking attitude and fucking face everyday now.
It's like she'd far cross the borderline.
PATIENCE HAS ITS LIMITS!!
Though people who cross the limits usually do not realise it.
I'm now trying to handle this mental torture almost everyday.
People might laugh at me, but I really got diarrohea due to nervous breakdown.
Sometimes maybe it's me who is being sensitive but that's because I really dislike her so much to the extent that I hate to see her stupid face.
Somehow I feel that it's quite similiar to my ex.
Some common traits includes being extremely naggy, always thinking they are right and expect people to think the same (often illogical), attitude problem (as in the way they speak) and "trying to make people feel they are very good people.
I would not list them as an individual but would rather group them as one kind.
The kind of people that I hate most.
Of course, anyone being labelled into that group would deny all these accuses and insist they are right (not necessary mentioning the word "I am right").
Therefore, it's a waste of energy to argue with them; it would just results in nothing but more irritation.
Maybe one day when I have the mood or need to vent my frustration I would post the long story of how irritating that bitch is and why I hate her so much.
For goodness sake.
I have handled one of such person and handling one now.
Dear god, please get them out of my life!!