Childhood do not compete, grow only winchildhood do not compete, grow up before winning text / Yin Jianli period of childhood is a special time in life, some energy savings during the lifetime. In the promotion of competition today, many parents put their children's childhood Air Jordan Outlet is also intense competition in the state, this is really good? Wrote 'good mother than a good teacher' Yin Jianli, in his new book, 'education is the most simple and beautiful,' said the task is not outwardly extension of childhood, Nike Air Max 1 but inwardly accumulation. Powerful inner strength of a person, in order to control their own good in the future it may handle the relationship Nike Air Max between yourself and the world, and gain the initiative in the transaction is the culture of life and the normal sequence logic competitiveness. Childhood competition is busy, the child's ability may be, both mental and physical health have serious side effects. All along, our habits are advocating competition, like advocating the virtues of the same; and many people think that the sense of competition to from an early age, as required from an early age as a virtue. This is actually a misunderstanding. This misunderstanding appears there are two main reasons, one is overestimated the \u0026 ldquo; competition \u0026 rdquo; the positive meaning, and second, do not understand what is the main task of childhood. Life is not completely without competition, we do not deny that competition gave rise to a sense of accomplishment, to promote social progress. But competition must hold two degrees, a psychological level, one is the age dimension. The former said that \u0026 ldquo; moderate \u0026 rdquo; competition is good, do not \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;; loss of the latter said was not suitable for people of any age can participate in the competition, the lives of the elderly and children should not have to compete. Because they are vulnerable, very little energy in the body itself, the competition consume energy, in the elderly will accelerate wither in children will affect their normal growth. Competition for the elderly has not been a widespread social problem, but intensified competition for children. Want their children promising future, be able to win the competition in society, this goal itself is true, as Juvenile cherished ideals as never wrong. But if you want to believe that a child's sense of competition from an early age, when a child is young to promote his participation in the competition, which is wrong. Childhood is a very unique age group has its own unique mission. Children grow into the normal course of an adult, it is a by the \u0026 ldquo; small animal \u0026 rdquo; to \u0026 ldquo; people \u0026 rdquo; evolutionary history, namely \u0026 ldquo; natural \u0026 rdquo; to \u0026 ldquo; social man \u0026 rdquo; over history. Newborn baby and a head newborn calves as ignorant, physically more delicate than calves, from childhood to adulthood of time much longer than the Mavericks. This is orchestrated nature, it has to have enormous potential for every life, leaving enough time energy savings. Barley like small green shoots over to wheat Shuozhuang must take time and, like the sun and rain, there have been relatively long period of time, and strict, insurmountable order. Childhood task is not to extend outwardly, but inwardly accumulation. Powerful inner strength of a person, in order to control their own good in the future it may handle the relationship between yourself and the world, and gain the initiative in the transaction is the culture of life and the normal sequence logic competitiveness. Under the responsibility of adults is not to disturb the child's self-development, conditional to give them some boost power \u0026 mdash; \u0026 mdash; that is, we often say that the Enlightenment to give children a good education, good child care curiosity, the development of the child free will, so that children have happiness \u0026 mdash; on the Education a constant truth, it is the inherent potential for children to explore, to fulfill his future competitiveness of the simplest and most important means. Unfortunately, now, a lot of people do not see these simple educational elements hidden forces, more willing to spend their energy on some of the immediate competition matters. The reason is that society needs to compete, should young children's sense of competition. I must say that this seemingly long-term idea, in fact, short-sighted. Such psychological parents often own comparisons heavy heart, like to instill in their children the truth of some of the jungle, like care of some quantifiable external gains and losses, such as Tang will be back a few more than others, first, whether the focus on school achievement how would you rank, how many received a certificate \u0026 hellip; \u0026 hellip; and so on, not only to guide their children than others, but also to promote children and their rivalry, less concerned with the feelings of the inner child. When the child was transferred to the attention of various \u0026 ldquo; than \u0026 rdquo; on things, self-growth forces began to disperse, and the sense of competition brought about by anxiety child will consume more energy \u0026 hellip; \u0026 hellip; heart becomes increasingly the more weak. I have received a letter from the parents of such a letter, a letter is a second-year students of the parents, the letter is written like this: Yesterday, my son came home from school, do their homework at night Shihai good, now come up with a piece of paper began to cry, I thought did not test well, a glance at the score, 99 points, I ask how is it? He asked: \u0026 ldquo; mother, my math is a test 100 points, how old language examinations do not test 100? \u0026 Rdquo ;, said, began to cry. I used to tell him your way, you own the papers completely revised, if the whole of, or 100 points. He said with tears, but the teacher is not there 100 points today, let us reflect on why the teacher did not get 100 points. I tell my son, I did not have 100 points it does not matter, it is important to learn the things have not mastered. Children nod seemed to understand, but when homework or sad mood is not high, attention can not be focused on the job, seems distracted. Yin teacher I would like to ask, how to guide their children to have a good attitude to face the exam? Although the letter stated only in isolation a little piece of life, but it certainly is, this is not an isolated event, Rome was not built in a day, only on a second grade boy to one point and tears, How much behind-related events will hatch out of this result? The teacher asked the children \u0026 ldquo; why did not reflect 100 points \u0026 rdquo ;, which is really crazy, parents and the extent to which fueled it? Although this letter saying the child's parents to enlighten was good, Black White Style Nike Lebron X 10 541108-010 Sale but the child's response can be seen, he did not believe the words of parents. Like children, like radar, can accurately sense the attitude of the parents. If the parents just to enlighten children say insincere words, children will listen to them, and he not only does not believe it will be more sad. Such psychological trajectory along been down, ten years, twenty years later, the little boy would be a competitive person? We used \u0026 ldquo; pattern \u0026 rdquo; to judge a person's potential for development. Some people you will feel his body macro air field, the body will carry the vigorous energy, fearless in the face of difficulties, we would say that he \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;. big pattern Some people are narrow-minded, petty or small clever little personal gain, everything very carefully is very weak, the connotation of people in a single glance in the end, we will judge him \u0026 ldquo; small pattern \u0026 rdquo ;. I know a young man, his microblogging made only about two types of content, not the inspirational is complain and curse, always uneasy mood on the poles. The year after his parents were hard work, from the countryside to come out, a modicum of success in their careers. Young genetic parents of IQ, a child is very smart, parents have high hopes, has been kept giving him inspirational to win him everywhere, the children can not reach, parents constantly disappointed, kept admonition \u0026 hellip; \u0026 hellip ; now adult children on their own are not satisfied, always wanted to make an appearance to your parents, they can not, can not afford a collection of energy in the body, can only live in tangled inspirational and swearing in. If the total is preoccupied childhood life, the large pattern come from? I must say that now bad childhood ecological environment, adult to own too much anxiety passed on to their children, even if there is \u0026 ldquo; fight father \u0026 rdquo; that said, the pressure is actually eventually fall children, too Children prematurely been given responsibility for competition, carrying the burden of comparisons. I have received a letter from the parents a letter, saying that he was to give the child to choose a focus of municipal kindergarten, done everything, like a lot of ways to find some relationship; at the same time, because the kindergarten children to use the test selection, order selection are to have good performance, the parents would have to do to prepare, teach children to learn a lot of things. But in the end no one can be admitted to this nursery, had picked an ordinary kindergarten. After learning of the news, only three years old children actually crying, and in the coming days, as long as a put on the kindergarten, to sad, ordinary kindergartens for very exclusive. Seeing the admission time is coming, the children behaved still very resistant, parents write to me to consult is how the children do ideological work to make children happy park it? I can not give an answer, because \u0026 ldquo; children to do ideological work \u0026 rdquo; in the stop-feet. Children inappropriate competitive age, being involved unrestrained competition; the frustration is not with anti-age adults made by mental imbalance, how can some preaching to solve it. By saying sounds like the impossible, then let a hungry man no longer need food, we can not give their children by doing ideological work, to solve his order was to disturb the normal life of confusion. Allow young children to compete, not for children and help, just give him the power to obstruct. Anxiety grow in a competitive atmosphere, and children forced into competition track, more prone to feelings of powerlessness, inferiority and mental imbalance \u0026 mdash; began in childhood, there is little competition winner. Early child pushed a flood of competition, in addition to weaken the child's Black Turquoise Nike Jordan Hydro 2 Slide Sandal Sale inner strength mentioned above, so that he becomes weak and weak, as well as the following aspects damage. The first kind of damage would destroy the child's ability to cooperate We know what a person's ability to work, the connotation of ability to cooperate is one of his core competence is friendly, honest, tolerant, etc., so fostering children's competitiveness, we must first develop a Black/White-Game Royal-Team Orange 580590-007 Jordan B Mo Outlet good character, and lay the basis for cooperation. But now the situation is that when children start school, they are far more ready to work for adequate preparation for the competition. Almost from the beginning in kindergarten, all children's activities are based on competition for the purpose, even play, nor is finally happy but in order to get the ranking for the purpose. This ongoing competition training, so that children rarely have the opportunity to learn together and fight than just learn, learn prevention. Many students score better other students do not even want to talk about a problem, for fear that others have learned, his own par. More children have a sense of frustration in the competition, dissatisfied with their first, low self-esteem; and others are not satisfied, others hostile. There are parents who anxiously told me such a thing. His son's class teacher every day to respect assignments, exams, discipline \u0026 ldquo; outperformed \u0026 rdquo; student grant small red, regular appraisals who have small red flowers and more, many people praised, criticized and fewer people. The teacher would also like to put these cases through SMS sent to each parent, which in turn greatly aroused everyone's heart comparisons. While his son was always small red little, made him up in front of other parents can not afford to head, he often criticized his son. Results The teacher asked him recently to complain that his son actually steal students small flowers, but also Nike Zoom Hyperdunk several dozen other students in a small report to the teacher, especially small red number was more than his classmates, obviously jealous of these students. British educator Neil said, \u0026 ldquo; all prizes, and test scores will hinder the development of normal character. \u0026 Rdquo; social psychology research also confirmed that competition is an important source of frustration, pain Nike 6.0 Mavrk Mid 2 Skate Shoes White Red and frustration often leads to hostility. So, not the child's behavior is a problem, obviously the child is pushed by a step here. Educator John Dewey suggested that the school should be the primary responsibility to provide children with a simplified environment to eliminate the influence of the social environment of the ugly phenomenon of children. Our present reality is that schools often produced the appraisal guise, does not consider these competitions design is reasonable. For example, a primary school, three points early in the evening for the children were rating, rating class is divided into five levels, from \u0026 ldquo; the most lovely people \u0026 rdquo; to \u0026 ldquo; most unlovable people \u0026 rdquo ;. Think about it, a child, probably from the morning of the \u0026 ldquo; most unlovable people \u0026 rdquo; become night \u0026 ldquo; the most lovely people \u0026 rdquo ;, and often among the various levels to change back and forth. Child or the child, evaluate it took him a while to heaven, while he banished underground. In this evaluation, the child's heart can not mess it his moral damage can not be it? Some children learn to show some self-awareness is messing up, and some become nonchalant \u0026 hellip; \u0026 hellip; if the child no chance to develop in childhood honesty, kindness and tolerance, an adult, how can we ask him to have the cooperation of Conduct ʱ?? Without the cooperation of the ability of people, but also the competitiveness of geometry it? The second damage will cultivate morbid striver indeed be training some children have very \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;, the sense of competition from small exhibit extremely feisty, but its side effects are obvious. Such children early Buy Air Jordan 11 Mens Basketball Shoes Black For Sale stop natural development, small wearing big shoes to try to make themselves adapt to a variety of social standards. This distortion is the elimination of the expense of nature, he was trained in a variety of options in life, will be rejected without hesitation inherent desire only to social evaluation as a value judgment. For example there was a primary school, in order not to lose his position vice squad, sat each lesson was straight, mosquitoes fell on his arm, have refused to play it, for fear of a bad impression to the teacher, rather let a mosquito bite big bag. The child may get the teacher's appreciation, but the nature of this anti flawed behavior certainly will leave in your life, where the lesions are not necessarily exposed. Social Psychology found that, \u0026 ldquo; self-mobility is limited. The efforts of self-control people \u0026 mdash; force yourself to eat carrots instead of chocolate, or repressed forbidden thought \u0026 mdash; and then in the face of a difficult problem, it will quickly give up. Intentional self-control will deplete our limited reserves of willpower. \u0026 Rdquo; life we often see such a person, even if they get a sense of worldly success at certain times, but always in the spirit of taut perilous situation. For example, some over \u0026 ldquo; hard \u0026 rdquo; people, they even put \u0026 ldquo; pain \u0026 rdquo; and \u0026 ldquo; labor \u0026 rdquo; as the meaning of life itself, the life of a little bit of pleasure are regarded any sin. There are many \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;, successful people we found he was not happy, always live in anxiety and tension, and even some people committed suicide; or some people eventually abandoned once the most valued fame and fortune, zero mentality, lifestyle changed dramatically. Life seems to be all the way around before entering the right path. Social Psychology showed an extreme utilitarianism and a delusion of mental patients, the psychological function is the same, they are unable to establish a normal connection and the world, in a morbid way there. Competitive consequences are often not defeat others, but knock yourself. This is against the background of the philosopher Erich Fromm views: laziness and excessive diligence was not opposition, they are fully functional human disturbed two symptoms. In neuropathy patients, we often see his main symptom is unable to work; in excessive diligence by the body, we see the main symptom is the lack of easy pleasure and rest capacity. Excessive diligence is not the opposite of lazy, but it's complementary. They are human inner harmony destroyed a consequence. The third side effects are Air Max 2013 Mesh Blue White likely to harm the health of long-term, more than endurance pressure will first accumulation of toxins on the emotional impact of work efficiency and quality. The toxin emotional too much, would affect the physical health. Children are at physical and psychological development among double, too much stress not only affects their mental, can also affect the physical development. Studies have found that stress or lack of sleep can affect the secretion of pituitary growth hormone for children, the impact of the child's height, but also may be manifested in other aspects of the body, such as skin diseases. British educator Neil has found a worthy of our attention, \u0026 ldquo; I have never found a happy teenager's face had acne. \u0026 Rdquo; philosopher Erich Fromm also found that our body's reaction to happiness is not happy with all our consciousness is more obvious than it felt. Less susceptible to physical than mental deceived. This traditional Chinese medicine stresses the \u0026 ldquo; impassioned \u0026 rdquo; to internal organs theory is consistent. In fact many people are aware of the social competition psychological harm on children, but also children a childhood wish, want their children to grow up happy and relaxed. But many people only child is still small, especially when you did not go to school would think so. Once the children went to school, face a variety of incentives and school rankings, especially teachers often sending information to parents via SMS \u0026 mdash; almost all of the various evaluation briefing \u0026 mdash; a lot of people can not be calm start unwittingly increase the child's request, the child began to complain too much pressure on one side, the side with the schools to give children the pressure. The reason is that now education thus, can not compete, we have no alternative. Some people even move out of the results of the sperm and egg of such competition is also a theory to prove the human competition must start from scratch. Yes, of course, the birth of life is the result of a competition, a victory over the hundreds of millions of sperm sperm Why can gain an advantage, not because it has a sense of competition, but because it is tough, it does not care whether other little tadpoles swim than it fast, it is just to enjoy yourself tour, it would be the winner. A person wants foothold in the arena, you must stay 2015 Nike Black Red 2013 Nike Air Yeezy II Men Shoes Online Free 5.0 away from rivers and lakes, hide in the mountains, no bother to practice, Lianhaoneigong, only Swordsman capital. Mystery competitive culture are here. So, do not complain about the environment, first solve the problems of small environment, environmental good, like a natural environment. Relieve the pressure of competition, the system of course Nike 6.0 Mavrk Mid 2 Skate Shoes White Red is on the one hand; on the other hand also on awareness to resolve. Adults they have to reflect on the scale and significance of competition, adult calm, to calm the child. I know a television director, her son was on the fourth grade. One day she called me and said she was told her son came home from school today, school Olympiad held trials, all students have participated, title examination paper so hard on. She asked his son would do a few questions, the children playfully easy answer: \u0026 ldquo; one will not. \u0026 Rdquo; This sentence not only did not make her angry, but felt a faint relief. She said too much attention to the child before his test scores and rankings in other schools, which she and the children are feeling tired. She also was simply attributed this Nike Air Jordan 11 Galaxy Shoes Black Blue troubled social competition, schools and teachers. Then she slowly realized that this mentality of victims is very funny, it is mainly their own anxiety and vanity. Put these children or the children, the school or the school, many of the problems have been solved. Children before the exam is not good with the parents did not dare to say, but now they can be so calm tone of voice told her \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;, one would not describe her feelings at the time, as much as heard the child say \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo whole will do ʱ?? Adam \u0026 middot; Smith said the main reason for the unfortunate life and disorders, people overvalued the differences between the various situations. Greedy overvalued difference between poverty and wealth, ambition overvalued difference between private posts and public positions, the vanity overvalued difference between obscurity and a reputation of \u0026 hellip; \u0026 hellip; yes, like maybe some territory more worthy than other habitats like our preference, but nothing worth habitats like the way people use too intense to pursue. If not out of prudence, regardless of the law and justice, a man bent on changing the environment like, is tantamount to playing the most dangerous game of all kind no chance of winning, and put all of his possessions are betting on gambling is almost impossible to win ʱ?? Life biggest enemy is not any specific opponent, is \u0026 ldquo; vanity \u0026 rdquo; and \u0026 ldquo; fear \u0026 rdquo ;. In the already perilous life, vanity is a self-injurious behavior. Where there is vanity, where there is self-harm. Some ill-fated, not so much bad luck, as it is vanity obstruction. Down vanity, will be able to reduce consumption, cost savings life; to overcome fear, will reduce greed, enjoy the life calmly. \u0026 Ldquo; not for the storm in the world, since no diametrically to the chest \u0026 rdquo ;. Present and future, it is not a competition of \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;, but the sense of competition from a higher level of value judgment, innovation ability, mental capacity and courage to overcome difficulties and so on. This is what the saying goes blacksmith need its own hardware. Faced with a weak and have unlimited potential of children, and their efforts to develop their \u0026 ldquo; \u0026 rdquo ;, the sense of competition is better to concentrate on to develop his good character. Every good character can catalyze the face of the world, the ability and courage to face difficulties, good character itself is competitive. Imagine a child good physique, mental health, there is curiosity, cheerful and friendly, confident calm, even Nike Basketball if he had never heard of \u0026 ldquo; competition \u0026 rdquo; this happened in the next life, what kind of competition will defeat him it? Famous entrepreneurs, Alibaba founder Jack Ma can be described as typical of \u0026 ldquo; successful \u0026 rdquo; who, in the fierce market competition, he had experienced all kinds of frustration, but it has always insisted, made a startling achievement. He said, \u0026 ldquo; master class inside the eye no opponent, so I often say that I am no opponent, because my heart has no rival. The hearts of the enemy, the enemy of the world are all you; heart invincible, invincible. \u0026 Rdquo; This sentence tells the secret of his success. Put down the competition, is to pick up competitiveness. This is what I said, \u0026 ldquo; husband does not contend, so monensin. \u0026 Rdquo; this article is to express the \u0026 ldquo; childhood not to compete, grow only win \u0026 rdquo ;. Results of the first and last child grow up doing? If you really grow up, you know what is love, especially rural children grow up is to accept the loss of an ongoing process