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woman In the car symbolizes improve the quality of life today, Ms. Dai's
experience is a bit different, she says she's happy life is a car wreck. From
the car entered the house, she and her husband quarrel constantly, followed her
husband having an affair, and then followed her husband filed for divorce. "The
car is not always bring happiness, for me, it brings a disaster." Ms. Dai said.
Ms. Dai readme: My husband and I have been married for 14 years, her daughter
are 13 years old this year. To talk about me all these years of marriage, but
also with a lot of ordinary people, nothing exciting, mundane, day after day,
more and smell a trace of romance and love in the air. Her husband is a teacher,
I work in the private sector, I am working pressure much larger than he, things
at home stands to reason that he should assume more more Casual その他
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But he is one of those "poured soy sauce will not help," the man, weekdays,
children's education, chores, he almost threw me not care. This attitude to him,
although I had so many years used to it, but once encountered when tired or
upset, or will inevitably towards him complain, my husband and I quarrel between
the majority also caused by these household chores. I had to marry her husband
when he saw honest, honest, and is a very reliable person. After marriage, he is
also true, if the complaining few times, and reprove him a few words, he
generally will not say anything. Others say, my husband was listening to my
words, I also secretly proud of this too. But I did not think how, on his way an
honest man, but in middle age when people make is unexpected move. He first
proposed to buy a car, I was strongly opposed. Because my family now live only
Liangshiyiting, I think it should be saving to buy a house, then consider
enjoyment. But he will insist on buying a car, I did not stop the repeated
firing his decision. One day, he went so far as an Elantra open back. This is
the marriage for so many years, the first time he did not agree with my one
"big." This is what had me furious! Previously, I do not have to pay his monthly
living expenses, books by his own custody. Since buying a car, I must ask him to
give me the book, he even refused to do so, because after buying the car cost
more than that. We quarreled for this car many times, but he refused to concede
defeat every time a look. Once I had shortness of breath scolded him: "useless,
money man what car to buy it!" Afterwards he was silent, walked out the door
away, later on I am more cold. I admit, to the forty-something age, a woman a
little repetitious, and sometimes will inevitably temper temper, but he really
is getting outrageous. Once, I cook, the temporary little something downstairs,
came back a door to smell something burning in the kitchen, and he actually has
been in the living room watching TV, have reason to ignore ベビー
! Things at
home he was not to worry about, such a person I really disappointing to the
extreme. Marriage, plain no problem, but I found more and more trouble. A few
months ago, her husband obsessed with the Internet. I want to go with him began
to love whom they chat on whom to chat, than to quarrel with me strong.
Unexpectedly, he was such an honest man, even online dating huh! I peeked his
chats and found him with a woman often in online dating. Woman is a doctor, has
been divorced, see the contents of their talk, the two sides seem to have moved
the truth, the light mobile phone text messages per month her husband had more
than 30 yuan of money, this is my husband secretly check telephone bills found.
I later learned that her husband checked his bill bill, anti-I even in Fangzei,
regard the mobile phone with the toilet inside, refused to let me see it. These
things at the beginning, I told my husband desperately trouble, but he hardly be
ignored. To sleep at night, he and my distance, I will not even touch him again.
Later I found out that things seriously, and want to restore, but it seems it
was too late. He finally ran away from home, drove the car to move the school to
live. Home, his daughter, and me, he seemed dead set all do not. Stiff after
some time, he asked me for a divorce, and said if I did not agree to a divorce,
they go to court to sue emotional breakdown. In this way, my happiness was a car
wreck it. To a middle-aged woman, who do not want to live again been a turmoil,
I do not know how their marriage, the disease where there is room for saving and
necessary? After listening to Ms. Dai's talk, senior instructor of marriage and
family, Guangdong Guanjie Lawyer Hou Lin believes that Ms. Dai's marriage is
born "disease" was. But Ms. Dai wreck a happy life is not a car, not her husband
"refused to concede defeat the way", but for many years to form her own
"psychological sense of superiority." Ms. Dai and her husband have together
spent 14 years during life seemingly "dull", but this plain is full of
harmonious married life, the outsider, is actually a very enviable. Narrative
from Ms. Dai, we can see: Ms. Dai's husband, "honest, honest, and is a very
reliable person," she has to be able to have him "like an honest man and
secretly proud of too." Therefore, it should be said Ms. Dai and her husband
emotional foundation is very good. Have such emotional foundation, we can
understand why, when Ms. Dai's husband by his wife's complaints and chatter when
not mute it. In fact, this is precisely because Ms. Dai's husband out of love
with his wife and his family's sake. Normally, we often hear people Joking
certain henpecked, in fact, a husband, "fear" my wife is from the heart because
the husband loves his wife, he is unwilling to provoke angry and upset his wife,
will follow his wife. It does not matter if you do not love her, afraid of it.
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. Dai's husband did not go through his wife's consent, make
their own decision to buy a car will lead to marital relations became tense of
it? Accordance with the "marital relationship theory" and "the role of control
between spouses and mutual responsibility theory" analysis, Ms. Dai is home to
"get used to control people." In this family model where the husband and wife,
family things, usually by the wife to make a decision. Over time, the one that
used to make a decision, it can not stand each other slowly become an
independent individual other than its own. She fatally consider each other's
preferences and values. Even the other tone of voice, behavior and details of
life will be transformed according to their expectations. There's even one of
the spouses will be your favorite style style forcible indoctrination to each
other, ask to accept and go according to their own style of acting required UGG
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. Ms. Dai think money should first they now live Bedroom
house into a large number, and then go to "enjoy." In fact, this is just their
own values. And have been "poor," the greater part of her husband might think,
the home has been housing, if additions cars, family life will therefore be more
colorful and holidays family travel, would not carefree happy indeed? In fact
both the desire and motivation are good. The key issue is that this decision
should be by whom. Have become accustomed to their own home, big or small see
shots of Ms. Dai's husband has always been honest and obedient, even
unexpectedly given a free hand to buy a car. Psychological sense of superiority
and control habits by the "challenge", desperation, a "useless, money man
......" seriously hurt the husband's self-esteem. Married life process, if the
existence of such circumstances for the purpose dominates the other, love will
ultimately doom of no return. If there are parties who stress and promote their
sense of superiority with respect to each other, the result can only hurt each
other's value. Finally inevitably lead to their original worship, love each
other's good intention of hitting the wall, counterproductive. Insist to
manipulate the things they can not control, insist on their own to force the
other side to obey, love sooner or later inadvertently slipping away UGG
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. Because often exhausted at the same time do the other side,
of course, make their own and each other at every turn misgivings, over time,
even the best feelings will degenerate. "Heart disease need to treat the heart,"
understand these, Ms. Dai should know how to make up a rift between husband and
wife. In fact, any of a marriage, it is impossible in the course of what is not
out of the question. One or both spouses in the event of differences and
conflicts, it should be rationally treat each other, strengthen communication
and exchanges, to exercise restraint and inclusive approach of mutual
understanding, mutual understanding, the feelings between husband and wife would
not have a major rift. Emotional needs mutual understanding feelings of love
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