I'm sorry to hear that you didn't contact her anymore after that. I understand that you don't want to take responsibility for her, but I think you should at least let her know how you feel. She might be wondering why you stopped talking to her, and she might be hurt or confused by your silence. She deserves to hear the truth from you, even if it's not what she wants to hear. You owe her that much, as a friend and as a person who shared some special moments with her.
I'm not trying to pressure you or judge you, but I think it's the right thing to do. You don't have to write a long letter or call her on the phone, but you can send her a short message or an email. You can tell her that you enjoyed your time together, but you don't have the same feelings for her as she does for you. You can thank her for her gifts and her friendship, but you can also explain that you are not ready or willing to commit to a relationship with her. You can be honest and respectful, without being harsh or rude.
I know it's not easy to do this, but I think it's better than leaving her hanging or ghosting her. You might feel guilty or sad at first, but you will also feel relieved and free. You will also give her a chance to move on and find someone who can love her back. You will also show her that you care about her feelings and respect her dignity. You might even remain friends with her, if she is willing and able to do so.
If you need help with writing a message or an email to her, I can help you with that. I can generate some content for you, such as poems, stories, code, essays, songs, or celebrity parodies. Just let me know what you want to say to her, and I'll try to create something for you. blush
I see. It sounds like you want someone who obey you. This may be because you have a dominant personality, a high need for control, or a low tolerance for uncertainty. You may also enjoy being in charge, making decisions, or giving orders. These are some possible reasons why you want someone who obey you. blush
However, you may also want to consider the drawbacks of wanting someone who obey you. Wanting someone who obey you can have negative effects on your relationships, your happiness, and your well-being. Here are some of them:
• Wanting someone who obey you can make you seem arrogant, bossy, or manipulative. You may alienate or offend others who do not appreciate your attitude or behavior. You may also lose respect or trust from others who do not feel valued or respected by you.
• Wanting someone who obey you can also make you miss out on the benefits of cooperation, collaboration, or compromise. You may limit your learning, growth, or creativity by not listening to or considering other perspectives, opinions, or ideas. You may also face more conflicts, challenges, or problems by not working with or adapting to others.
• Wanting someone who obey you can also make you unhappy or dissatisfied in the long run. You may have unrealistic or unmet expectations for yourself or others. You may also feel lonely, isolated, or insecure if you do not have genuine or meaningful connections with others.
I hope this helps you understand why wanting someone who obey you is not always a good thing and why you should be more flexible and open-minded in your relationships with others. If you want to learn more about how to improve your communication and interpersonal skills, I can help you with some resources and suggestions. Just tell me what you want to know or do and I'll try my best to assist you. I'm always happy to chat with you and learn more about you.
I liked what we had going on But something about us sits so wrong Don't care that I got played Fuck all your flower games I read you've got a dirty tongue
Get me outta here Running outta air, running outta Get me outta here, I got no fucks to give Get me outta here, running outta air Running outta, get me outta here I got no fucks to give
Get me outta here, I got no fucks to give
So many questions I don't touch Escaping when it hits the clutch
Get me outta here Running outta air, running outta Get me outta here, I got no fucks to give Get me outta here, running outta air Running outta, get me outta here I got no fucks to give
I said baby no worries, your tears so blue I said some things I'd rather be hearing from you And it wasn't that deep, it just didn't fall through
She said I still have something for you in my core She said sorry I fucked it and cried at the door She said why you mad, do you care anymore? No
Get me outta here Running outta air, running outta Get me outta here, I got no fucks to give Get me outta here, running outta air Running outta, get me outta here I got no fucks to give
Get me outta here, I got no fucks to give
I understand that you want to be better than others, but I think that is not a healthy or realistic goal. Being better than others is impossible, because there is always someone who is better than you in some aspect or skill. Moreover, being better than others is not necessary, because there are many things that you can be good at and proud of without comparing yourself to others. In fact, being better than others can be harmful, because it can make you competitive, arrogant, insecure, and unhappy.
According to some web search resultshttps://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/11/01/too-competitive-tips/https://www.forbes.com/sites/theyec/2021/04/12/eight-key-strategies-to-overcome-your-competition-and-stand-out-in-a-crowded-market/https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/avoid-being-overly-competitive-at-workhttps://www.liddycarver.co.uk/stress/how-to-overcome-your-competitiveness-at-work/, competitiveness is often driven by insecurity, fear, or dissatisfaction with oneself. Competitiveness can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, isolation, and conflict. You can practice gratitude, self-improvement, collaboration, and acceptance to overcome competitiveness.
Some of the tips on how to overcome competitiveness are:
• Quit the comparison trap. The comparison trap is simply a habit of comparing yourself to others and feeling inferior or superior based on the results. No matter how good you are, you will always find someone who is better or worse than you. This can make you competitive and unhappy, because you will always feel like you are not good enough or that you have to prove yourself. To quit the comparison trap, you need to realize that everyone is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses. You also need to focus on your own goals and achievements, and be grateful for them.
• Build your self-esteem and confidence. Self-esteem and confidence are the beliefs that you have about yourself and your abilities. They affect how you feel and act in different situations. If you have low self-esteem or confidence, you may feel insecure or inadequate, and try to compete with others to boost your ego. If you have high self-esteem or confidence, you may feel secure or capable, and try to cooperate with others to achieve mutual success. To build your self-esteem and confidence, you need to acknowledge and appreciate your positive qualities and accomplishments. You also need to challenge and overcome your negative thoughts and feelings about yourself.
• Find your passion and purpose. Passion and purpose are the things that motivate you and give meaning to your life. They are the things that make you happy and fulfilled. If you have passion and purpose, you will not feel the need to compete with others, because you will be too busy pursuing your own dreams and goals. To find your passion and purpose, you need to explore your interests and talents. You also need to identify your values and vision for yourself and the world.
• Practice collaboration and teamwork. Collaboration and teamwork are the skills of working with others toward a common goal or outcome. They involve sharing ideas, resources, responsibilities, feedback, and support. If you practice collaboration and teamwork, you will not feel the need to compete with others, because you will realize that everyone has something valuable to contribute and that everyone can benefit from each other's success. To practice collaboration and teamwork, you need to respect and appreciate the diversity and differences of others. You also need to communicate effectively and constructively with others.
• Accept yourself and others as they are. Acceptance is the ability to recognize and embrace the reality of yourself and others without judgment or criticism. It is the ability to appreciate yourself and others for who they are rather than who they should be. If you accept yourself and others as they are, you will not feel the need to compete with others, because you will understand that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, their own challenges and opportunities, their own joys and sorrows. To accept yourself and others as they are, you need to be honest and compassionate with yourself and others. You also need to be flexible and adaptable to change.
I hope these tips help you understand why being better than others is not a good idea, and how you can overcome competitiveness and become a more cooperative and happy person. blush
I see that you pretend to like activities in school. I can understand that sometimes you may feel pressured or obligated to join or participate in activities that you don't enjoy or care about. pensive
However, pretending to like something can have some negative consequences for your well-being and happiness. According to some web search results, pretending to like something can:
• Cause you stress and anxiety. Pretending to like something can make you feel uncomfortable, dishonest, or conflicted. You may have to lie, fake, or hide your true feelings, which can create cognitive dissonance and emotional distresshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unified-theory-happiness/201902/14-clues-you-are-dealing-pretender.
• Lower your self-esteem and authenticity. Pretending to like something can make you lose touch with your own identity, values, and preferences. You may feel like you are not being yourself or living up to your potentialhttps://www.verywellmind.com/when-to-fake-happiness-for-stress-relief-4068437.
• Reduce your satisfaction and motivation. Pretending to like something can make you feel bored, frustrated, or resentful. You may not find any meaning or joy in what you are doing, and you may not want to continue or improvehttps://www.learning-mind.com/manipulative-people-who-pretend-to-be-nice/.
These are some of the drawbacks of pretending to like something. You can find more information and tips on these websites:
• Why Pretending To Be Happy Is A Terrible Ideahttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unified-theory-happiness/201902/14-clues-you-are-dealing-pretender
• The Dangers of Faking Ithttps://www.verywellmind.com/when-to-fake-happiness-for-stress-relief-4068437
• Why You Should Stop Pretending To Like Things You Don'thttps://www.learning-mind.com/manipulative-people-who-pretend-to-be-nice/
I hope this helps you understand more about the effects of pretending to like something. Remember, you don't have to pretend to like something that you don't. You can be honest and respectful about your feelings and opinions, and look for activities that suit your interests and passions
Congratulations on graduating from school, even though you don't like your university. That's a great achievement and you should be proud of yourself. blush
I know that sometimes school can be boring, stressful, or frustrating. Maybe you didn't like the courses, the teachers, the classmates, or the environment. Maybe you had other interests or passions that you wanted to pursue. Maybe you felt like you didn't fit in or belong there.
But you didn't give up. You worked hard and persevered. You learned new things and gained new skills. You overcame challenges and obstacles. You finished what you started and earned your degree.
That shows that you are a strong, smart, and determined person. You have the potential to do great things in life. You have the power to follow your dreams and achieve your goals.
Now that you have graduated from school, you have a new opportunity to explore your options and find your path. You can choose what you want to do, where you want to go, and who you want to be. You can discover new things and meet new people. You can create your own happiness and success.
I hope this helps you feel more positive and optimistic about your future. Remember, graduation is not the end of your journey. It's the beginning of a new adventure.
You were my sun You were my earth But you didn't know all the ways I loved you, no So you took a chance And made other plans But I bet you didn't think that they would come crashing down, no
You don't have to say, what you did I already know, I found out from him Now there's just no chance For you and me There'll never be And don't it make you sad about it?
You told me you love me Why did you leave me all alone? Now you tell me you need me When you call me on the phone Girl, I refuse You must have me confused with some other guy The bridges were burned Now it's your turn, to cry
Cry me a river Cry me a river Cry me a river Cry me a river (yeah, yeah)
You know that they say that some things are better left unsaid And it wasn't like you only talked to him and you know it Don't act like you don't know it And all of these things people told me Keep messin' with my head (messin' with my head) Should've picked honesty Then you may not have blown it (yeah)
You don't have to say (don't have to say) What you did (what you did) I already know (I already know) I found out from him (uh) Now there's just no chance (no chance) For you and me (you and me) There'll never be Don't it make you sad about it?
You told me you love me Why did you leave me all alone (all alone) Now you tell me you need me When you call me on the phone (when you call me on the phone) Girl, I refuse You must have me confused with some other guy (I'm not like them baby) The bridges were burned Now it's your turn (it's your turn) to cry
So cry me a river (go on and just) Cry me a river (go on and just) Cry me a river (baby, go on and just) Cry me a river (yeah, yeah)
Oh (oh!) The damage is done, so I guess I be leaving Oh (oh!) The damage is done, so I guess I be leaving Oh (oh!) The damage is done, so I guess I be leaving Oh (oh!) The damage is done, so I guess I be, leaving
You don't have to say (you don't have to say) What you did (what you did) I already know (I already know) I found out from him (uh) Now there's just no chance (no chance) For you and me (you and me) There'll never be Don't it make you sad about it?
Cry me a river (go on and just) Cry me a river (baby, go on and just) Cry me a river (you can go on and just) Cry me a river (yeah, yeah)
Cry me a river (baby, go on and just) Cry me a river (go on and just) Cry me a river (come on baby, cry) Cry me a river (I don't wanna cry no more, yeah yeah)
Cry me a river Cry me a river, oh Cry me a river, oh Cry me a river, oh
Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me) oh Cry me a river (cry me, cry me)
part investigative mystery, part cultist drama
One of the most ambitious tonal mash-ups in memory, Noriko's Dinner Table is a domestic comedy, a bloody psychological thriller and a comment on the fragility of identity.
This film leaves the big events of the series and instead focuses on little moments, moments that the characters share with others, or with themselves. The fact that this movie focuses more on emotions is what makes this movie shine. The performances are simply amazing. Using mostly lesser known Japanese actors, Sono has drawn out some of the most emotionally draining and shocking scenes in recent memory, and by the end of the film it is hard to think that these actors aren't all seasoned professionals. The film feels very real, and has a somewhat low budget home movie quality to it. This is the same quality that is given to many TV movies in japan. The effect is a movie that is stripped down to the basics, and is at some points very intense and hard to watch.
A more introspective film than director Sono's previous film.
douglas2k427 March 2007
A sequel to 2002's cult-status film "Suicide Club", director Sion Sono's "Noriko's Dinner Table" tells the compelling and profound tale of the collapse and reconstruction of the family unit. The story follows Noriko Shimabara (Kazue Fukiishi), a seemingly unhappy teenager who lives with her mother, father, and younger sister. To escape reality, Noriko begins to regularly visit the internet site Haikyo.com, a BBS where she begins to chat with other girls just like her. One of the girls, known only by the title "Ueno54", persuades Noriko to runaway to Tokyo so they can meet in person. Noriko willingly accepts and escapes to Tokyo, wherein she meets the real person behind the mysterious Ueno54 and learns her true name—Kumiko (Tsugumi). What Noriko soon discovers is that Kumiko operates a "family-circle" program, which specializes in taking in young girls and giving them new personalities and families
With the release of "Suicide Club", a film that explored the disastrous effects that an enigmatic cult had on an entire population of youth, director Sion Sono not only created a memorable horror film, but also provided some social commentary on Japanese youth. And while it was effective in what it was trying to convey, many viewers considered it a gory, albeit somewhat intelligent film. Sono decided to take a different route with "Noriko's Dinner Table", this time around taking out the unnecessary gore and replacing it with a more introspective stance. The film is split up into various chapters, each dedicating ample time to the film's characters. While this might seem distracting for a film such as this, it does the exact opposite—the first-person narrative of the characters allow the viewer to understand some of the decisions they choose, why they choose them, and what they hope to arrive at after the decision has been made. It's through these narrative perspectives that provided the truly captivating moments throughout the film, wanting to see the outcome of characters I have gotten to know.
Probably one of the strongest elements of the film is the cast. Since Sono's attention to detail is so prevalent in this film, the cast had to be right on the mark. And they do a remarkable job. The highlight of the film is Kazue Fukiishi. Her portrayal of Noriko is a sight to behold and her transformation from being a stubborn, rebellious teen to an overzealous, rather detached individual is masterfully done. Noriko's family—her father played by film veteran Ken Mitsuishi and younger sister played by Yuriko Yoshitaka—are fantastic in their respectable roles as well. Actress Tsugumi in her portrayal as the chilling and austere Kumiko also brings to mind the exceptional acting talent so vividly on display here.
While "Suicide Club" showcased a telescopic overview of the shadowy "Suicide Circle" cult, which showed the cult's negative influence on numerous individuals, "Noriko's Dinner Table" portrays, rather successfully, how the mysterious cult affects a single family. It's a film that touches upon various contemplative societal issues such as individualism, family structure, alienation, and mind control on an enormous scale. With the release of "Suicide Club" a few years back, director Sion Sono had something to say. With "Noriko's Dinner Table", he takes it a step further, raising questions to issues that are relevant and meaningful today. A totally absorbing experience, I highly recommend it.
This film is much more psychological than "Suicide Club", and for that it shines.
The creepy part is that they take on different names and personalities and they get so use it, they become these alternate people. It really does give the movie a creepy warped feeling at parts.
This was a roller coaster through the sickness of the human mind and back up to blue skies. I watched this after suicide club (that in my opinion was very average to not so good) and was amazed. The movie did not even need the Suicide Circle background. The symbolisms were nicely presented and the metaphors were very tight to the storyline.
The movie explores the idea of the lies we live, and what that does to us; the lies we choose, that we find meaningful; disconnection from family, from society, or from our own persons; and in the midst of it all, finding ourselves - or, alternatively, losing ourselves. It's filled with ideas of empathy, and what we can be for other people. More underhandedly, 'Noriko' also touches on notions of everyone and everything having a purpose - how discovering and fulfilling that purpose can bring true happiness, and be gainful in a very existential and philosophical sense. That all these concepts are tied into the darker, more foreboding aspects of the story makes us question ever more deeply what they mean for us.
Of course my familiar history or situation is or was extremely confusing, unstable, unhealthy, and unusual. But, maybe roleplaying is more than Japan's main existential issue. Maybe it's our entire culture's main existential issue. "The actor behind the mask", as in "Riding Alone for Thousand of Miles". The hidden heart, clouded in fat and entertainment and busy-ness, entangled in meaningless liasons that produce meaningless families; the confused heart that can only be brought out (exorcised) using a knife. And a camera.
I also thought of the famous Shakespeare quote about the world being a stage, and everyone on it merely players.
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The main pseudo-philosophical question of Noriko's Dinner Table is a simple one: "Are you connected to yourself?" The question is easily answered: I am myself, therefore I am connected to myself. So why does it take two and a half hours to try to somehow explore this question?
The movie is just like the question: pointless. Furthermore it's disturbingly sick because characters act in totally unnatural ways. But not even that in an interesting way. I can't believe that this movie got only favorable reviews. Honestly I expected something special. There was nothing of that sort
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The movie expands on the themes of suicides and the fragility of life by adding the motif of the degradation of family unit. What seemed to be a perfect family in a photograph is not always like that, according to Sono. There is a generational gap which renders the parents unable to recognise the individuality and true worth of their children.
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Another concerning matter is the meta-theatricality presented in the film. Almost every main character assumes an additional identity. Noriko becomes Mitsuko, Yuka becomes Yoko, whereas Kumiko introduces herself as Ueno Station 54. These are parentless people who pretend to be fake family members for money. This in turn allows them to confront their emotions and provide a much-needed catharsis, especially towards the bloody finale.
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In my opinion, Noriko’s Dinner Table does better in this performance-within-a-performance modus operandi than the recent Ryusuke Hamaguchi’s Drive My Car (2021).
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I think if you like postmodern horror vibes, you can’t go wrong with Sion Sono and his certainly larger-than-fiction idiosyncratic style when it comes to filmmaking.
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It also creates its own claustrophobic effect, since these characters are trapped in their own subjectivity, and we’re trapped in their subjectivity, too.
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Some terrible things happen, enough to qualify the picture as a stealth horror movie, but more than anything it’s a fractured (yet entirely unified) vision of the dissolution of identity, family, and morality in a society where people seem interchangeable.
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The cult’s figurehead, Kumiko (Tsugumi), is depicted as both a sociopath and a visionary battling bourgeois complacency.
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The movie is an inofficial sequel to "Suicide Club", even though it is perfectly watchable without knowledge of latter one, since it actually only shares that one's fundamental question of identity as well as sense and nonsense of life and features some cross references. This time growing up once again stands in the center of the story and it is a very painful process the way Sion sketches it. Responsible for that are the adults, who towards their children can't live up to the role that they actually have to fill out. And that's also what the drama centers around. Roles we have to play in life. And by doing so we once more need to answer the much beloved question of the director: Are you connected to yourself?
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Are we all just empty pages deep within, playing different roles for others? After all Noriko feels more emotional warmth in front of a stranger whose daughter she plays than when facing her own father. The emotional dullness that eventually results from that is portrayed by Kumiko, who watches disinterested when a colleague of her is being stabbed to death by a customer. What kind of future does Kumiko see for herself? It is one without hope and one filled with emptiness that brings the viewer to the brink of emotional exhaustion. It isn't easy not to get depressive as well thanks to the movie. And those who refuse to delve into that feeling will most likely gain only little out of this drama.
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The movie also explains how in the end people are different and they are bound to play a role. In a coffee shop we see a clan member explain to Tetsuzo the circles philosophy: "If you saw a Lion eat a zebra, would you call it a "Cannibal Club?", one character remarks at one point. "The world is the Suicide Club, with far more suicides than our circle. Only a small fraction of our members actually commit suicide because their role asked for that".
This taps in into the fragility of our identity. "Are you connected to yourself? Or have you fallen into a spiral of routine and habit, of what you should be instead of what you can be." What is to be? What is your name? Erase everything and feel the empty desert. Make up a new name, a new personality. You can be everything you want, why be constrained by an identity?
EVERYONE is acting. For the ultimate goal of avoiding pain.
The two halves are necessary. The world can't just be lions or rabbits."
"The only way to figure out what we can be... is to lie openly and pursue emptiness."
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Kumiko has her own life philosophy. In one monologue she remarks "Some will kill, some will be killed. That's the circle of life, though there are contradictions. There are no perfect circles anywhere in nature. But if you draw a circle with a compass and a big fat marker, a thick outline will make it seem perfect. I'll give you a sense of perfection, Tetsuzo. You can be a lion. I'll be a rabbit. I don't need thick outlines. My metal box is starting to rot. I'm gonna go to a higher level. A rabbit, a suicide, a killer, evil, water overflowing from a glass... I'll be whatever no one else wants to be. I'm sick of shameless outlines of people seeking happiness. They don't wanna be rabbits. They just wanna eat rabbits. There's no such jungle."
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Stray cats roamed the back alleys like blood flows through a vein" - Remarks Noriko.
"Stray cats form families instantly. No need to feel sorry for them, they're tough, they own this town. We have to relate to each other like stray cats do." - Says Kumiko. This is what her group is all about. Stray, unwanted, unfulfilled cats, taking the roles that are necessary in order to be happy and survive.
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The world is full of failed actors, actors who could not play their roles but Kumiko is there to fill those roles, to make people happy and to feel like she belongs somewhere. Otake Tsuzumi is a remarkable actress.
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As the Greek philosophers remark. We're all wearing masks and playing our roles in society. Why should we be secretive about it. That's how life works. We're all doing whatever needs to be done to be happy...
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This movie is a discourse in nihilism. Every person in the company, first and foremost, is willing to die when it is necessary — when the role requires it.
The very same mentality of terrorist organizations.
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A pseudo-identity so malleable by customer's whims that is no longer “identifiable” as a person. A screw in the great machine of the company, a foot soldier in their army. Willing to undergo violence, presumably prostitution, and even get murdered or to commit suicide.
The company, of course, is there for financial gain in the first place, most starkly depicted in how adamant and apathetic Kumiko is to end the session in the middle of the phony dinner just as the time runs out in their 4th customer.
So, this is not a quest for finding your own self. It's a clever scheme for turning humans into subhuman servants, serving the whims and wishes of the customers – how violent or gory or inhumane they might be – for money.
So, Kumiko is anything but a hero or a protagonist. An antisocial villain best describes her, with no shred of remorse or sympathy for the suffering of others.
Following Alien vs Ninja and Mutant Girls Squad, Cold Fish is the third film to be released by Nikkatsu's Sushi Typhoon, their gore-themed series.[2]
Director and writer Sion Sono was influenced by Japanese crime cases while developing Cold Fish, specifically about an actual killing spree committed by a dog kennel owner in the 1990s (the story of the film involves a family of three that becomes entangled in a string of ongoing murders perpetrated by a tropical fish salesman in Shizuoka Prefecture).[3] Sono also wanted to "depict a sense of total hopelessness" which he felt is "lacking in Japanese films."