The process of loving the self
As I have said before,no matter wha the problem, the main issue to work on is LOVING THE SELF,
This is the magic wand that dessolves problems.
Remenber the times when you have felt good about yourself and how well your life was going?
Remenber the times when you were in love and for those periods you seemed to have no problems?
Well, loving yourself is going to bring such a surge of good feelings and good fortune to you that you will be dancing on air.
loving yourself maks you fell good.
it is impossible to really love yourself unless you have self-approval and self-acceptance.
This means no criticism whatsoever . I can hear all the objections right now.
But i have always criticizedmyself.
How can i possibly like that about myself?
My parents teachers lovers always criticized me.
How will i be motivated?
How am i going to change if i don't criticize myself?
Training The Mind
self-criticizm such as that illustrated above is just the mind going on with old chatter . see how you have trained your mind to berate you and be resistant to change?
gnore those thoughts and get on with the important work at hand!
In the days when my own self-denial was so prevalent,
I would occasionally slap my own face.
I didn't know the meaning of self-acceptance.
My belief in my own lacks and limitations was stronger than anything anyone else could say to the country.
If someone toid me i was loved, my immediate reaction was, why? what could anyone possibly see in me?
Or the classic thought, If they only knew what i was really like inside, they wouldn't love me.
I was not aware that all good begins with accepting that which is within one's self, and loving that self which is you.
I took quite a while to develop a peaceful,loving relationship with myself.
First , i used to hunt for the little things about myself that i thought were good qualities even this helped and my own health began to improve. good health begins with loving the self. So do prosperity and love and creative self -expression. Later i learned to love and approve of all of me, even those qualoties i thought were not good enough that was when i really began to make progress.
Exercise I Approve of my self
For the next month, say over and over to yourself, I Approve of myself.
Do this three or four hundred times a day , at least, No it's not too many times. When you are worring, you go over your problem at least that many times. Let I approve of myself become a walking mantra, something you just say over and over and over to youeself, almost nonstop.
Saying i approve of myself is a guaranteed way to bring up everything buried in your consciousness that is in opposition.
When negative thoughts come up, such as How can i approve of myself when i am fat? or it'S silly to think this can do any good or I am no good or whatever your negative babble will be. this is the time to them for what they are - another way to keo you stuck in the past. Gently say to these thoughts, I let you go I approve of myself/
Even concidering doing this exercize can bring up a lot of stuff , like It feels silly, I does't feel true, It's a lie, It sounds stuck up, or How i can i approve myself when i do that?
Let all these thoughts just pass thourgh. These are only resistance thoughts.
They have no pawer over you unless you chose to believe them.
I approve of myself, I approve of myself, I approve of myself.
No matter what happens , no matter who says to you, no matter who does what to you, just keep it going.
In fact when you can say that to yourself when someone is doing something you don't approve of you, will know you are growing and changing.
Thoughts have no power over us unless we give in o them.
Thoughts are only words strung together, they have no MEANING
WHATEVER. only we give meaning to them.
Let us choose to think thoughts that nourish and support us.
