Many ceremonies after the death to miss the pers
I had a funeral ceremony with my relatives for my grandma's 49 days and my father's 3 years later after their deaths on June 18, Saturday.I forgot my mother's 23 year later ceremony last year, and found it for the first time when I thought about their ceremony of this.The last year was my mother's 23th ceremony...I feel very sorry not to find it.Since I'm not religious very much, I think I'll have funeral ceremonies not too much, at least : I'll have ceremonies for 1 week, 49 days, 1 year, 3 years, 7 years, 13 years, 23 years, and 33 years later after the death.If I can afford to have the 50th ceremony too, I will do it, but probably, I can't have it because of my age.But it is said to be the last ceremony and the dead person will be able to belong to the ancestor here.I have to remember all the ceremonies for each of my mother, father and my grandma, but I forgot one this time.As soon as I found it, I called the priest to ask what and when to do it.I suggested that we should have the 24th ceremony beside my grandma and father but he turned down my idea.And then, we got an advise and decided to have it next year with my grandma's 3th ceremony. I was relieved to have the funeral ceremony for my mother.While having the simple question who decided like these complicated things, I am doing one after another what I have to do, because I'm afraid that something might happen to my loving family unless I have a ceremony.On that day, my relatives gathered together, the priest took out the spirit of my dead grandma from the old wooden memorial tablet and put it into the new one while praying in Buddhist ways and read the Buddhist sayings for my grandma and father.And then, we moved to our grave to insert my grandma's bones there and went to the reserved restaurant and remembered and missed them a lot.I was very tired, but I felt very happy to meet together for the first during a long time.１８日（土）に、祖母の４９日と父親の３回忌を兼ねて、親戚に来て貰って法要を執り行いました。今回、初めて気づいたのだけれど、母親の２３回忌を去年するのを忘れていました。２３回忌が去年だったなんて・・・。私は余り信仰心がある方ではないので、最低限の法事として執り行おうとしてるのは、初七日、４９日、１周忌、３周忌、７周忌、１３回忌、２３回忌、３３回忌まで。５０回忌は年齢的にもやってあげることが出来ないでしょう。それを、母、父、祖母の法事を個々でするとなると、抜けも出てくる・・・。慌てて、お寺さんに電話をしました。忘れた場合、どうしたらいいのかなって・・・。一年遅れて、２４回忌を１８日に一緒に行うのはどう？と聞いたのですが、さすがに24はあかんと言われました。ということで、来年の祖母の３回忌と母親の２５回忌にしたらいいよとアドバイスを貰って、ホッとしました。誰がこんなことを決めたんだろうって、素朴な質問を感じながら、でも、やらないと何か悪いことが起こるかもしれないし、起こってからでは遅いので、結局、一つ一つ地道にこなしていってます・・・。でも、親戚一同集まり、お寺さんに新しい位牌に入魂してもらって、４９日と３回忌を拝んでもらった後、お墓に移動し、祖母の遺骨をお墓に収めて、みんなで亡き祖母、父を偲びながらお食事を楽しみました。少し疲れたけど、久しぶりにみんなと集えて、嬉しかったです。
