Lately, I’ve been struggling a bit with the cultural differences between me and my girlfriend. It’s nothing serious, but there are moments where I find myself feeling a little lost—like how often we should text each other or how affectionate we should be when we meet. These small things add up, and sometimes I just don’t know what the "right" thing to do is.
One thing that really stands out is how we view gifts. When I give her something, it’s not because I expect anything in return. For me, the real gift is the time we share—the little moments that money can’t buy. But for her, showing appreciation seems to mean giving something back, even in a material way. And honestly, I’d rather she save her money instead. What truly makes me happy is just seeing her smile, watching her light up—that alone is more than enough for me. That’s what I want to tell her when we meet.
Also… we recently had our one-month anniversary, and I had planned to give her a letter. But I couldn’t. Not because I forgot or didn’t care, but because I wanted it to be perfect. Writing the kind of letter that truly expresses my feelings takes time, and I just didn’t finish it in time. I didn’t want to give her something rushed or half-hearted, so I decided to wait and give it to her a little later. When I finally do, I want to tell her, “I’m sorry I couldn’t give this to you on the actual day. It took me longer than I expected, but that’s because I wanted it to be just right.”
I just hope she understands.