Upon finishing the first season of one of my favorite TV series-"sex and the city," I could not help but wondering "When can we stop hunting?" A.K.A, when can we really get involved in a "serious relationship?"
Girlfriends and I were discussing the phobias of getting into a relationship this afternoon. People have all kinds of phobias; some are afraid of the bitterness, others are afraid of the insecurity, and still others are afraid of one's BF turned out to be gay(so do I, ever since...you guys know what I am talking about!)However, my biggest concern was that i am afraid of lacking the "freshness" in a relationship, which means I always want something new.
I cannot stand the consistence of one relationship(though inconsistency has always been viewed as the biggest problem in a relationship.)I always seek for something new, though i've never been involved in a "serious" relationship b4.Why would people forced themselves to get involved in the kind of relationship that seems to have no future? Cuz of the impulse of passion? Probably. But, from my point of view, people are just afraid of being lonely. People always want someone to be there for them, to cuddle them, to caress them. Even if the company has no common with them at all.
Worst of all, even if one knows there would be no future for them that they are still willing to spend their time on this kind of relationship.
I can't get it.
So, what is "relationship" afterall?
From what I've known from a very special person in my life,
a relationship involves two people that could be compete in the game of love.
Two have to speak the same language; have to be able to grow together;
share the same qualities, probably, but not necessary;
most important of all, two would have the passion to go through all the boundaries and obstacles. To go beyond all the fears.
Most couples around me only have the "closeness," but not that kind of "melt-into-one" feeling.
If I ever found the one, I would have the power to get rid off all the phobias, and love him with all I could.
I think.