T: "'You are neat and tidy, aren't you? It's wonderful." Parent: "Is that so? At home he makes a mess all the time (laughs).
T "You are kind to your friends, aren't you?" Parent: "Oh, really? At home, he's always quarrelling with his brothers.
T "He helps me after class"
Parent: "Oh, really? At home they just play games and don't help me at all (laughs)".
I am a teacher in an early childhood classroom.
The content of the article was that when children were praised, their parents would deny it, which sounds good when you call it modesty, but it lowers the children's self-esteem.
If we look at the root of the problem, we can see that parents do not consider their children as their property, but they do not respect their children's feelings, human rights or, more importantly, their souls at all.
I also think that this is due to the fact that, as is often the case in Japan, mother and child are completely united, as when a child is praised, she feels as if she is being praised, and when a child is belittled, she feels as if she is being belittled.
Wise mothers, when their children are praised, say, "They are firm and that helps." Thank you." I thought that if I was going to be humble, it wouldn't hurt my children's feelings if I humbled myself.
'I'm always sloppy, so thank you for keeping things tidy.' And so on.
Children are more sensitive to what their parents say than you might think.
As a mother myself, I want to always keep in mind the perspective of nurturing my children's sense of self-confidence.
