So she said that, to heal is to experience the opposite.
To heal from unrequited love, is to be loved.
If you’ve had bonding issues with your mother, if you couldn’t get the love and comfort you needed when you were a child, and that is affecting you today, find love. Be loved. Find someone that will love you. (Or maybe love yourself?)
I have totally suffered from loss of love and comfort from my mother and father.
I needed to be loved, to be recognized at least. I was desperate so I did a lot of things to try to get my mother’s attention. I tried my best to be a good girl, to be the kid that she wanted me to be. That she would be proud to show off to the other mothers.
I looked after my siblings not just because I loved them but also because I wanted my mother to recognize me, to look at me, I wanted to prove to her my worth. That I’m your good girl.
But to get to the bottom line, she never ever looked at me. So to this day, she doesn’t know anything about me. She doesn’t know that my finger nails are really small. She doesn’t know that I dont really like chocolate. She doesn’t know that I’m queer, maybe transgender. She doesn’t know that I’m suffering from attachment issues. She doesn’t know that it’s too late. She doesn’t know that I don’t need her attention anymore. She doesn’t know what she’s done to me. She doesn’t know that she is mentally damaged.
I now know someone that will love me and support me. ME!
I can love myself now. I love myself now.
I know how to love myself, I can hug myself, I can root for myself.
I’m not my enemy.
I got all the love I need, I don’t need it from my mother anymore. It’s too late, and I know she wont give me the love I need anyway.
Her love is never unconditional.
So to heal from this situation, I will be loved, by me. And my 5 year old child