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The process of loving the self
As I have said before,no matter wha the problem, the main issue to work on is LOVING THE SELF,
This is the magic wand that dessolves problems.
Remenber the times when you have felt good about yourself and how well your life was going?
Remenber the times when you were in love and for those periods you seemed to have no problems?
Well, loving yourself is going to bring such a surge of good feelings and good fortune to you that you will be dancing on air.
loving yourself maks you fell good.
it is impossible to really love yourself unless you have self-approval and self-acceptance.
This means no criticism whatsoever . I can hear all the objections right now.
But i have always criticizedmyself.
How can i possibly like that about myself?
My parents teachers lovers always criticized me.
How will i be motivated?
How am i going to change if i don't criticize myself?
Training The Mind
self-criticizm such as that illustrated above is just the mind going on with old chatter . see how you have trained your mind to berate you and be resistant to change?
gnore those thoughts and get on with the important work at hand!
In the days when my own self-denial was so prevalent,
I would occasionally slap my own face.
I didn't know the meaning of self-acceptance.
My belief in my own lacks and limitations was stronger than anything anyone else could say to the country.
If someone toid me i was loved, my immediate reaction was, why? what could anyone possibly see in me?
Or the classic thought, If they only knew what i was really like inside, they wouldn't love me.
I was not aware that all good begins with accepting that which is within one's self, and loving that self which is you.
I took quite a while to develop a peaceful,loving relationship with myself.
First , i used to hunt for the little things about myself that i thought were good qualities even this helped and my own health began to improve. good health begins with loving the self. So do prosperity and love and creative self -expression. Later i learned to love and approve of all of me, even those qualoties i thought were not good enough that was when i really began to make progress.
Exercise I Approve of my self
For the next month, say over and over to yourself, I Approve of myself.
Do this three or four hundred times a day , at least, No it's not too many times. When you are worring, you go over your problem at least that many times. Let I approve of myself become a walking mantra, something you just say over and over and over to youeself, almost nonstop.
Saying i approve of myself is a guaranteed way to bring up everything buried in your consciousness that is in opposition.
When negative thoughts come up, such as How can i approve of myself when i am fat? or it'S silly to think this can do any good or I am no good or whatever your negative babble will be. this is the time to them for what they are - another way to keo you stuck in the past. Gently say to these thoughts, I let you go I approve of myself/
Even concidering doing this exercize can bring up a lot of stuff , like It feels silly, I does't feel true, It's a lie, It sounds stuck up, or How i can i approve myself when i do that?
Let all these thoughts just pass thourgh. These are only resistance thoughts.
They have no pawer over you unless you chose to believe them.
I approve of myself, I approve of myself, I approve of myself.
No matter what happens , no matter who says to you, no matter who does what to you, just keep it going.
In fact when you can say that to yourself when someone is doing something you don't approve of you, will know you are growing and changing.
Thoughts have no power over us unless we give in o them.
Thoughts are only words strung together, they have no MEANING
WHATEVER. only we give meaning to them.
Let us choose to think thoughts that nourish and support us.
This page is for my English learning.
Dear Hiro
you can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think
unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you
cotinue to choose to be angry and resentful?
Thoughts of bitterness can not create joy.
No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what "hey " did, if you insist on holding on o the past, then you will never be free.
Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past..
when you feel that you are stuk in some situation, or when your affirmations are not working,
it usually means that you are holding on to a past morment, or sometimes even a desire for revenge.
each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come in to the present morment. only in the present momen can you create your future.
if you are hoidingon to the past, you can not be in the present.
it is only in this "now" moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really do not want to waste your current thoughts by continuing to create your future from the garbage of the past.
When you blame another, you ive your own power away becouse you are placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else responses in you.
Hoever ,they did not get into your mind and crete the buttons that have been pushed.
Taking responsibility for your own feelings and reactions is mastering your "ability to respond. In other words, you learn to consciously choose rather simply react.
Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for mamy people,
But know that there's a difference between forgiveness and acceptance.
Forgiveness someone doesn't mean that you condone their behavior!
The act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind.
It really has nothing to do with the other person.
The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting yourself free from the pain.
It's simply an act releasing yourself from the negative energy that you've chosen to hold on to.
Also , forgiveness doesn't mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in youe life.
Sometimes forgiveness means letting go : you forgive that person and then you release them.
Taking you can do -not only for yourself, but for the other person as well.
No matter what your reasons are for having bitter, unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. you have a choice. you can choose to stay stuck and reesetful, or you can do yourself a favor by wilingly forgiving what happend in the past, letting it go: and then moving on to create a joyous, fulfillin life. You have the freedom to make your life anyhing you want it to be becouse you freedom of choice.
Positive Affirmations Forgiveness
Today I listen to my feelings,and I am gentle with myself. I know that all of my fellings are my friends.
I give myself the gift of freedom from the past, and move with joy into the now.
I get the help I need , When I needed it, from various sources, My support system is storong and loving.
There is no problem so big or so small it cannot be sloved with love.
I am ready to be healed, I am willing to forgive. All is well.
When I make a mistake, I realize that it is only part of the learning process.
I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all.
I know that old, patterns no longer limit me, I let them go with ease.
I am forgiving, loving,gentle,and kind,and I know that life loves me.
As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
