It's human nature to want to fit in with others.
But it is okay to be diferent if that makes you happy.
All the girls around me are getting married, and they always follow this sequential steps of going for overseas wedding photoshoots, planning for their wedding at a hotel function room, and moving into their new homes.
But I don't want a photoshoot, I don't want a wedding where everyone comes and congratulate you for getting married. Will you celebrate my divorce too? I felt pressured because everyone else is doing the same, and asking me when I'll be either holding my wedding, or doing my wedding shoot or whatever norms associated with getting married.
And it made me question why did I even get myself into this in the first place.
I think it's cringe-worthy to look into each other's eyes and smile. Eww. Sorry but I can't do that. No matter with who. Unless I'm an actress and you're paying me to act. I don't want to walk down the damn aisle with cheesy music playing and people clapping. I don't want an 8-course dinner just for face value.
I wish there could be someone to tell me that I don't have to do all these if I don't want to, but there is no one I can talk to. So let me tell anyone who is still reading this space, that it's okay to not follow what others are doing, and just go for what you want. It is hard to swim against the current, but what comes after the struggle is the achievement that you made it happen on your own. After all, what is life without ups and downs?
Life is meant to be a little hard, only then will we appreciate the sweetness it sometimes brings.