Many men who beg for male chastity prove recalcitrant and - in short - behave badly just so they'll get 'punishment'.
So, the question is...
How to punish a man in chastity?
After all, what can you do to him?
Because...
Give him what he doesn't want.
And the good news is, there are a few of things you can do, all depending on how annoyed you get with him.
They are all something he's really not going to like, but one is a bit more drastic than the others, and it's something I'd recommend only in the extreme.
Punishment #1
Let's get the extreme and least-fun one out of the way first.
It's simply this: give him the key back and refuse to play the game.
In other words, treat him just like you would a child by withdrawing your attention from him.
I guarantee this will bring him into line very quickly.
If he's in chastity then the thought of being allowed free and just left free will stop him dead in his tracks.
But because it's quite an 'unfriendly' thing to do, I'd really do this only if it truly went beyond the pale and he simply wouldn't behave.
I don't expect my husband to be at my beck and call 24/7, even though we are in a female led relationship, although we do practice strict male chastity; but I do expect him to recognise and respect the effort it takes for me to keep him under lock and key and happy with it, and to accept my authority and obey my rules.
Punishment #2
This is the killer - and I can guarantee when you read what it is, you won't think it's punishment at all.
Until you try it on him and see how he reacts.
Then you might just think again.
It's simply this: give him a ruined orgasm.
It's easy: you just make sure his hands are restrained so he can't touch himself and then you treat him to a low, sensuous and Learn more here deliciously torturous tease and denial session.
Only this time you're going to let him orgasm... BUT the instant he begins to orgasm, with the very first spasm, you let go of his penis and give him NO further stimulation whatsoever.
He will buck and moan and groan and beg, but you must NOT touch him.
Now, this is one of the worst things that can happen to a man, because while he gets the post-orgasm letdown, there is NONE of the pleasure normally associated with an orgasm.
He'll be devastated, I promise.
I know this from experience - because my husband, John, occasionally has to suffer ruined orgasms and he gets only one proper one a year.
And if you really want to turn the screws and make it almost unbearable for him, you can give him several ruined orgasms in a row, one after the other. I guarantee, when your man has had three, four, six, ten ruined orgasms in a row, he'll have achning balls and will be on his best behaviour for some considerable time.
Now, if you're sick and tired of the hype and nonsense you read on the 'net about male chastity and orgasm denial, and you're really looking for safe, sane and realistic advice and information, then it makes sense to get it from a genuine 24/7 couple who are living the lifestyle for real, doesn't it?
Punishment #3
More recently, since we have transitioned into a female-led relationship and John is bound by the oath of obedience he gave to me, I have started caning him if he displeases or disobeys me.
Now, John is not one of those men who enjoys this, so it's not a "funishment".
I restrain him on the bench and then cane him hard and without mercy so he understands the error of his ways (a minimum of 36 very hard strokes, and no warm up).
This is perhaps further than some people will want to go, but it works well for us, and it has definitely improved his behaviour all round.
I have been teaching karate for a good 35 years, starting way back in my college days. After receiving my black belt, in 1975, from a well respected and very tough sensei, or teacher, I then taught a very nice karate class of about 20 students, throughout my four years of college.
Many of my students went on to be successful people doctors, lawyers, and scientists. Back then, during the mid 1970's, we had a traditional karate class. Tons of pushups, situps, sparring, kata (formal karate exercises), and all sorts of karate techniques. We used to work out so hard that the windows in the room got totally steamed up. We really broke quite a sweat. Also, we used to run around the campus barefoot in our gi or karate uniform. I specialized in having the class run around our quad of dorms in the middle of the winter with tons of snow on the ground and we were barefoot. It was a great experience we ran about a mile or so.
One of my students stayed with me as a long term friend to this very day. He (Barry) is a very successful business person in Queens, N.Y. Barry used to weigh about 225 pounds back in the 1980's through much of the 1990's. Despite the excessive weight (he is only five feet four), he was still remarkably fast, agile, and also, strong. He was a brown belt in karate (shotokan) for many years, and we worked out a good deal for all of those years 1975-1997 sparring, conditioning, and we also played a lot of tennis. Even with his weight, he got around the tennis court very well.
Then around 1996 or so, Barry decided to get serious. He had always wanted to get his black belt but I told him that, to do that, he would have to lose weight a lot of it. We both agreed that, if he could get down to under 179 pounds (down from 225), that at that point, I would confer the rank of black belt upon him. Of course, all else would be in order he would have to do everything else very, very well kata, all of the karate techniques, and of course, a high level of sparring (kumite). But, losing 50 pounds was also going to be very tough.
At the beginning of 1996, he started we started to work "our" way towards Barry's goal of losing a lot of weight, and, getting into incredible shape. We worked out together a lot. And, our weekly tennis matches got harder because, Barry was losing weight and getting into better and better shape. Six months into the year 1996, Barry was doing 100 pushups at a clip, several hundred situps in a row, doing many kata, and, importantly, losing a good deal of weight. Further, he was eating right low carbs, and higher protein. Of course, he did have a lot of weight to lose to get down to below 180 pounds.
Then, by the end of 1996, around November, he had gotten into great shape. Our tennis matches were extremely competitive, and, he had lost almost all of the weight required for his black belt. By December of 96, he had made it to around 175 pounds!! I could no longer withhold the black belt.
It was near the end of December, 1996, and it was snowing out hard. We went on one of our weekly hikes in the woods, at a park in Suffolk County, New York. After about 1.5 miles, we stopped at a favorite resting place which we call "kata place". There, on that day, back in December, 96, we started to lightly spar a bit then, we exchanged about ten kata first me doing one, then Barry. And, slowly, our session turned into a promotion class where, by the end of it about an hour of karate, I conferred the black belt upon Barry. I had in mind all of that day giving Barry the black belt because he had achieved everything that he that "we" had set out to do. He had lost about 50 pounds, he knew all of his kata very well, his sparring, or kumite was very good power control, and great form. In addition, his karate attitude was excellent that is of course, very important.
The main point of all of this reflection this looking back on a great event is that having a goal was very key to Barry's succeeding. The main goal was to receive the black belt. But, to get there, he set another subgoal that of losing a lot of weight, and getting into correspondingly great shape. By creating that weight loss goal, that made getting the other goal the black belt, something more doable.
Not all goals have to be that lofty you don't have to lose 50 pounds. But you can set a goal of let's say walking a few miles, or perhaps, doing 20 pushups. And, by combining these things with a hobby, such as tennis or racquetball, or jogging, you can get to your final destination your goal, at an even quicker pace.
Of course, when it comes to karate, there is no "final destination". There is no end to what you can achieve, because karate is all about mastering one's self and that is a never ending process.