Anal sex is one of the most exciting and pleasurable forms of sex. But if you've never tried it, the very idea may dampen your enthusiasm. For some people, anal sex is synonymous with pain. But this is by no means necessary, quite the contrary. VIVA AWA' advice: lots of patience, confidence and lots of lube can make your first experience unforgettable.
1. Malayalam Sex Masala: Talk about it
The most important aspect of anal sex is communication. A new source of pleasure can be incredibly exciting, but can also be terrifying if you don't talk about it openly. Take the time to discuss it in pairs to see if you are both open to the idea and talk about your wishes, your desires and your feelings about the experience. If you're scared, uncomfortable, or eager to try, you need to tell him. Do not impose your desires on your partner and give him time to get used to the idea. We also recommend that you do not agree on a particular time when you are going to try, as this can cause some apprehension. Let things happen naturally!
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Mallu Masala Sex: Find out about the subject
Reading a book about sodomy and anal sex in general is a sexy way to learn about the practice. If you understand English, a great book to check out is Anal Sex Tips for Guys and Girls by Angelicka Wallows. She describes her own experiences and gives you many tips for practicing anal sex in a safe way and in a way that both of you enjoy it.
2. Start slow
The first rule of anal sex is to relax, relax, and relax. If you go too fast, the consequences can be very painful. Arm yourself with all the necessary patience. An hour, a few days, weeks or even months: it will take as long as it takes. Start by stimulating your anus, which you can do in different ways.
Tamil Masala Sex: Always use lubricant
Lubricant is truly essential to any form of anal stimulation. Your anus doesn't naturally lubricate like the vagina does, which makes penetration more difficult. The use of lubricant is therefore essential. Be sure to use a product with a thicker consistency; there are lubricants specifically designed for anal sex. If you're worried about pain, you can also use an anal relaxing spray.
Hindi Masala Sex: Massage the anus
- Coat your finger and/or anus with saliva or lubricant and start massaging it gently. Make sure your nails are well trimmed to avoid any unpleasant mishaps.
- You can, for example, make small circular movements with your finger. Another option is to “reassure” the anus by tickling the sphincter with your tongue, this is called rimming.
- When you massage the anus, you will notice that it contracts as soon as you touch it. It is a natural and completely normal reaction of the body. The more you massage it, the more the sphincter of the anus relaxes.
Once you feel more relaxed and think you're ready, you can try slowly inserting your finger. Pay attention to your partner's body language. Grimaces often reflect some pain.
3. Sex toys for anal foreplay
If you don't like using your fingers or are afraid of hurting your partner with your finger (nail), you can also use a sex toy such as a thin anal dildo. You can also use a vibrator as the vibrations relax the sphincter and make the experience all the more enjoyable. Another alternative is to use an anal plug.
Desi Masala Sex: Our recommendations
Always be careful to use a sex toy specially designed for the anus. Indeed, they have a wider base to prevent the toy from entering entirely and getting lost. Surely you have heard of stories of people having to go to the hospital because an object was… stuck. Surely you don't want to find yourself in this situation!
Before you even consider inserting anything into your partner's anus, you need to make sure (and reassure your partner) that the sex toy in question is thin. And no matter what toy you choose, don't skimp on the lube. It's best to opt for an anal toy with a soft exterior (like silicone) and a hard interior. They are more comfortable than hard exterior sex toys and easier to insert than soft sex toys.
Anal vibrator
An anal vibrator is a vibrating sex toy specially designed for anal insertion. We highly recommend the Real Deal vibrator from You2Toys. It has a slightly tapered end and its diameter is only 2.5 centimeters, which means that it will be relatively easy to insert. Give the sphincter time to get used to the vibrations by holding the vibrator pressed against your anus for a little while. Then, insert the device gently.
Good anal
If the vibrations are too much for you, you can also try an anal dildo. The Beaded Cone anal dildo from the EasyToys Online Only collection, for example, is an excellent choice. It is made up of different pearls of increasing sizes. It allows you to stretch the anus little by little and at your own pace. Indeed, you can see what your limits are and what works best for your partner. You don't need to insert it all the way in if you can't. You can stop halfway. In addition, the base of the vibrator is wide enough so don't worry, it won't fit completely.
Shower anal
An anal douche is a handy tool that cleans your anus before having anal sex or using an anal toy. All you have to do is fill the shower with warm water, insert the nozzle into the anus and squeeze the bulb until it is empty. Remove the nozzle, keep the water inside your body as best you can and then sit on the toilet to release it all. So! Now you can enjoy your anal experience without any worries.
prostate stimulator
The prostate is a very sensitive part and its stimulation can lead to intense orgasms. However, it is not always easy to reach with your fingers, but fortunately there are prostate stimulators to help you. There are different types of prostate stimulators, including vibrators, butt plugs, and vibrating eggs. Some also have additional stimulation options such as perineal stimulators and rotating beads for rimming.
4. Let's get down to business: trying anal sex for the first time
If you take your time with anal foreplay, things will be much smoother and more enjoyable. No matter how much lube you use during foreplay, you'll need to apply liberally again for the actual penetration. Whether you're getting penetrated by your partner or by a strap-on, you should always make sure to use a sufficient amount of lube.
Get started
The key to a successful first anal experience is to start slowly. The anus is not really made for penetration, so you have to take it little by little and continue to reassure each other. If you're the one penetrating, let your partner tell you how deep you can go and how much force to use. Stop immediately if either of you feel uncomfortable. You can always start over later. If one of you needs to stop after just a few minutes, that's no problem. You just have to try again later.
Don't forget the hygiene rules
Sir, never go from the anus to the vagina or from the anus to the mouth without first washing your penis. Bacteria (from the stool) spread easily and can make you sick or cause a bladder infection. Also, remember that “brown accidents” can happen. This is completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of.