Your partner has just ended your relationship. It's all over and the heartache almost makes you physically sick. You don't want anything anymore, you don't want to see sax toy for female and your self-esteem has taken a big hit. What can you do to recover from it? How do you mend a broken heart and get over your ex, so you can feel better and be yourself again?
Sax Toy for Man: What exactly is a "broken heart"?
In common parlance, someone who is heartbroken is someone who has experienced heartbreak. This grief can literally be painful and make you feel like you are in pieces, that you are no longer whole or whole. For many, a breakup is considered one of the worst types of pain. Even if physically everything is fine*, having a broken heart translates into a reaction in the brain. When our hearts are 'broken', the same areas of the brain activate as when we feel physical pain. Furthermore, a breakup, the loss of a friendship or an unrequited love can have such an emotional impact that they can cause the same type of symptoms as depression or trauma (post-traumatic stress or PTSD).
* Medically speaking, there is indeed a broken heart syndrome. It is a disease of the heart muscle where the lower part of the heart suddenly stops contracting properly, causing symptoms similar to those of a heart attack. It can be the result of acute emotional stress, such as a breakup.
Symptoms of heartache
Feeling of gloom and sadness
Irritability
Mood swings
Sleeping troubles
Desire to do nothing
Fatigue
Little or too much appetite
Anger, resentment or resentment
Sax Toyes: What to do when your heart is broken?
When you're in heartbreak, you feel like you're covered in a dark blanket. You would so like not to feel what you feel. Sometimes you even feel like you've lost all hope or you're afraid you can't survive without each other. How to feel better and be yourself again? Although a broken heart takes time to heal and you really have to go through the grieving process, there are definitely things you can do to better cope with your heartbreak!
1. Cut off all contact
For some, this is probably the most obvious way to get rid of heartache. Remove the bandage from the wound in one fell swoop and cut all ties with your ex. Stop calling each other, texting each other, and make sure to return all of his stuff. After all, anything that reminds you of your ex only fuels desire, which in turn keeps you from healing.
It is a fact ! Research shows that immediately severing contact is the best way to recover from a broken heart as quickly as possible.
2. Writing therapy
Cutting off all contact won't magically make your grief go away. The wounds need to heal and, during the grieving process, you will be confronted with different feelings: anger, fear, sadness, denial, but also relief and finally acceptance. Write about it, including the positives of ending this relationship.
3. Get busy
Don't stay locked up in your house or under your duvet for days, moping around. Get active, go out, do fun things with your friends, and stick to your daily routine as much as possible. In this way, despite the sadness, you also experience pleasant things that will allow you to feel good again little by little.
4. Focus on your health
Appetite is one of the things that can be severely affected during a broken heart. Some people tend to turn to junk food, others lose their appetite and lose all desire to exercise. Yet, this is precisely when a healthy lifestyle is important! What you eat affects not only your physical condition, but also your mind. Limit alcohol and caffeine and add healthy carbs, fiber and protein to your diet. Sport also contributes enormously to good mental health. It is not without reason that walking or jogging therapy is becoming more and more popular these days.
Tip: In addition to sufficient exercise and a nutritious diet, a good night's sleep is at least as important for your "healing".
5. Pretend to be recovered until you really are
In psychology, we sometimes hear about the notion in English of “fake it 'til you make it” which could be translated as “Pretend until you get there”. The principle is as follows: behave like someone who feels good and is worth gold, even if you feel the exact opposite. You will find that over time it will get easier and easier for you, until you really start to feel good and have good self-esteem. Focus on a positive future. Tell yourself positive things every day until you really believe them.
6. Change works wonders!
A breakup is literally a page that turns. You are starting a new chapter in your life, without your ex, but you are surely opening yourself up to many new positive experiences and new people. To really turn the page on this relationship, it can help to change your surroundings so that you're not constantly reminded of the life you shared together. It doesn't always happen consciously. Sometimes you are unconsciously confronting your ex. For example, the places you both often went to, the dishes you ate together or the series you watched together. You can manipulate your brain by not exposing it to these associations. Change your interior, take a different bike route home or listen to different music.
Do you notice that after these tips, you are still very affected by your heartache? In this case, you can also call a professional. In some cases, trauma therapy such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) appears to be very effective in neutralizing the pain of a broken heart. Consult your doctor for advice and to find out if it is possible to contact a psychologist.
Have you ever suffered from heartbreak? How did you recover from a broken heart? Tell us about your experience in a comment below!