Blog Post 4

Blog Post 4

Mao Miwa

What is emotional intelligence? Why should you develop yours? Ask three close friends or relatives the following question, “If I didn’t know you better I would think you were….” write about what they say and if it was what you expected.

            Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense other people’s emotion. It also require you to control emotion for yourself. To be effective leaders, emotional intelligence is very important because leaders need to be aware of follower’s signal or symptom. As it was mentioned in the article, follower or subordinate have difficulty saying the fact to leaders. It is important to be aware of people’s emotion. Also it is not better for leaders to show their emotion every time. As it was claimed at HPR, leader’s mood will affect to followers very much. When leaders are in good mood, surroundings can feel that. On the other hand, when leaders are in bad mood surroundings can also get bad mood. That is why leaders need to control their emotion. When leaders have calm emotion, they can think about the problem and lead the organization to good way.

            I asked my friends what they would think about me if they do not know me. One of my friend told me that she thinks that I am bluntly or dislike her because I did not laugh often at first time we met. I will not surprise about her answer. My other friend told me that I am extremely cautious to my surroundings until I get used to them. Of course I do like my friend and I was not trying to look cold. Also I do not consider that is good thing, so recently I try to be friendly with the person I met for the first time.

I read in other article that says people’s impression will be decided in seven seconds from their first meeting and it takes long time to change that to other impression. Seven second is very short, however first impression will help you to have good relationship with your friends or partners. I expect that being cheerful and giving the positive impression is one of important thing in business and in daily life.

            My other friend told me that he had positive image on me when we first met. I met him after I was told that I looked cold. I tried not to look cold to someone I met for the first time after being told like that. Hearing about his comment, I felt happy about it. It is better to give positive image than to providing negative image on me. I consider if we can have positive image on both of us, it lead us to create good relationship and it is same at business scene.

            My last friend told me that he thought I am very talkative person. On the other hand I have image on her that he is very quiet person. I think he thought I was very talkative because he does not talk so much and I thought he was quiet because I was talking to fill up the silence. I do not mind being silence with him now, however it made me nervous when we first met. I found out from his comment that even if we have opposite character, we sometimes can built good relations.

            To write this article, I asked three friends. Some opinions for me at first sight was unexpected. I felt that getting high number at emotional intelligence need to have training. People cannot always suspect what people feel about yourself correctly. However to have emotional intelligence at business scene will be big advantage to create better relationship. You might be able to build good relationship without emotional intelligence, but if you have it your relationship between your friend or partner will be great one.

Blog post 3

Mao Miwa

9/28/16

Blog post 3

     Which people and experiences in your early life had the greatest impact on you? What are your most deeply held values? What does it mean to be authentic? What about authenticity when leading?         

  Person who gave impact on me was definitely my mother. She is working at TOYOTA related international company and she is full time employee. My mother made comeback to the company when I was two years old. Being little children I spent most of time alone because my parents are both working and they had business trip pretty often and did not came back home until late at night. I felt sometimes lonely when I was child. However, more than that, I am seeing her back for 20 years while she was working and I thought she is most hard worker I have ever met in my life. I learnt so many things from her. Now she is manager of Asia pacific and she is the only woman remaining in her post as full time worker.

                In this LEAD 325 class, I learnt many things about leadership management. For instance, from this week’s reading, I learnt that leaders need to listen and hear the follower and suggest their fear or nervousness. This week’s reading also said that to be open to the follower is important. I am completely agree with that opinion.  Few years ago, my mother’s subordinate had problem with her family issue. She was part time employer and she got her first chance to go to business trip and attend meeting to support my mother in abroad. When that was decided, she was very delighted. However, because of her family issue she could not concentrate on her work. She nearly had made big mistake that nearly ruined deal with other company. Every other male employers were complaining about it to her. Although my mother notice that she might have trouble with something and my mother asked for her to go to eat lunch and listened to her talk. My mother gave advice to her and my mother also told her experience in family. After that conversation she did great job in her work at abroad. She came to our house several times and she sometimes calls to my mother even after she left the company with marriage. My mother and some other subordinate or mother’s colleague still have relation after they retired.  Also I have never seen my mother giving up or compromised on her work. She try to find way to achieve the goal even if the way is tough. After I decided to study in this class, I feel that being good leader and have leadership is not that easy.

                My most deeply held value is not to think that I am doing everything alone when I am working with team. Sometimes it is easy to work or do something all alone without working with teammates. It might finish faster. However it will not create innovative idea or other aspect of the problem. Also if people work alone at team, they cannot notice slight change of teammates or they cannot suspect their feeling. “Work with team”. This is the important value for me.

                The important elements for authentic leader has five. 1. Understanding the purpose clearly. 2. Make action with established sense of values. 3. Lead people with sincerity 4. Create strong human relations. 5. Make self controle. I expect all of these are important and not one of them can be missed. If people keep this in their mind, followers will understand your thought and find out which direction you are trying to go. These five conditions are simple, however it will take time to achieve every five thing written above. Your experience and your story will be very important to create your future management.

Blog post2

Mao Miwa

2016/09/13

Blog post 2

From the article “Stay connected to your purposes” (pg. 6) When in the past three months did you feel most connected to your larger purposes? Describe the moment including where you were, the people with you and what you were doing. What objects could you use or daily or weekly activities you could undertake that would help you connect your everyday life to your purposes? 

Larger purpose that I was connected the most these past months was to get the opportunity to come to study in Boise State University. To be an exchange student, I must take certain score on TOEFL and GPA. Also since I am senior at my university back in Japan, thinking about influence on job hunting some professor was furious about sending me to BSU. I had to negotiate with them. When I decided to get the opportunity studying abroad, my score of TOEFL and GPA was not enough. I needed to set a goal in short term, since the deadline of application was becoming nearer. I set small goals for each month and try to achieve that goal. Also I made time to persuade professors and told them how valuable for for my university and my future to be studying abroad. Finally I could get permission for studying abroad and achieved the studying goal as well. It might sounds like very easy things to achieve when I write simple and easy like this.

However I could not be here without my laboratory professor’s help and advice from my friends who had already studied abroad. When I decided to negotiate with the professors who opposed me to come here, laboratory professor gave me clue how to tell my strength and values to other professors. The way he told me was the exactly same way that was written on “stay connected to your purpose”. We had small talk like looking back my life story and finally I could find out my strength for studying in BSU. Also my friends gave me a lot of clews to negotiate with professors. They went to the professor’s office directly, to ask for making time to negotiate with me. I felt the importance of people who supports you.

I am completely agree with the opinion on the book which says that to have success on the plan, the trustful people is very important to support your plan to be success. When people try to achieve something, it is difficult to do everything by their self. People need other people’s help. Also important thing is that when you ask for people’s help, you need to find someone who can rely on. It will create good teamwork.

The other opinion that I agreed on the book is that to make plan which starts from five years ahead. When I tried to achieve the goal of study abroad, I set two years plan and that worked very well. When you set the plan in five years, good thing is that people can visualize their future clearly and find simple way to achieve the goal. Also people does not have to rush to achieve the goal, so people can think about their aim unhurried in practical way. In fact I set my goal for two years and I could able to visualize the way to achieve my goal and I could find most simple way to get the TOEFL and GPA score.

Visualizing your plan clearly is necessary when you have exact aim to achieve. You can find out how far you are now and shortest distance to achieve the goal. The important thing to achieve your success is to set goal in long term distance and understand yourself that distinguish someone who can trust and be able to help you. Also it is important to reschedule your plan as soon as possible when you need to. Make your move quickly is one of the nearest way to have success on five years planning.