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Correctly deal with criticismif praise to encourage people received the best gift, then criticized for many people is intolerable, but you'll find that you're lucky, you received praise and criticism is about the same, although we the critics do not want to hear, it is undeniable that there is no criticism to point out errors (especially some major mistakes) often lead to failure in life, we do not want others to our critics are mildly, the key here is that if we correct treatment from others . 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This may be because a stranger relationship with their least, even to negligible proportions. It's also why a man whose reputation for bigger and more care One reason for public evaluation, because reputation to a certain extent, the evaluation stranger may arrive from one extreme to the other extreme - for people who love their reputation, evaluation stranger may theoretically be the most important speaking, almost everyone knows the value of criticism, but the Personality Nike Air Force 1 Unisex All White Shoes real action, to be more difficult to accept criticism there is more difficult - the idea into the corresponding action is never an easy thing, especially for the long-term through 'Getting ideas from operations 'The evolution of humans, especially, although humans seems to be the most' advanced 'of animals. Growing up, everyone will experience a period of' one of the main features of the rebellious 'period is the parents' refusal to accept criticism, even Criticism confrontational with their parents. This is not a bad child, from an evolutionary perspective, it is access to 'independent thinking' ability of a necessary and indispensable stage. However, at this stage too long, and even extends to the length of life , is clearly inappropriate, unsuitable for a normal human evolutionary phenomenon. Almost all adults will be after a certain age have such feelings 'So they (elders) said is really very reasonable, If I had known like ...... ', and then for many in the past who they think are' cliche '' cliche 'something to identify with. Sometimes these people are too vulnerable, and ultimately succumbed to social pressure, hard life, so accepted 'Everyone for himself and devil take the hindmost', 'moral place on both sides of the middle put the word profit,' like the bastard concept; but more often, adulthood tend to reflect on the past is really just avoid refute, reject criticism remorse. In normal circumstances, work in the opposite criticism from the leadership point of view may be the most valuable, but almost 99% of cases, people will refuse to accept the criticism through a variety of ways. 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In the long term, if such a person is really the ultimate opportunity to learn about themselves because they refused to accept the criticism and the loss of what words (in fact, The probability of this happening is minimal, because it is precisely because he did not know how to reflect on rejected criticism), then he will be like that for many years after the discovery of parents say it makes sense, like being too late. Communication is the cost huge, education is expensive. Parents have compulsory child, but a lot of time, leadership must under no obligation to achieve good educational outcomes through patient communication. Parents and children is no way to cut off blood relationship, leaders are most likely to By means of avoiding dismissal sunk costs constantly increase their parents aim is to make children happy life in peace, leadership goal is certainly not a priority to take care of the interests of an individual, learn to accept criticism was supposed to be a normal person should have common sense fishes, for various reasons such basic common sense is that most people just do not have. That is why, whenever a team leader can succeed most hated (no one) is experiencing team members refuse to accept criticism, mistakes kept excuse, even for all were 'errors in the end', 'the error rationalization' effect (the most common is the direct result of the so-called 'cliques'). Sometimes we will because an event (often because of their own too shocked) and changed dramatically, instantaneously from one extreme to another extreme leap; but more often, we must complete a meaningful change through their own struggle to accept criticism. really not easy, but it really is to get rid of self-limitation of maturity must be a fairly simple method to set their own iron rule: when it came to criticism, at least not to explain within three days, and during the three days. Within, force yourself not to think about how to defend, not to think, 'What I'm really doing wrong?', but think about the 'first assumed I was really wrong, so I have this 'mistake' cause what adverse effects? 'and then spend the time to consider,' In addition to the adverse impact on my own, for others, especially for the team, what kind of cause adverse effects? 'In most cases, the majority of people but he refused to ponder it, and therefore feel that 'they simply 2015 Latest Nike Shoes could not do anything wrong'; in fact, just spend a little time and effort (in fact, basically do not need three days, even without three hours, even three minutes will bring Air Jordan 19 huge difference), you will quickly find yourself many impropriety. In rare cases, after careful reflection, he found himself really been misunderstood. But even so, is not the first choice to justify, the first choice is still a reflection :? 'What exactly am I doing wrong, so I will be New Nike Kids Jordan 1 Black Yellow Sneakers misunderstood and even' the only way to effectively find their own way of expression, of the misinterpretation of the behavior patterns among vulnerable, so it can be self-correcting, so that next time really not be misunderstood. In a sense, 'Long live the understanding' is a silly naive slogan, because no one is obligated (although occasionally someone will be willing for some reason) have to spend a lot of time and energy trying from different perspective to understand another person - in most cases, is a fixed pattern of human thinking, which is a means that we must learn in order to survive and have to simplify the vast majority of cases, mature. people did not need to know how to defend. If he really wrong, so why argue? just wants to correct. If they are really right, words to justify what is the use? truly effective, meaningful and sustained action is to use the excuse , time to time to prove their right to defend themselves, obviously a waste of time;. to justify to others, but in fact will eventually evolve into complain (people find that they are useless when a strong desire inevitably produce), or waste time to accept criticism, reject excuse, there is another advantage is the ability to automatically avoid some silly detractors. In real life, really is not all criticism from others is valuable, it does not have so much time and effort to seriously deal with each criticism from others. However, the 'refusal excuse' strategy to make themselves from all angles not a waste of time, but let time go (automatically) examine the value of those criticisms. A good habit is paper records a variety of criticism, then often (even if occasionally you like) out to reflect on the benefits of doing so is that 1) can reduce the impact on sentiment from the maximum extent possible; 2) avoid to become 'deliberately forgetting error' diet; then there is a possibility of additional unexpected benefits: 3) criticizing your man certainly has its purpose, as time slowly flowing, constantly reflect on your own, the real purpose of those who will slowly clear to emerge, so you will have to exercise their resolution criticized the quality of opportunities skill. Perhaps it is because of this, there are so many people end stop 'Shaoyueduozuo' is the real advantage of the policy through their own way .